How to make friends at uni, if you don't like clubs?

SheepBeast said:
Ok, so I find clubs monumentally boring. The music sucks balls and is too loud to allow you to talk to people. So you have two choices, either stand awkwardly at the bar, in silence, drinking. Or dance, which I am too self concious to do, and don't enjoy anyway. I don't see why anyone would want to spend their night in a club rather than in a pub, chilling out with a beer.

The problem is, at uni all that everyone does is go to clubs (especially girls). I've got some friends so I'm not a complete loner, but I want to meet new people and expand my circle and I'm not really sure how to go about it. It seems like if you don't like clubs and don't have time to get really involved in societies, it's pretty much impossible to meet girls at uni. Btw to clarify I'm not bothered about "picking up" girls, I would just like female company, as my only female friends are from school and go to different unis, therefore I never see them. Also I have vague history with both of them so there's a slight weirdness there.

I've obviously met some girls on my course but they were the kind of girls who go out clubbing, all tarted up, and get ****ed every weekend and sleep with some randomer. Not that I am judging them, but I really have nothing in common with them. I find them boring and they find me boring. I want to meet girls (or guys tbh) who I have things in common with. My interests are on my profile.

Any suggestions as to how I could do this?
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I'm exactly like this, and to be honest I would be asking this question in a years time.

I would prefer to go to a pub then a club.
 
Go to better clubs. Instead of going to the normal crappy clubs/bars like yates oceana etc go to one that has a specific event on with a genre of music you like and crowd you can relate to. Not all clubs are crappy chart music and chavs galore
 
I thought the only point of University was to get wasted and sleep with as many girls as possible. If not I must have been doing it wrong. :D

Actually I don't like clubs much. I went to some when I was at Uni but mostly did my drinking socially with my friends from the Pagan Society that a joined as a fresher. Best thing was it was a society full of slightly alternative yet fit looking young ladies. Result.
 
just talk to people in halls no? by the end of week 2 our hall bit was friends with the hall across the corridor and some people above us and some people below us....really wasnt that difficult.

the difficult part is realising that your just not all compatible and by the end of year 1 your only friends with about 6 of them, then you meet new ones in year 2 (especially if you go into shared housing with a few new peps) and then by the end of uni realising again that the ones you stay in contact with and who are good friends boil down to about 4 people.

:)
 
Feel I'm missing something but talk to the people in your classes at uni?!?!?!

A wealth of people with some basically similar interests just for being on the same course as you...
 
You're in Edinburgh, which is an issue, because all but 2 clubs here really do suck. I'd go for a pub crawl though.

Also, assuming you're at uni, what year/where? Always had more luck in halls than out and about, personally.
 
Rock society/Altenerative music societies your uni will certainly have (or drum n bass if thats your scene) will be a great place to meet new people

90% of my friends that i truely enjoy nights out with are people who i met through taste in music, you'll find yourself in clubs/bars you actually like and can sing along too without wanting too slit your wrists when you realise your singing lady gaga.
 
Get off your arse, join a society. Meet people. Really not that hard
Clubs aren't that bad either, get drunk, do some drugs whatever takes you're fancy, let loose and watch how easy it will be to meet people if you really find it that hard to do it sober.
Uni is the ultimate social experience, especially in first year. Don't miss it
 
Come join my Hockey team (Dunfermline)

You'll have a great time! Especially in the showers afterwards....oi oi

Alternatively, join a club. When I was at uni I only hung out with guys from the hockey club. Find somthing that interests you and join up (if there's something).
 
Rainagul said:
Get off your arse, join a society. Meet people. Really not that hard
Clubs aren't that bad either, get drunk, do some drugs whatever takes you're fancy, let loose and watch how easy it will be to meet people if you really find it that hard to do it sober.
Uni is the ultimate social experience, especially in first year. Don't miss it
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FabienO said:
Other University clubs, sports or something along those lines?
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Nothing we say will help, so here is the problem, taken from another of Sheep's threads

SheepBeast said:
so i started 1st year uni again in september 2010 determined not to screw it up this time. however after about 2 weeks of being conscientious i started not bothering with lectures or coursework again.

it's the 6th week of semester 1 so far and my attendance is 27% as i calculated it. i literally have no idea what topic the lectures are even on as i haven't been to them in 3 weeks.

i feel pretty lethargic and generally i waste the whole day just procrastinating and putting things off until eventually it's too late to do them so i don't bother. also i don't really have much/any confidence about myself. this, i think, stems from multiple factors including:

my crap social skills and general awkwardness around people especially girls, lack of any contact with girls (i mean i dont even talk to them and if i try they ignore me), the fact i'm currently a failure while i watch my friends excel
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smit101 said:
Clubs are generally attended by shallow, braindead, chav morons with crap taste in music, so you're definitely right with your intention to avoid them. Visit the local rock/metal pubs and bars where you'll meet genuine people and hear decent and varied music.
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That old chestnut. Rocker kid complains about how shallow and judgmental everyone else is, while being shallow and judgmental in the extreme.

Nice one
 
smit101 said:
Clubs are generally attended by shallow, braindead, chav morons with crap taste in music, so you're definitely right with your intention to avoid them. Visit the local rock/metal pubs and bars where you'll meet genuine people and hear decent and varied music.
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lol what a absurd comment,your obviously going to the wrong places.

For the op,not every club is a pick up joint for the loose lady's of the night or stuck with a salad dodger at the end to go home with lol.
What is your music genre your into.
 
Definitely join some other clubs and societies - sports or whatever you like.

I was like that - not one for pub crawls or parties and such, but I thoroughly enjoyed socialising while playing sport - badminton and such like.

I made more friends in sports clubs than on my course or through "going out".
 
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