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Going to have to back up Nix here, he's clearly not a remotely malicious poster and if you are any sort of forum regular you should be able to identify such obvious forum banter - regardless, if anyone wants to know why I lace almost every single post of mine with the tongue smiley, this is it!

He's said sorry to the extent that he needs to.

On topic, yes, thick skin is needed to make the best of being here. Don't be overly argumentative, don't insult, be polite... just don't be a giant goob basically :D
 
I offended someone with a quip I'd made as a bit of banter and got suspended for it. I absolutely refused to apologise for it because I thought it was just a case of the mods being ****y and the person it was directed at hadn't taken it badly (it appeared they hadn't). Until I learned that the individual it was directed at had taken it personally. So I apologised as it wasn't meant as a personal attack. I mean, if I have a problem with someone and am issuing a personal attack, I'll just call them a ****. But I get that my delivery can sometimes come across deadpan and quips appear to be malicious when they're not.
 
Castiel said:
To apologise would simply imply that you were sorry that BTR was upset by what was an unintentional offence.

The nonsense about showing maturity and showing him disrespect and a dis-service by refusing to accept the unintentional consequence of what you said is just a evasive tactic because you (and I though better of you) don't seem to have the strength of character to say sorry. If you accidental bump into someone do you refuse to apologise simply because it was unintentional?

Is it really that difficult to say "Sorry mate, I meant no offence"....is it?
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Perspective.

Go back to the incident. I immediately clarified, that's as far as I had to go. The lack of strength of character is complete rubbish. I apologise if and when I see the need. This is certainly not the case.

I'd appreciate it if you saw enough sense to let this go now.
 
OK this is getting boring now. At the end of the day, we all know Nix means no harm by what he is saying, he is one of the posters who we all get on with, although would be a good idea to drop him an e-mail to sort this out instead of talking about it in here.

Yes BTR may have overreacted a little, but he has been getting rather a lot of uncalled for abuse lately which needs to stop as he is a good guy, and the slightest thing has pushed him over the edge, it happens to everybody.
 
Castiel said:
Quite.

It should have been, Nix posts something he thinks is harmless fun,

Bring the Rain takes it the wrong way,

so Nix says "Sorry mate, didn't mean it like that",

Bring the Rain says "Thanks Nix, no problem, I'm just feeling a bit off today".

That should have been it.
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Nix said:
Perspective.

Go back to the incident. I immediately clarified, that's as far as I had to go. The lack of strength of character is complete rubbish. I apologise if and when I see the need. This is certainly not the case.

I'd appreciate it if you saw enough sense to let this go now.
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Are you implying that I have no sense?;)

Your perfective seems a little skewed....and of course it is not very nice being badgered for something you deem trivial but others may not. Don't you think.:p

Seriously, While I accept that the post was trivial and meant little, I cannot understand your reticence to simply accept the consequences of your post, instead of trying to justify not giving what would have been a simple apology between friends for what was an unintentional slight taken out of the context in which it was meant.

Call me old fashioned, but it just seems like good manners.

Anyway, as you request I shall let it lie. (Seems I may have a modicum of sense afterall...who'd have thought!..;))
 
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Anyone remember waffles? He's wreaking havoc in the latest deals section and bringing zombie threads back to life.
 
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