Romantic feelings disappearing overnight ?

Reed · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:26

Ok so this is a bit of a negative thread to be posting on Christmas Eve but this has happened to me today so I'm wondering if anyone else has been through the same sort of thing.

I've known this girl for 2-3 months now and we get on incredibly well and i've developed pretty strong feelings for her. I've still not told her this as tbh shes been through some crap in the last couple of months which has unfortunately resulted in me bottling up what I feel. Anyway we had our Christmas party on Wednesday and some guy drunkenly ended up kissing her. I won't go into details but essentially she knew i was angry, why i was angry and we agreed to talk in the new year (she went home for Christmas on Friday and we didn't have time to talk before then).

So even after this whilst I've been pretty angry for the last couple of days (probably at myself for not just telling her straight up "hey i like you") I still had really strong feelings for her....until today. I literally woke up, after thinking about her all of yesterday, feeling nothing special for her anymore and it's sort of killing me. I really want to feel something for her again and make something happen in the new year but the way i feel right now....well i feel nothing.

Just wondering if anyone has been through something similar and what happened/ if those feelings will ever return? Or even if anyone has any advice throw it out there.

I'll end on a cheery note though and wish everyone a Merry Christmas

etom · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:32

i had something similar happen, i was obviously mega annoyed...i just tried acting like it was the same with her and eventually i fell back in love. Did consider sacking her but didn't want to make rash descion so waited to descide. I didn't for some reason and i'm glad i didn't looking back.

Nitefly · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:33

Romantic feelings disappearing over night? I think I can articulate to the split second on which that happens

Oh, and in the words of Beyonce, if you liked it you should have put a ring on it (in a matter of words...).

King Damager · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:41

Everyone has periods of doubt. So leave it a bit

kd

Jay794 · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:44

The reason you lost your feelings for her is because you haven't seen her for awhile.

I've been in a long term relationship (8 years) and whenever my girlfriend doesn't stay at my house for a couple of days I have trouble sleeping because I miss her, then after a few nights I sleep fine and don't miss her, until I see her again and all those feelings come flooding back

joxang · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:45

It's just your time of the month

. Seriously. Guys have hormonal fluctuations too, give it a few days the lovelijubbliness will come back.

KingArthur · 24 Dec 2011 at 13:46

come on man women are for: cooking, cleaning, coitus, children.

Those things come first, then the feelings, give it time.

Casdawer · 24 Dec 2011 at 15:58

I bet that when she comes back and you look into her eyes again, all that love will come swooping back!

Jay794 · 24 Dec 2011 at 16:02

Casdawer said:
I bet that when she comes back and you look into her eyes again, all that love will come swooping back!

Especially when she gets on her knees and begins to unzip your fly.....

kPATm · 24 Dec 2011 at 17:42

Jay794 said:
The reason you lost your feelings for her is because you haven't seen her for awhile.

I've been in a long term relationship (8 years) and whenever my girlfriend doesn't stay at my house for a couple of days I have trouble sleeping because I miss her, then after a few nights I sleep fine and don't miss her, until I see her again and all those feelings come flooding back

Exactly this.

pepsilol · 24 Dec 2011 at 18:35

Jay794 said:
Especially when she gets on her knees and begins to unzip your fly.....

...and then begins to laugh ...

You're just getting "cold feet"/ being a drama llama.

Relaxxx.

Castiel · 24 Dec 2011 at 18:37

KingArthur said:
come on man women are for: cooking, cleaning, coitus, children.

Those things come first, then the feelings, give it time.

You are going to be a lonely adult......

nydryl · 24 Dec 2011 at 18:41

Nitefly said:
Romantic feelings disappearing over night? I think I can articulate to the split second on which that happens

Lol this. Heartbroken one minute, a quick internet video, and hey presto you're healed!

Pighardia · 24 Dec 2011 at 18:44

Reed said:
I still had really strong feelings for her....until today. I literally woke up, after thinking about her all of yesterday, feeling nothing special for her anymore and it's sort of killing me.

Anyone else reminded of Mark from Peep Show?

Natwee · 24 Dec 2011 at 18:51

Jay794 said:
The reason you lost your feelings for her is because you haven't seen her for awhile.

I've been in a long term relationship (8 years) and whenever my girlfriend doesn't stay at my house for a couple of days I have trouble sleeping because I miss her, then after a few nights I sleep fine and don't miss her, until I see her again and all those feelings come flooding back

Wow how come you don't live together after 8 years??

Ahleckz · 24 Dec 2011 at 18:57

The, I doubt you have a chance anyway op. Why not just tell her at the onset of the feelings? And, its rather petty and immature to get angry at her, or the bloke because of your failure to be a man!

Vidar · 24 Dec 2011 at 19:34

Seriously the only time I've ever felt in a similar position ended up with a trip to hospital..... Long story and no I never tried to top myself! lol

rpg · 24 Dec 2011 at 19:42

You can't be angry with her. She doesn't even know you like her for definite.

Gackt · 24 Dec 2011 at 20:14

You're not with her. Your feelings have changed. It's fairly simple. Move on. She kissed some other guy, she had every right to, you missed your chance.

.Sean · 24 Dec 2011 at 21:29

pepsilol said:
...and then begins to laugh ...

You're just getting "cold feet"/ being a drama llama.

Relaxxx.

Drama llama. I'm stealing this.

Once you see her again you'll be all loved up.