Are you Homophobic?

wannabedamned · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:33

Gays > Homophobes

DefiantAsh · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:33

No Homo

wannabedamned · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:35

jp_bl_68 said:
The last time it happened I was asked me if I wanted to accompany him to a secluded alleyway where he would perform certain favours for me. By that point I was feeling quite threatened by him.

Did you say no? I always find that is the best approach when you dont want to do something.

Nitefly · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:39

OldCoals said:
I bet there are women who have felt uncomfortable when you have been eyeing them up.

Probably. I don't really know what point you are trying to make through.

Temi_D · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:42

Does finding the acts disgusting = homophobe?

mjt · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:42

Of course not.
I'm not a small-minded bigot.

jp_bl_68 · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:42

wannabedamned said:
Did you say no? I always find that is the best approach when you dont want to do something.

I said no but I still felt very uneasy.

Tombstone · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:43

I'm not homophobic, some of my best friends are men.

Castiel · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:44

wannabedamned said:
Did you say no? I always find that is the best approach when you dont want to do something.

Not all take no for an answer however. This is more prevalent with men than women, thus gay men (not all) have this inability to just sod off when you you say NO!

Danthus · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:45

Temi_D said:
Does finding the acts disgusting = homophobe?

Some of those "acts" can be performed by heterosexual couples.

Castiel · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:46

OldCoals said:
Some of those "acts" can be performed by heterosexual couples.

And as long as he finds them equally disgusting he cannot be a homophobe. A prude perhaps, but not a homophobe.

OpenToSuggestions · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:49

Being homosexual goes against the sole reason you are alive, which is to reproduce.

I am not homophobic but if the person acts normally then I don't really care. I do care when they have a soft wufty voice and mince when they walk - Luckily this is a minority of them.

I have to say, I have the Not-In-My-Back-Yard view. This means I know people do it, but keep it to yourselves and away from me.

Nitefly · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:51

I guess it boils down to the literal meaning of the word and the common use of the word.

Homophobe would imply someone that dislikes homosexual activities. But when we use it we tend to imply some element of discrimination or anger against those that are homosexuals.

I imagine many of us would rather not watch homosexual men kiss, but that does not means we discriminate or have anything against them.

lukefinch · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:52

Panzerbjorn said:
What I would say is I'm probably 'campaphobic'. There's something about camp blokes (heterosexual or homosexual) that winds me up.

E.g. I don't mind Graham Norton but I can't watch Alan Carr.

I really can't stand the Arts and Culture correspondent on Channel 4 news.

This.

Castiel · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:55

Nitefly said:
I guess it boils down to the literal meaning of the word and the common use of the word.

Homophobe would imply someone that dislikes homosexual activities. But when we use it we tend to imply some element of discrimination or anger against those that are homosexuals.

I imagine many of us would rather not watch homosexual men kiss, but that does not means we discriminate or have anything against them.

Indeed. As many a homosexual is keen to point out, we cannot help how we feel.

1LANCS · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:56

mglover070588 said:
Being homosexual goes against the sole reason you are alive, which is to reproduce.

I am not homophobic but if the person acts normally then I don't really care. I do care when they have a soft wufty voice and mince when they walk - Luckily this is a minority of them.

I have to say, I have the Not-In-My-Back-Yard view. This means I know people do it, but keep it to yourselves and away from me.

Nonsense like this annoys me.

Why do you care if someones camp? look away and walk away problem solved its not like they are going to jump on you and rape you. Gays are like straights, there are all types, would you feel the same about a camp straight guy?

Why do gays have to stay away from you, if you saw a straight couple walking down the street holding hands i bet you a million quid no one would bat an eyelid, but if it was two guys holding hands they would get looks and abuse, why the double standard?

Also gays can have kids too, there are other ways than the 'correct' way.

OpenToSuggestions · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:56

Castiel said:
Indeed. As many a homosexual is keen to point out, we cannot help how we feel.

Surely that also means people cannot help their dislikes for them too?

Efour · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:57

Nope not in the slightest.

Still find gay and racist jokes very funny. I have a very immature sense of humour. Odddly I also am not keen on Hugely overt camp people, but am a bit camp myself sometimes.

Seems i hate myself and have deep issues.

britboy4321 · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:58

I'm not homophobic.

Even been chatted up a couple of times by men .. just 'no thanks mate' but still carry on talking to them if they're interesting people ..

BUT when playing LFD2 and my mates are going to slowly or being somehow retarded, I will regularly say over the mic they're 'playing like a gay' over skype. The phrase is so common I don't even think of homosexuality when I say it .. its more a 'generic insult'. Hard to explain ..

Nitefly · 17 Jul 2011 at 11:59

britboy4321 said:
I'm not homophobic.

Even been chatted up a couple of times by men .. just 'no thanks mate' but still carry on talking to them if they're interesting people ..

Curious!

I think gay as an insult over the next 50 years is going to be seen as more and more unacceptable.