Getting old!

i'm 32 in novemeber and so far my 30's have been better than my 20's. it's amazing how differently one is treated. though my reckless youth is catching up with me a little on the health side of things, i'm still young and fit enough to balance that out.

don't plan on settling down until after 36.
 
cm1179 said:
don't plan on settling down until after 36.
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See I just could never had waited that long. I always wanted a wife and a house and a family so at 26 with the first 2 ticked off I'm nearly there. I just wouldn't want to be starting a family at an age where when my boys (I WILL have boys lol) are sort of 10-13 where they want to do lots of stuff I'll be coming up for 50 and struggling to keep up. Wife and I are looking to have kids in about 18 months after she finished this year at uni and has gone back to work.

Also the way my life is at the moment the mortgage will be gone by my 50th birthday at the latest. Earlier should any inheritance come (grand parents are 85 :().

everyone is different. I've just always wanted it as soon as possible. If I had the money I'd have kids now.
 
I wouldn't worry too much if your life isn't exactly working out inline with the plan in your head, it doesn't really work like that.

Many of us have funny ideas about how things in life should work. In my 20s I simply enjoyed myself, thinking by the time I was in my 30s I would have all the answers. Wrong.

Roll on 33 and I still haven't figured life out. I always believed: i) there would be 'fireworks' when I met the right girl, ii) working hard at work would guarantee large pay rises and continuous promotions and iii) I would know when it was the 'right time' to settle and have kids. Wrong again.

It's taken me years of hard slog to get to where I am today (v.good job, owned my own house from the age of 22, had some nice cars lol) but the wife and kids thing is still a mystery. Someone else mentioned it, but I swear my biological clock is ticking. My gf isn't interested in kids at all. :rolleyes:

My point is don't get disheartened, life has a funny way of working out, but only as long as you keep making the effort.
 
I'm 18 and to think in 10-12 years time I should (maybe not should but you know what I mean) have a house and wife + kids and also a professional job.

I can't see that happening in that time.
 
MisChief said:
I'm 25, single and still live at home with no savings. My biological clock is ticking and there is no sight of any men in my life at the moment :o
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Any good clock service technicians out there for this young lady :D ;)

I have to be honest with you i've never felt like that.
 
Mr-White said:
I'm 30 in November and have none of those either and I doubt it will change by 40.

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Kind of in the same boat - I try not overthink things like mortgages etc, at the end of the day it is just stuff. Turned 30 back in Jan and also had one of moments where I tried to put things in perspective - wife pregnant at the moment with our first and it was made me realise that I placed far too much of an emphasis on material stuff.

I was a miserable sod until I realised that there is nothing I can do about the past and constantly worrying about the future often is at the expense of enjoying what you have now :).
 
Join my club. I am 40 now. Single at the moment. nice house, nice car etc.

Sometimes I feel that life is passing me by. Should I be married with children now? who knows.
Are we just following tradition?

I think my problem is I get stuck in my own ways. I meet women and have relationships etc. But I either get bored quickly or I just don't feel it is going the way I want. Then I think, 'what way do I want it to go'

I also see so many of my friends etc that are married with children, but they are not happy.

6 of 1, half a dozen of the other i guess.

Perhaps I will meet the '1' soon.

Enjoy life. It DOES pass quickly.
 
I'm 25 now and have achieved the square root of **** all to date. In fact I have been reflecting and considering I literally have nothing holding me back (and therefore no excuse) I am looking at ways to address this situation. Uni is hot favourite, albeit being on the verge of prohibitively expensive from 2012 onwards.

Marriage/Kids - the concept terrifies me, nor will I feel that I have achieved anything if I have kids (sex is easy and she does the hard work!).
 
Im constantly amazed at how the 30s...40s...even 50s are called "old".

Ok 87? Youre old.

Long road ahead of you OP, there is no rule book. Just cuz everyone else settled with kids and wife doesnt mean you have to. You make your own way thru life! :)
 
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