Friends that cant be bothered

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A few years ago everyone was up for a big night every week, going out for meals in groups etc

Now it seems like I try and organise something and everyone in the frame of mind "I will go if he/she goes"

In february 11 of us went to Krakow in Poland. I organised everything and it was an awesome trip. Everyone ageed something needs to be done again soon.

I said I didnt sorting another trip in November but have only had a couple of responsed.

Is it only me that wants to constantly do things like random city breaks, group meals, adventure/activity days etc?

Maybe I need to get new, younger friends or something
 
People have a lot of inertia for things like this these days, caused by laziness, lack of money, business at work, relationships, lack of inclination, etc. It seems to get worse as people get older.
 
Speaking from my own perspective it is just things like buying a house and all the bills that have completely changed what I can now do.

One year ago we decided to all go to America, booked it and then just over a month later we went.

Now I would need to be told 2 years in advice to do anything similar :(
 
a lot of the time me and my friends have small things, like nights out, however if certain people don't go, then others won't.
I've been referred to as the "glue".
 
People have more commitments, they get settled in their ways or just get lazy and apathetic. It’s what age does.
 
I rarely see any of my friends now, it's a bonus if I even get to have a day sat playing fifa,

We all work full time and I work stupid hours so I'm working whenever they are at home and vice/versa
 
Guest2 said:
A few years ago everyone was up for a big night every week, going out for meals in groups etc

Now it seems like I try and organise something and everyone in the frame of mind "I will go if he/she goes"

In february 11 of us went to Krakow in Poland. I organised everything and it was an awesome trip. Everyone ageed something needs to be done again soon.

I said I didnt sorting another trip in November but have only had a couple of responsed.

Is it only me that wants to constantly do things like random city breaks, group meals, adventure/activity days etc?

Maybe I need to get new, younger friends or something
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people change, priorities change, circumstances change and there is nothing you can do,

keep your old friends and then just find some new ones for your travels

job done
 
Thats the thing, most of us have standard rent and bills. Only one of my mates has a mortgage. None have kids (people who I am referring to)

Its just like everyone is just getting lazy
 
Robbie G said:
Because you cling to people in an annoying fashion?
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No, because I keep things together.
I generally bring the people, get everyone together, do the organising.

Point in question, weekend in Newcastle and a few days in York, if I don't go to Newcastle, the Newcastle plan falls apart, as would the York plan.

It's just what happens, Which is why I generally say yes to going out, as when I don't, it falls apart and I feel a prat.
 
I've been let down by friends on numerous occaisions, I just shrug it off, and continue to enjoy myself with those that are there.

It's not up to me to be judge, jury and excecutioner for whatever reasons my friends cannot make it. It's disappointing of course, but more often than not there are mitigating circumstances. I must admit to "not being bothered" in the past - but I tend to try and make the effort.

Money is about the only thing that forces my hand. However, time can sometimes have it's impact, but it is not often the primary or only cause.

I rely on my friends a lot, as I thrive off company of others, and I enjoy being around others. Even if it's just having someone around, it's nice to have that "prescence". :)

My friends will always be there, if they can't make it, I'll see them again soon. If I keep getting disappointed or let down by them, then of course, it does start to leave a doubt on my mind as to whether or not there's something else going on - but it tends to prompt me to talk about it with them to see if there is anything I can help with.
 
Guest2 said:
Thats the thing, most of us have standard rent and bills. Only one of my mates has a mortgage. None have kids (people who I am referring to)

Its just like everyone is just getting lazy
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not lazy....... just getting older,

also, always wanted to know is your user name pronounced guest two or guest squared?
 
Me and my mates still go out, but nowhere near as much as we used to and who is there will determine if others turn up.

But it's due to the fact most of us are settled in with partners now, me and my best friend are married and he has a new kid.

Times change people get older.
 
Martini1991 said:
No, because I keep things together.
I generally bring the people, get everyone together, do the organising.

Point in question, weekend in Newcastle and a few days in York, if I don't go to Newcastle, the Newcastle plan falls apart, as would the York plan.

It's just what happens, Which is why I generally say yes to going out, as when I don't, it falls apart and I feel a prat.
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You must be my long lost twin or something.....what you've decribed is me and my un-organised mates!! :rolleyes:

and OP...i understand exactly what you're on about and have experienced similar things at times.
 
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