Do I kill him, maim him, keyboard him or forgive him?

TriedandTested · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:07

Wow. His own house, car, guitar collection and iPhone? Is this what qualifies as a 'bit of a catch' these days?

SexyGreyFox · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:09

Deiwos said:
From the sound of the post you didn't want him around and now you're complaining he's gone? Ok...

I'm more concerned that I put a roof over his head, gave him a guitar to play, gave him a phone, gave him warmth, gave him food and 50 meg internet and he couldn't be a man and leave properly.
Scum.

WeOwnTheSky said:
Wow. His own house, car, guitar collection and iPhone? Is this what qualifies as a 'bit of a catch' these days?

A 22 year old with his own house - yeah, there's not many (of course the other 3 were a pee take which you missed).

Saint1972 · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:09

Move on.could have been worse,he could have been your son in law.

Nix · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:12

Pretty low. To me it sounds that somewhere along the line he decided that he didn't want to be with your daughter anymore, but was riding it out until he got on his feet again. He's probably too ashamed about the whole thing to even look you in the eye which is why he disappeared when you weren't there.

I think your daughter might need a better taste in men. I hear Tefal's single.

EndlessSky · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:12

Invoice him. Invoice him hard.

SexyGreyFox · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:14

EndlessSky said:
Invoice him. Invoice him hard.

PART TWO -

How much for 18 months?

roddypoddy · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:15

It does sound as though he has done your whole family a favour,i hope your daughter come's through ok,as a father/grandfather i know what you feel like doing to him,but enough damage has been done,don't let him ruin all your lives.

EndlessSky · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:16

Bed, breakfast and evening meal at a cheap hotel would be £40 a night. Multiply that for each night he stayed at your house and profit!

Nix · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:17

Legally speaking, how would invoicing actually hold up if he chose to ignore?

ins0mn1ac · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:17

Forget about him! it's the price you'll pay for keeping him out of your daughters life, since if you do/say nothing to him he'll think he you want to flatten him and stay out of the way of you all. Well worth it imo!

Saint1972 · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:18

Nix said:
....I hear Tefal's single.

Dureth · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:18

dmpoole said:
I'm more concerned that I put a roof over his head, gave him a guitar to play, gave him a phone, gave him warmth, gave him food and 50 meg internet and he couldn't be a man and leave properly.
Scum.

Sadly most people take advantage of generosity and see the consequences as the giver being stupid for not being more selfish. I've helped friends, family and even strangers out at every opportunity and occasionally I get bitten for it too. Money lent and not returned, trust violated, thanks not given.

The rewards for knowing you've done the right thing and made the world a tiny bit better far outweigh the few bad experiences though.

Keep being a good man and pass this off as the time a **** took advantage of your kindness. Don't let him take away the fact that you're a decent person with his ingratitude.

VoG · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:18

King85 said:
What would you do for revenge that wouldn't possibly land you in trouble?

naked flatulent teabag tbh.

he'll be too ashamed/traumatised to tell anyone about that, ever.

Showboat · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:19

What a complete low life.

Count your lucky stars you are rid of him.

Disco Boy · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:19

So the person who you didn't like living in your house or being with your daughter is no longer living in your house or with your daughter? Happy days...

slambo69 · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:19

Sounds like a douche, just be glad he is gone. Dont waste your time thinking about him when your daughter probably needs your attention and care.

EndlessSky · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:23

Legally speaking, if there was ever a verbal discussion about payment, you may have a chance. If not, wait. Get him with cold revenge in a few years time when he's least expecting it. For instance Character assassination is always fun.

Kanifee · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:25

all in all id say yo got the outcome you needed really, hes left your home promptly and in such a way he would have the stones to grace you with his presence again, the nature of his departure has also no doubt opened your eldest eyes to the sort of true nature he has and soured her opinion of him to the point she would not entertain him in the future.

In the grand scheme of things id say a little food and bored is a cheap way to rid your self of a nightmare of a son-in-law (potentially)

PMKeates · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:25

Nix said:
Legally speaking, how would invoicing actually hold up if he chose to ignore?

Not at all.

EndlessSky said:
Legally speaking, if there was ever a verbal discussion about payment, you may have a chance. If not, wait. Get him with cold revenge in a few years time when he's least expecting it. For instance Character assassination is always fun.

Very unlikely. You can't invite someone round your house for a month, fall out with them, then send them an invoice and tell a court "we had a conversation!"

Sherbs · 22 Aug 2011 at 19:26

Good riddance?

Get on with your life, if he comes back both you and hopefully your daughter can tell him to GTFO.

For reference, I paid £100 a month while living with my ex Girlfriend and her parents. (Real cheap I know)

I used to pay my mum £200 a month. Which is now £240.