should i listen to my head or heart?

ilcp

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ok I have been at a job for quite some time. It is good work wise but i think it is time i left.. All good so far. BUT i have stupidly fallen with someone and he doesnt know.

Now i am racking my brains trying to think of what i should do.. if i leave then i will not see him everyday but on the other hand seeing him everyday is killing me too..

i regularly see emails from agencies in my inbox and i want to apply.

and a little vent (off topic)
Argh and on top of that things are not going good @ home, personally (see above), health wise etc etc.. every aspect of my life is screwed and it is getting me depressed.

/venting off
 
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Tricky one but you definitely need to sort things at home before you can expect to make a relationship work.

EDIT: I know its not very helpful but I know from experience unless you have confidence in yourself and your life your never going to have the confidence to approach someone and ask them out.
 
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I'd listen to your head. It's where your ears are after all.

That is unless you like the sound of a good heart beat.
 
lol.. dont listen to any radio... just love songs that gets me even more depressed :(

i could get a new job but then if i ask him out and he says no then i wont ever see him again and this is the part i dont seem to like..

this is really messing with my head...
 
ilcp said:
i could get a new job but then if i ask him out and he says no then i wont ever see him again and this is the part i dont seem to like..
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If he says no he isnt interested anyway so what difference it makes? Why would you care if you see him again if he's not interested?
 
Does he own bunny rabbits? I hear that you can make a very compelling romantic gesture by combining them with a pan of hot water.
 
ilcp said:
lol.. dont listen to any radio... just love songs that gets me even more depressed :(

i could get a new job but then if i ask him out and he says no then i wont ever see him again and this is the part i dont seem to like..

this is really messing with my head...
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Do you know the guy really well? If so then if you're friends you'll probably see each other again.

If you dont know him that well, then you're probably not necessarily falling for 'him', so much as what you'd like him to be. There's a lot more to people than what you see interacting in a day job, so don't worry if you dont get the chance to find out. It could just as easily be bad as good.

Plus plenty more fish in the sea etcetcetc :)
 
ilcp said:
i could get a new job but then if i ask him out and he says no then i wont ever see him again and this is the part i dont seem to like..
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As Fox says, if he says no then it really doesn't matter whether you see him again or not. In fact, not seeing him would be a positive as it would allow you to focus on finding someone who does want to be with you instead of wallowing in apathy and self-doubt.

He might also say yes. How close are you? Does he know you exist? Does he show any indication of interest in you?
 
As Fox said don't waste your time over people who aren't interested in you - its also a lot easier to move on if you know for definite they aren't interested in you in that way than if your unsure... that said I fully know how difficult it can be to ask someone out especially if you don't have much interaction with them socially and/or have other problems in your life that make it difficult.
 
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