Family Values and eating at the table..
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What happens if you take a girl out for dinner?
Work function / business lunch?
Wedding?
Christmas party?
You can't just sit there and scowl at people
Oh can't I?
I don't eat at the table with anyone any more. I found I was increasingly disgusted by the way other people ate their food. Chewing with mouth open, especially makes my stomach turn.
Also these days I find being in such close proximity as you are at the meal table invades my personal space and makes me feel uncomfortable.
So now I eat away from everybody else at my computer
I think it is very important to sit at the table every night, we have done this with our kids Except fot the odd 'carpet pickick' night which once in a blue more or 'carpet pizza' it's a lot of fun you should try it
BTW my kids are 4 and 6 so they love 'carpet picknick'
BTW my kids are 4 and 6 so they love 'carpet picknick'
Sit down dinner/Family get together sort of thing
As long as people can understand a post it doesn't really matter how grammatically correct it is. And no I'm not a trolley pusher.
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But you're 29, there is no excuse good enough to excuse typing like that.
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The british are obsessed with SEEMING to be doing the proper thing, if its right or not.
How is talking at dinner a value, or valuable to a family in any way at all. Spending time with family is invaluable, spending it at a table chewing and swallowing has zero relevance in this, nothing, at all, its actually pretty ridiculous anyone thinks the "meal" and sitting at the same table is somehow "good".
I talk with my family, we spend time together, we don't need to have a routine and like so many other families spend 15 minutes together eating then all go off to separate rooms to do separate things.
We do sit down for supper, quite often, but not every night, not even really that close, and we quite often eat in different places, on our own or just a couple of us maybe watching TV in the other room.
Routine is incredibly important for kids, spending time, being sociable with your family is important, hearing about your kids problems and helping fix them, or helping them to fix them is important.......... what any of thats got to do with a meal I have no clue. Sure those things can all happen over a meal, but they could happen, sitting watching the footie, or gardening, or really any time.
Never really had them in my family, not to say that I come from a broken home or we just had take away food. Quite on the contrary actually, but my parents did have busy lifestyles so eating together wasn't always possible. May explain why I'm not that comfortable having sit down meals outside the house.
My upbringing was .. well .. less than structured or happy, so we NEVER done that. I'm 31 now and even as my house have a beautiful large dining table, it never gets used apart from Christmas day when everyone (well, my ex's family) came round and we ate there.
Usually I stand in the kitchen eating or sit in my room and eat. Last time I had a sit-down dinner with a group of people when I met the family of a girl I was briefly seeing. Was nice.
Usually I stand in the kitchen eating or sit in my room and eat. Last time I had a sit-down dinner with a group of people when I met the family of a girl I was briefly seeing. Was nice.
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Not sure where this notion that the dinner table is the only time you can get together as a family comes from, along wtih the idea if that if you don't do it, your morals/values are wrong.
Do you guys not spend time with your family at any point other than when you are busy eating?
Do you guys not spend time with your family at any point other than when you are busy eating?
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I think the idea is that it's symptomatic of a larger problem. Eating together is, all things considered, a fairly easy way to all be together, so if people aren't doing that, then it's not a big leap for them to be barely seeing each other at all.
But you're still linking eating and family time/values together, when in reality there's no relation other than it's someting some people do.
All it's doing is highlighting the fact that people need an excuse to have family time, and eating time is happens to be that excuse a lot of the time.
It's completely ridiuclous to even suggest that a family not eating together means they're not far away from barely seeing eachother, showing again that you seem to think it's linked together for no reason other than "It's the done thing", which in itself is a very "British" thing, "it's just what you do" and all that.
There's no problem at all with a nice dinner with family members, but I think it's ridiculous that some people are linking eating with the family, to family values, it's completely arbitrary.
I think some people are foolishly thinking "in my experience, families eat together, it was nice, there must be something wrong with those that don't".
Social and family values aren't the same thing though, and despite the fact that it's been done for so long, the fact that some don't doesn't mean there's some sort of lack of values. People are imposing their own importance of family meals on others and judging them by it, which is ridiculous, no one is arguing that there's a problem with family meals.
What? That is absolutely not a British thing. Haha
I'm surprised at how extreme the sides are in this topic. Just because you don't all eat together doesn't mean that you all hate each other, and if you do it's not like that's the only time you spend together either
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What? That is absolutely not a British thing. Haha
I'm surprised at how extreme the sides are in this topic. Just because you don't all eat together doesn't mean that you all hate each other, and if you do it's not like that's the only time you spend together either
That's based on the reactions of some of the people claiming you have no family values if you don't eat together, or that the family is close to barely seeing eachother, just on the basis of eating together, which I'm sure you'll agree is completely ridiculous.
Living on the farm, atleast 12 of us on sunday, 5-6 any other day.... Big long table, happy times.
Reguardless how you draw it out, they be times special for me, i miss that dearly.
That being said though, we all get brought up with a wealth of differing expierences, there is no right or wrong, values that might not be gained from a collective round a dinner table can easily be gained through personal relationships or other activity.
Reguardless how you draw it out, they be times special for me, i miss that dearly.
That being said though, we all get brought up with a wealth of differing expierences, there is no right or wrong, values that might not be gained from a collective round a dinner table can easily be gained through personal relationships or other activity.