How to make friends at uni, if you don't like clubs?

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Ok, so I find clubs monumentally boring. The music sucks balls and is too loud to allow you to talk to people. So you have two choices, either stand awkwardly at the bar, in silence, drinking. Or dance, which I am too self concious to do, and don't enjoy anyway. I don't see why anyone would want to spend their night in a club rather than in a pub, chilling out with a beer.

The problem is, at uni all that everyone does is go to clubs (especially girls). I've got some friends so I'm not a complete loner, but I want to meet new people and expand my circle and I'm not really sure how to go about it. It seems like if you don't like clubs and don't have time to get really involved in societies, it's pretty much impossible to meet girls at uni. Btw to clarify I'm not bothered about "picking up" girls, I would just like female company, as my only female friends are from school and go to different unis, therefore I never see them. Also I have vague history with both of them so there's a slight weirdness there.

I've obviously met some girls on my course but they were the kind of girls who go out clubbing, all tarted up, and get ****ed every weekend and sleep with some randomer. Not that I am judging them, but I really have nothing in common with them. I find them boring and they find me boring. I want to meet girls (or guys tbh) who I have things in common with. My interests are on my profile.

Any suggestions as to how I could do this?
 
Go out and meet new people in scenes where you enjoy? You dont HAVE to meet someone that goes to uni you know, there will be plenty other people in the area.
 
Is this subtly disguised rant about not being able to find a girlfriend because everyone you've met so far is a **** and you're pretty insecure about it? :p

Not everyone in the world is a typical 'student'. Why not join a badminton club?(Going by your profile)
 
Wow lots of threads popping up around the subject of friends recently, winter blues setting in?

Anyway, don't stress yourself mate. You don't want to be hanging around people that you have nothing in common with. FYI, there is nothing wrong with being a lone wolf in the world! Once you have your brain set to see past all the bs, you'll never go back :p Speaking as a true loner myself haha.

In all seriousness though, just get chatting to people you see in and out of uni and see if you have anything in common to form a friendship around; don't force yourself onto people and make them endure you because you're in the same class though. Pick up on their body language and reactions then go from there.
 
Clubs (the other, more educational type) are probably your best bet, find one that caters to one or more of your interests. You'll meet people there, get to know them, make friends, and it'll be easy because you'll know for a fact that you share a common interest with everyone there.
 
You list badminton as an interest on your profile, do you play reguarly at the moment? If not then one option could be to search for someone on the internet for a game or two? Not sure of any websites you could use (this forum even maybe) but if it works out you could arrange this with 2-3 people depending on how often you want to play.

Do any other sports interest you at all as well? If so then there is always team sports which means you'll meet groups of people rather than just one. One brilliant example would be running, most people can run, you can see new places, can run on your own (obviously missing the point here :p), with one other person or as a group if you end up joining a running group.
 
Badminton? My favorite sport! Lee Chong Wei standard? :o Bit too far up north to come down to Brixton for a game. :)
 
Clubs are generally attended by shallow, braindead, chav morons with crap taste in music, so you're definitely right with your intention to avoid them. Visit the local rock/metal pubs and bars where you'll meet genuine people and hear decent and varied music.
 
Join societies, best way by a country mile for people who don't drink to meet new people. At my uni theres a society even for people who don't drink, instead they meet weekly in one of the many coffee shops near the uni.
 
It's not hard to meet females at uni, just from a mate that I met this year I have met loads of new friends, including girls.

Just have to be more confident dude :)
 
Sounds like the lack of counter strike clans is setting in.

How to meet people 101, go to things/events you enjoy and 'hiya' and if they are boring that's just them, there's a distict possibility that they are just out of their depth as much as you. If it means anything then I find that people would rather stand in silence than talk these days. Then again I might just be that boring or annoying but hey, at least they know to avoid me :).

The friends thing is over rated, don't go to places trying to meet friends, go to be social, the friends thing just happens :).

Cheers.

Ninja edit: you do know you are called SheepBeast from Edinburgh, right?
wtf no-one mentioned this earlier?
 
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Wait, your're actually asking advice on how to not only get in, but then stay in the Friend Zone? :confused:

You've come to the right place :D
 
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