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Yay .... I'm gonna be a daddy for the first time .... but ....
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Just remember that the first month or two will feel like hell, and you will not sleep.
But it really does get better...
I found that it's all stages, 30 days, 3 months 6 months each little stages gets easier and easier as time goes on, two years later it's still hard but a lot easier than the first 30 days ....
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My Wifes 13 or so weeks preggers aswell, quite scary and exciting right now. No real mood swings, but terrible morning (and night) sickness, and she has been struggling with her back a bit. Its amazing how her smell is now, its like spidey senses. She doesnt like anything, a woman who used to drink 10 cups of tea a day, now cant stand the sight of a cuppa, sadly thats the only thing i do well in our relationship.........so im about as useful as a used teabag now
But im trying my best to be a good bloke!
We had our 1st scan yesterday and that was amazing. I think i was more emotional than the missus
But im trying my best to be a good bloke!We had our 1st scan yesterday and that was amazing. I think i was more emotional than the missus
It was never that bad for me, our son needed feeding every 3 - 4 hours so my missus would go to bed earlier in the evening, I'd stay up until a feed around midnight then she would do a feed at about 4am. I guess things would be harder if we were breastfeeding but due to a problem with her wrist my other half was taking medication at the time so we had to use formula.
Maybe we were just lucky but I didn't find having a baby anything like the horror stories you hear.
It's a piece of pee! We found out at the most inopportune moment, just after landing in Barbados for a 10 day holiday! And it wasnt morning sickness, it was all day sickness! haha. We got a girl who is now 3mth old. Bottle fed and never really given us a problem. Week 1 it was every 3-4hrs, Week 2-8 she would feed at around 11pm and sleep through til 5'ish, the mid-wife/health visitor didnt like us leaving it so long in between feeds, but even when we woke her she wouldn't feed (this was only the night feeds, through the day she was regular as clockwork on 3hrs).
At 3 months now she is sleeping through from 7:30pm until 7am. People are telling me i've got a good 'un in that respect!
It is totally life changing, at 38 like someone above, we are both late to the party, wish we had done it sooner, but she wont be our last!
We found out at the most inopportune moment, just after landing in Barbados for a 10 day holiday! And it wasnt morning sickness, it was all day sickness! haha. We got a girl who is now 3mth old. Bottle fed and never really given us a problem. Week 1 it was every 3-4hrs, Week 2-8 she would feed at around 11pm and sleep through til 5'ish, the mid-wife/health visitor didnt like us leaving it so long in between feeds, but even when we woke her she wouldn't feed (this was only the night feeds, through the day she was regular as clockwork on 3hrs).At 3 months now she is sleeping through from 7:30pm until 7am. People are telling me i've got a good 'un in that respect!
It is totally life changing, at 38 like someone above, we are both late to the party, wish we had done it sooner, but she wont be our last!
Pregnant woman are generally quite moody but some are more moody then others. My gf whilst pregnant literally turned into a selfish, evil, argumentative nightmare when she was in the first trimester.
Within the second trimester she was really good, and really enjoyed being pregnant and was really happy to show of her bump, wasn’t too bothered about the weight gain and we generally got on really well.
The third trimester she turned into a hormonal mess, crying was brought on just by mentioning the word ‘baby’…. She also turned into a consistent worrier and we spent nearly once or twice a week up at the labour ward, I was also treated like a doormat as any attempt to defend myself was met with “you’re going to leave me” and “I’m a fat useless whale” followed by floods of tears, despite her being totally rude and really hardwork.
She does actually look back on all of this and feels really sorry for her behaviour, and has done quite a bit to mend what she feels as equated to mental abuse, I put it down to her just being, well ‘pregnant’.
Our gorgeous little girl is now 5 weeks old and we’re as happy together now as we were when we first meet. Those 9 months were hardwork, but I’m proud to know I was able to stand it, not walk out and be there and my gf hasn’t forgot this…
My advice to any bloke getting their missus pregnant…
Don’t argue back
Don’t leave her if it gets tough, you helped her get pregnant, tough it out.
Learn to ignore the abuse
Hugs are pre-requisite when they start crying. And they well..!!
Don’t leave your home without your phone, don’t keep secrets as pregnant woman get paranoid, you don’t want her thinking you’re having an affair if you go out to get some time out from her such as the pub or with friends.
Remember she still loves you
Don’t expect much sex after the first few months into her pregnancy
Don’t expect her to keep the house clean and make dinners ALL the time. She will get tired, she will need rest they aren’t being lazy (well within reason I’d say) help out around the house, don’t expect it done just because she’s on maternity leave.
Don’t make comments about other woman looking fit when they are into the last three months – lethal….!!
Other then this, erm, Well, pregnant woman can be a handful, but the little joy afterwards is all worthwhile..
Within the second trimester she was really good, and really enjoyed being pregnant and was really happy to show of her bump, wasn’t too bothered about the weight gain and we generally got on really well.
The third trimester she turned into a hormonal mess, crying was brought on just by mentioning the word ‘baby’…. She also turned into a consistent worrier and we spent nearly once or twice a week up at the labour ward, I was also treated like a doormat as any attempt to defend myself was met with “you’re going to leave me” and “I’m a fat useless whale” followed by floods of tears, despite her being totally rude and really hardwork.
She does actually look back on all of this and feels really sorry for her behaviour, and has done quite a bit to mend what she feels as equated to mental abuse, I put it down to her just being, well ‘pregnant’.
Our gorgeous little girl is now 5 weeks old and we’re as happy together now as we were when we first meet. Those 9 months were hardwork, but I’m proud to know I was able to stand it, not walk out and be there and my gf hasn’t forgot this…
My advice to any bloke getting their missus pregnant…
Don’t argue back
Don’t leave her if it gets tough, you helped her get pregnant, tough it out.
Learn to ignore the abuse
Hugs are pre-requisite when they start crying. And they well..!!
Don’t leave your home without your phone, don’t keep secrets as pregnant woman get paranoid, you don’t want her thinking you’re having an affair if you go out to get some time out from her such as the pub or with friends.
Remember she still loves you
Don’t expect much sex after the first few months into her pregnancy
Don’t expect her to keep the house clean and make dinners ALL the time. She will get tired, she will need rest they aren’t being lazy (well within reason I’d say) help out around the house, don’t expect it done just because she’s on maternity leave.
Don’t make comments about other woman looking fit when they are into the last three months – lethal….!!
Other then this, erm, Well, pregnant woman can be a handful, but the little joy afterwards is all worthwhile..
Short term memory loss seems to be what my girlfriend suffers from (these were her words and not mine) and it drives me nuts! She'll argue with me, accuse me of saying something I haven't said, accuse me of doing something I haven't done and if I tell her that I haven't said or done these things and I put it down to her short term memory loss, she tells me not to bring her short term memory loss into it!!
She is seriously driving me bonkers and regardless of what I say or do to try and bring some kind of normality back into the house, it just never seems to be good enough! Hopefully there's only a couple of weeks to go. I tell ya, they just can't come quick enough!!
She is seriously driving me bonkers and regardless of what I say or do to try and bring some kind of normality back into the house, it just never seems to be good enough! Hopefully there's only a couple of weeks to go. I tell ya, they just can't come quick enough!!
It was never that bad for me, our son needed feeding every 3 - 4 hours so my missus would go to bed earlier in the evening, I'd stay up until a feed around midnight then she would do a feed at about 4am. I guess things would be harder if we were breastfeeding but due to a problem with her wrist my other half was taking medication at the time so we had to use formula.
Maybe we were just lucky but I didn't find having a baby anything like the horror stories you hear.
We did a tag team routine for the first month, I would do the night shift my wife the day shift - no breastfeeding as well, still very difficult.
Then we had a period where our daughter would only go to sleep at night with me, so I would put her to sleep for a few months, then she changed for my wife.
Now everything is great 2 years old and very independent.
Great advice, kind of sums everything up nicely. I thought of it as pregnancy being just a bad holiday, you fight and make up, things are not always good, you sleep a lot and tire quickly, but and it's the big "but" that'll get you through it: it will end and the second you see your baby for the first time you forget everything that was ever wrong in your world.
My mates just had a kid who's now 8 months or so old.
He was telling me he got a total of 7 hours sleep last week and 10 the week before as the kid is teething and at that age they seem to be constantly ill as their immune system gets up to speed so the screaming through the night was particularly intense, this all started just after the kid got through the had to be fed every 2-3 hours at all times of the day and night phase where they got even LESS sleep for 6 months.
Every morning as he's leaving the house to go to work the kid goes to sleep for 3-4 hours and pretty much starts screaming again when they go to bed.
My other mates kid, barely makes a squeak like EVER and sleeps all night.
Good luck with the baby lottery my friend.
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Go on there Al son.
I told you it was for more than just peeing out of.
I told you it was for more than just peeing out of.
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My other half had sickness all through the pregnancy but no mood swings, I even had projectile vomit in my face during labour, which was pretty awesome.
Any chance that you could get me a place on some of the training courses that your work puts you through vonnie boy? I need the 'Dealing with aggressive behaviour' course and the 'Learning to keep your cool no matter what's course
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What lines?
I think you should get back with your ex?
Wtf? How long have you been with this woman?
Was this a planned pregnancy?
