Girlfriend being intimidated by a neighbour...

re: OP

I would try and make peace with them, knock on their door, invite them round for a cuppa and have a chat about it, and explain that their intimidation is causing you distress, and that you try to park as well as you can. Try the sugar before you have to resort to the vinegar.
 
I'm just questioning why there is a difference between the terms "English" & "Pakistani" being used offensively (how does the guy know the OP's GF is English and not welsh?).

I don't think you're being racist in either regard of using those 2 words if they're both being used in a context to describe where the person is from. Insulting yes, but racist no.


I'm trying to think of a better way to describe it but my mind is failing me.
 
Afternoon peeps,

My gf lives in a block of 13 flats. She gets on with all her neighbours fine apart from a foreign family that live on the top floor in flat 13. This family have a problem with the fact they live in a flat numbered 13. They've changed the number on their front door to 14 and because of their superstition they very rarely park in their allocated parking space which a big 13 painted on it. Instead they typically park in one of the 3 visitor spaces.

These visitor spaces are difficult enough to park in at the best of times, but when residents take the mickey and use these spaces it becomes almost impossible and so many visitors have to park out on the street.

As irritiating as it is we generally just put up with the fact that some people are un-neighbourly and think they can do what they want, but on Christmas Day last year somebody put a note on my girlfriends car saying "Park straight, or else". Her car was parked slightly off-centre in her space but nothing that would cause anyone else any problems. She noticed that the youngest member of the family from number 13 was hanging around the general vicinity of her car at the time, clearly waiting for the moment when she read the note. She approached the guy and asked if he was responsible and he just laughed at her. A few words were exchanged, she told him to park in his own space and to never touch her car again and that was that.

What she said to him must have sunk in because up until a week ago he's been behaving himself and parking in his own space, but now he's back to his old tricks. She pulled into the car park just after him today and as she got out her car he muttered "******* English" to her. Obviously surprised, she asked him to repeat himself but he just grinned and laughed. She told him that if he had anything to say then she should say it to her face. He told her to "park straight, or you'll regret it"!

Obviously she's a woman living on her own and this threatening behaviour is starting to worry her. She's a strong woman and can hold her own when she needs to, but she's starting to feel unsafe in her own home and worries that damage may be done to her car or even worse, herself.

I've told her I'm going round there to have words but she's begged me not to as she doesn't want the situation to get out of control. We've reported it to the agent she's renting from and they're not interested at all, and the company that manage the block never answer their phones or emails.

She's at a loss as to what to do next..I've suggested going to the police but we're not sure what they could do about it?

What do you lot think..how would you handle things?


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lol my partner and i rented a nice new place last Nov, on a nice cul-de-sac number? 11a

it took us a few weeks to realise as we had so much going on, that next door was number 11, it wasnt til we tried to find a neighbor to say thanks for a xmas gift left in our back yard, that we realised we were number thirteen, we followed this up and found out that the landlady, who was now renting the property on behalf of her mother, is deeply supersticious, henseforth all our mail is going to next door, number 11, what a joke
 
Bingo! :D

Your beat officer is the wonderful PC Sandy Wyld who unfortunately is currently on restricted duties due to injury, however if you want to raise your conerns and get a visit from either a Police Officer or a PCSO just to have a word with your GF's neighbour then either phone 101 or you could email the SNT mailbox on [email protected].

Alternatively, email me in trust and I'll give you my police email address which I'll make sure gets to the right person covering your beat.

Helpful post of the year :D


In other news, I have to figure out exactly what it is about the forced dissolution of the Knight Templar that spooks people so much.
 
Bingo! :D

Your beat officer is the wonderful PC Sandy Wyld who unfortunately is currently on restricted duties due to injury, however if you want to raise your conerns and get a visit from either a Police Officer or a PCSO just to have a word with your GF's neighbour then either phone 101 or you could email the SNT mailbox on [email protected].

Alternatively, email me in trust and I'll give you my police email address which I'll make sure gets to the right person covering your beat.

Thanks for the info buddy. If she decides to take this any further then we'll be in contact.

To answer someone's previous question, the family are apparently Lithuanian. The youngest member of the family as I called him isn't a kid either..he must be in his late 20s/early 30s. He's the one who owns the car.
 
The best solution here is to move out, sad state of affairs, but it's true.

Could she move in with you?
 
Where are the normal OCUK PC drones calling for mods to lock this thread because something bad was said about some people who happen to be foreign?

In the context of law, it can be deemed as racist.

Pakistani is on the same level as English i.e. it denotes someone from Pakistan or England accordingly yet if I call someone a " ******* ****" then it is deemed racist. Are you saying if I call someone an "English ****" it is not racist? :confused:

It's pointless trying to reason with these people. They have been conditioned to treat White people as racist and believe that Whites cannot suffer from any form of racial offences.
 
The best solution here is to move out, sad state of affairs, but it's true.

Could she move in with you?

Only real thing to do if she's feeling threatenend (with out anything really happening)

I've had problems with neighbors before and its always gotten a lot worse before its gotten better :(

KaHn
 
The best solution here is to move out, sad state of affairs, but it's true.

Could she move in with you?

Am i the only one that thinks running away from trouble like this is pathetic? If you let people run you out of your own home then you sound like the kind of person who will get walked over throughout your whole life.
 
We're planning to move in together in 6 months anyway, but that doesn't help the current situation. Her parents have downsized so don't have room for her there and I'm living in my parent's box room 20 miles away, so neither of those are really options.

I suppose she could consider finding somewhere else to live for 6 months but apart from the problem family she's happy where she is so why should she be forced to move out?!
 
OP, if you're not going to straighten them out, then the police should be called. I'd hate to hear my girlfriend was being intimidated by some moron.
 
Where are the normal OCUK PC drones calling for mods to lock this thread because something bad was said about some people who happen to be foreign?

Because the overall nature of the thread is the problem is that they are a problem, not that they are foreign. ;)
 
Park sideways, paint 13s EVERYWHERE, get a black cat, put a ladder above your girlfriend's door, wear your clothes inside out and invest in some crows...
 
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