Pleas stop saying "should have" it's "should have".
'Mate' pulled out of a holiday.
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Pleas stop saying "should have" it's "should have".
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You should have been nicer to him.
Pleas stop being a grammar Nazi. After all this time on OcUK you should have realised people don't really care.
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lol
No.
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Yes, he should have
Do you get wound up when people use brought instead of bought.
Does my head in, but I resist. <---commas before but is that ok
These two statements are not the same thing. One sounds like he was giving you assurances that he would get you the money somehow. The other sounds a bit like you were trying to get him to agree to making a decision on the spot about the money that he didn't know he had.
That might not be the case but I have to wonder if he may have been using the money as an excuse to try and back out. Either way I still think you should have called him when you knew where you were going and that it would be £285 up front non refundable before committing. All you can do now is ask if he still wants to come if you offer to sub him so he can pay back later (that is assuming you still want him to come).
Get someone else to go. You are going in less than a month and if cant afford the holiday now how will he afford the spending money?
Also don't fall out over it. You are both to blame, one for not getting the money sorted before you booked the holiday. the other for not being man enough to say that he doesnt have the money. You do realise he does want to go on this holiday but is probably too skint and too proud to say that he cant afford it and you practically rushed him into a yes answer.
try and cover the costs if he can guarantee he will pay you before you go on holiday, not after as youll never see it again. you're supposed to be mates after all.
Also don't fall out over it. You are both to blame, one for not getting the money sorted before you booked the holiday. the other for not being man enough to say that he doesnt have the money. You do realise he does want to go on this holiday but is probably too skint and too proud to say that he cant afford it and you practically rushed him into a yes answer.
try and cover the costs if he can guarantee he will pay you before you go on holiday, not after as youll never see it again. you're supposed to be mates after all.
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When I went to Faliraki in 2002 I spent over £1000 in 2 weeks. Mind you, I'm a ****-head!
This. If he's anything like me he'll have really wanted to go and where he thought he was saying "yeah i should be game for it, get paid too so it should be feasible" you took it to mean "sign me up, it's not a problem". He may not have thought about spending money or money to last once he gets back from holiday (assuming uni mate has no secure job over summer).
Asking him to pay it back same day is pretty lame, especially if he said he would have the funds next week.
What you should have taken it as is "i'm getting paid next week so i'll be able to come along but if i don't get paid/paid less than i thought in a weeks time i can ask my rents to help me out as after a week they'll see i'm excited and i've planned/thought about it."
What has actually happened is he feels pressure into paying right away and he's asked his rents and they've assumed he's dived right in without planning and are undoubtedly annoyed at him needing £300 that day to pay off someone they don't know.
Do you get wound up when people use brought instead of bought?
Does my head in, but I resist. <---commas before but is that ok
I hate it, I don't understand how it happens!
Tough one this but if you have to start suggesting to friends where they can get money from that you are going to be relying on (other than say the odd £20 here and there), alarm bells should start ringing.
It's the sort of situation that I can see happening though, everything seems plausible from all sides. I can imagine a dad looking at it and going:
Nanoman's Mate's Dad said:In the current graduate job market you should be busting a gut to sort out a proper job son, not galivanting around in Fali****ingraki with money you don't have and expecting me to pay for it!
