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Caporegime
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So, when I'm feeling low or moody or even a bit angry, I sometimes head over to another forum, a forum populated mainly by mums who post on the net (it's mumsnet, you idiots, come on). It always makes me happier.
Their Relationship forum is hilarious - often unintentionally so which makes it even funnier - but occasionally there's a thread which really takes me aback. Today I came across one such thread. Let me give you the background as I can't link directly for various reasons, not least of which is the fruity language used in the thread title.
The scene : a troubled, younger woman is in a relationship with a guy and they have two kids, one of breastfeeding age. She's been in a very painful relationship prior to this one where her partner or husband (I'm not actually sure which) cheated on her which really messed her up. She has colossal issues regarding trust, fidelity and honesty.
She checks her current partner's internet activity and determines that he's been on a site he shouldn't have been. He was curious, he says, and nothing came of it. She checks the join dates etc and believes him. He agrees that they should only have one email account so that there is complete transparency in their relationship. All emails can be seen by both.
She decides to re-route his Blackberry emails to, I think, a separate address, just to check on him. He is apparently unaware. This not being enough, she decides to send him fake text messages, pretending to be another woman who is interested in him. He replies a few times indicating she might have the wrong number but he's polite. She considers that he has passed the test.
However, she then sends another text and he responds in a way that he shouldn't. Her texts have been about how good looking he is, how is was the sexiest guy in the bar last night. He finally responds showing interest. She feeds him lines about wanting to be with him and he seems interested and sends a number of inappropriate texts back to her whilst still playing lovey-dovey with his partner (who is the same person, try and keep up!)
Now, a further twist. She fully intends to leave him but needs him to sign a document acting as her guarantor for a new house she is moving in to (apparently for school zoning reasons which they'd both happily agreed on). She decides to continue playing her game whilst posting updates to that forum until such time as he signs.
The thing that really got to me was that of the 4 or 5 hundred posts there were 3 people who actually said that what she was doing was wrong. The huge majority backed her, saying that she was right to 'test' him and it showed just how 'right' she was.
What say you, lady slayers of GD? A fair approach or not?
Their Relationship forum is hilarious - often unintentionally so which makes it even funnier - but occasionally there's a thread which really takes me aback. Today I came across one such thread. Let me give you the background as I can't link directly for various reasons, not least of which is the fruity language used in the thread title.
The scene : a troubled, younger woman is in a relationship with a guy and they have two kids, one of breastfeeding age. She's been in a very painful relationship prior to this one where her partner or husband (I'm not actually sure which) cheated on her which really messed her up. She has colossal issues regarding trust, fidelity and honesty.
She checks her current partner's internet activity and determines that he's been on a site he shouldn't have been. He was curious, he says, and nothing came of it. She checks the join dates etc and believes him. He agrees that they should only have one email account so that there is complete transparency in their relationship. All emails can be seen by both.
She decides to re-route his Blackberry emails to, I think, a separate address, just to check on him. He is apparently unaware. This not being enough, she decides to send him fake text messages, pretending to be another woman who is interested in him. He replies a few times indicating she might have the wrong number but he's polite. She considers that he has passed the test.
However, she then sends another text and he responds in a way that he shouldn't. Her texts have been about how good looking he is, how is was the sexiest guy in the bar last night. He finally responds showing interest. She feeds him lines about wanting to be with him and he seems interested and sends a number of inappropriate texts back to her whilst still playing lovey-dovey with his partner (who is the same person, try and keep up!)
Now, a further twist. She fully intends to leave him but needs him to sign a document acting as her guarantor for a new house she is moving in to (apparently for school zoning reasons which they'd both happily agreed on). She decides to continue playing her game whilst posting updates to that forum until such time as he signs.
The thing that really got to me was that of the 4 or 5 hundred posts there were 3 people who actually said that what she was doing was wrong. The huge majority backed her, saying that she was right to 'test' him and it showed just how 'right' she was.
What say you, lady slayers of GD? A fair approach or not?
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