Soldato
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As some of you may know I moved into a new flat recently, my Broadband gets activated on the 5th of Jan, now I've had Broadband since the first trials began and I've never really liked to share my internet connection, it's my most favoured luxury, I use it for just about everything, I haven't watched TV for 5 years now, I've only ever shared my internet once which was in my old place as my landlord kinda forced me into it as he said he let me have a phone line installed in my room and it was nothing but problems with buffering on videos and poor pings etc due to limited bandwidth at times.
Now since moving into my new place coincidently an old friend of mine was living in the front flat who I have been out of contact with for quite a few years, he is a good guy who has had a lot of problems, dad died of cancer last year and now his mum has it, I thought this information was pertinent as I don't want him to be made out as just a bum, he helps look after his mum atm, now the thing is he is knows I'm getting BB installed which is costing me £130 for a new line and £30 a month, but he is expecting me just to hand over a wi-fi code, now I'm really not keen on doing this but I feel compelled to due to his personal circumstances, now he is not working, granted he is helping his mum although his brother and sister still manage to work and he was not working long before his parents got ill anyway, he 'smokes' everyday which I told him would easily pay for a decent BB package if he cut down or gave up.
Now am I being an arse not wanting to share my BB?, BB is the only thing I really have in my life and I'm only working part time atm and have given up drinking to help pay for it as my new place is more expensive, I've emphasized the cost to him a few times now but he hasn't offered to chip in.
UPDATE -
Just a small update, I decided to tell him I'd prefer not to share my connection, I thought he took it ok until today when I spoke to him and he basically said we're not friends any more and to make sure I stay out of his way, <sigh>, he said that because he's my friend I should let him use it and by not doing so apparently "I think very little of him" and "I'm a selfish person".
You see this is why I don't like doing stuff like this, I knew not letting him use it would create a problem, that bugged me, I've spent far too much of my life being a people pleaser, doing things I don't want to do to appease others to disable potential threats or issues, I've had enough living like that, it's my stuff and I quite simply would prefer to not share, especially with people that get aggressive if I choose not to.
Partly what got him riled up was when I mentioned his 'smoke', I said I don't see why I should share my connection with you when your wasting your money on that 'stuff', that would pay for his own phone and BB package 5 times over, probably more, he don't work, his behind in rent, never really pays off any of his bills, council tax, tv license etc, if I share my connection with him I become an enabler, tbhfh he needs to grow up, if he wants BB then he's going to have to sort his priorities out, I'm not giving in on this one.
Now since moving into my new place coincidently an old friend of mine was living in the front flat who I have been out of contact with for quite a few years, he is a good guy who has had a lot of problems, dad died of cancer last year and now his mum has it, I thought this information was pertinent as I don't want him to be made out as just a bum, he helps look after his mum atm, now the thing is he is knows I'm getting BB installed which is costing me £130 for a new line and £30 a month, but he is expecting me just to hand over a wi-fi code, now I'm really not keen on doing this but I feel compelled to due to his personal circumstances, now he is not working, granted he is helping his mum although his brother and sister still manage to work and he was not working long before his parents got ill anyway, he 'smokes' everyday which I told him would easily pay for a decent BB package if he cut down or gave up.
Now am I being an arse not wanting to share my BB?, BB is the only thing I really have in my life and I'm only working part time atm and have given up drinking to help pay for it as my new place is more expensive, I've emphasized the cost to him a few times now but he hasn't offered to chip in.
UPDATE -
Just a small update, I decided to tell him I'd prefer not to share my connection, I thought he took it ok until today when I spoke to him and he basically said we're not friends any more and to make sure I stay out of his way, <sigh>, he said that because he's my friend I should let him use it and by not doing so apparently "I think very little of him" and "I'm a selfish person".
You see this is why I don't like doing stuff like this, I knew not letting him use it would create a problem, that bugged me, I've spent far too much of my life being a people pleaser, doing things I don't want to do to appease others to disable potential threats or issues, I've had enough living like that, it's my stuff and I quite simply would prefer to not share, especially with people that get aggressive if I choose not to.
Partly what got him riled up was when I mentioned his 'smoke', I said I don't see why I should share my connection with you when your wasting your money on that 'stuff', that would pay for his own phone and BB package 5 times over, probably more, he don't work, his behind in rent, never really pays off any of his bills, council tax, tv license etc, if I share my connection with him I become an enabler, tbhfh he needs to grow up, if he wants BB then he's going to have to sort his priorities out, I'm not giving in on this one.
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