Meeting an Ex after 20 odd years

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easyrider said:
At that age I was not exactly level headed...a lot of my decisions were made by my mate John Thomas :p
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And you think you're more level headed now?

I'd argue that it's entirely possible to become less level headed as you get older, after convincing yourself that things you did were right for years, or any number of things.

What makes you think that thinking with your head/emotions is any less dangerous? It certainly leads to the potential for more damage, as you are investing a hell of a lot more in to it from the start.
 
Zefan said:
And you think you're more level headed now?

I'd argue that it's entirely possible to become less level headed as you get older, after convincing yourself that things you did were right for years, or any number of things.

What makes you think that thinking with your head/emotions is any less dangerous? It certainly leads to the potential for more damage, as you are investing a hell of a lot more in to it from the start.
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Man you are scaring me....I think I'm more sensible these days...What would you do?
 
All these threads on girls about relationships etc. and no pics.

how the hell do we comment?
 
schizo said:
just meet up with her.

what have you got to lose ?
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My sanity....? I'm ok right now...setlled enough with my job my personal life...I'm scared I get wholloped on the head by Mr Love hammer and my life goes **** up :eek:

Been thinking about her more and more...She was very special to me...We shared out first night...Some of the memories coming back to me that have been hidden or thought forgotten have been giving me goosebumps...:eek:
 
Edrof said:
Then do yourself a favour and be totally honest with her - that's if she's even romantically interested. Frankly, she might just want to meet up with an old friend for a nostalgic drink.
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It will be just a meet up...But I have a feeling that some deep rooted emotions have been locked away just waiting for them to be released.

She was the first girl I slept with...I was her first Boy...It won't be like meeting Donna from maths class I know it!
 
Meet her, and catch up? Unless you feel you somehow won't be able to control yourself while with her.
 
Don't sleep with her.

Did you cheat on her back in the day or annoy her?

She might have one of those venus penis trap things. :eek:

Actually, stay away from her. I reckon you should get a court order placed on her. She might be a bit of a nutter!
 
easyrider said:
Man you are scaring me....I think I'm more sensible these days...What would you do?
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I'd meet her, but that's because I find it extremely hard to control my emotions when it comes to this sort of thing. I would dive headlong in to it, wanting her, knowing it's wrong and that it will almost certainly end very badly :p That's just me though, completely stupid :D

It's almost like I jump at the chance to cause emotional self harm. Can't explain it really.

If you're like me, then from what you've described you're already too far along the ride to get off now.
 
I cant talk cause my first gf and I went out on and off for 15 years with other relationships in between. IMO you dont get over your first.
In your case I'd say show her your cinema room! Stick a blanket down in the middle of the floor, make a picnic, put some random looped video of rolling fields and bright sunshine on the projector, and get your end away!
 
It sounds like you are remembering your old relationship with this girl in a very idealistic light because of the "complications" you are having currently.
 
Zefan said:
I'd meet her, but that's because I find it extremely hard to control my emotions when it comes to this sort of thing. I would dive headlong in to it, wanting her, knowing it's wrong and that it will almost certainly end very badly :p That's just me though, completely stupid :D

It's almost like I jump at the chance to cause emotional self harm. Can't explain it really.

If you're like me, then from what you've described you're already too far along the ride to get off now.
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NO HELP:eek:
 
oxygene said:
I cant talk cause my first gf and I went out on and off for 15 years with other relationships in between. IMO you dont get over your first.
In your case I'd say show her your cinema room! Stick a blanket down in the middle of the floor, make a picnic, put some random looped video of rolling fields and bright sunshine on the projector, and get your end away!
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:D

Sounds amazing tbh:eek:
 
easyrider said:
I'm not sure 100% if I ever stopped loving her after hours of thought on the matter :o
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As long as you've properly considered the possibility that your brain is tricking itself, then you're golden. If you can walk in to it with your eyes open about everything then you have nothing to lose.
 
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