opinion on bf/gf cheating....

I'm all for free play when you're young enough and free to do so but just don't let it become a habit otherwise you'll be in denial that this is normal behaviour when things get more serious.

I'm not saying that cheating is ok, but it's best to get it out of your system when you have no responsibilities nor dependants. My son is 16 and swapping girls like footy cards. My wife doesn't like it. Wouldn't you prefer to let him get it out of his system now, or play around when he has your grandchildren?

As for the OP, I don't think there's a man or woman who hasn't ever thought about it at some stage.. whether just in fantasy or because they have met someone. Our lives are never linear to think nothing or something would never happen. It's how we deal with them at the time that counts which is where my above comment comes in.
 
........ooooops, I dont know who is male and who is female or who is a bit of both :p

My sarcasm detector fails me early in the morning it seems.

My answer in short is I would have have forgiven a cheating partner dependant on the situation and circumstances.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21310134 said:
I'm a girl and I consider mental infidelity to be as bad if not worse than physical infidelity. When I'm with a boyfriend, I want to know that his mind is on me 100% of the time and if he's looking at other skanks then I can't be his princess anymore. If I'm not his princess then he can't be my prince and that is far more important than whether he actually puts his winkle some place he shouldn't (like he tried to with me 4 weeks ago, claiming it was a mistake and he 'just slipped').
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lol good luck with that, he will be mind cheating on you all day... its what men do!
 
I live in Jeremy Kyle land & am surrounded by Cheaters. :(
I hate knowing about it & just wish the people involved would keep it to themselves.
As for me personally I live a quite open life & am quite casual about sex but having said that if I Commit to a Relationship then I am as loyal as a working Labrador. :o + :p
 
Women are crazy animals, my girlfriend had a dream I did something with another women and she got the hump with me!
 
_Jimlad_ said:
lol good luck with that, he will be mind cheating on you all day... its what men do!
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Sebastian - never did this but was a terrible bore.

Tobe - never did this (I think) and was great fun but did want to watch 'those films'. Revolting. Had to be dropped.

David - never did this but left me to join the circus, he said.

William - oh wonderful William! But his eyes would follow other woman when out and about and he could never be my prince.

Harry - more of a friend than a boyfriend but I think he always had that cheating side to him, always looking around for something better.
 
Magnolia is a...........girl?

Say it aint so, the 'guy' has such a dry sense of humour I do not know if he is being serious.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21311513 said:
Sebastian - never did this but was a terrible bore.

Tobe - never did this (I think) and was great fun but did want to watch 'those films'. Revolting. Had to be dropped.

David - never did this but left me to join the circus, he said.

William - oh wonderful William! But his eyes would follow other woman when out and about and he could never be my prince.

Harry - more of a friend than a boyfriend but I think he always had that cheating side to him, always looking around for something better.
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you're wrong. men think about sex with other women a lot, no matter how fit or lovely you are, we see the sexyness in others!

after all

Men like to lust
Women like to be lusted after
 
[FnG]magnolia;21311513 said:
Sebastian - never did this but was a terrible bore.

Tobe - never did this (I think) and was great fun but did want to watch 'those films'. Revolting. Had to be dropped.

David - never did this but left me to join the circus, he said.

William - oh wonderful William! But his eyes would follow other woman when out and about and he could never be my prince.

Harry - more of a friend than a boyfriend but I think he always had that cheating side to him, always looking around for something better.
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Sorry but you're delusional. You'll find the men who say they don't do it are just good liars.

Males are hardwired to look for suitable mates just like women do but only culture deems that we should only have one so that's what happens the majority of the time.
 
Admiral Huddy said:
I'm all for free play when you're young enough and free to do so but just don't let it become a habit otherwise you'll be in denial that this is normal behaviour when things get more serious.

I'm not saying that cheating is ok, but it's best to get it out of your system when you have no responsibilities nor dependants. My son is 16 and swapping girls like footy cards. My wife doesn't like it. Wouldn't you prefer to let him get it out of his system now, or play around when he has your grandchildren?

As for the OP, I don't think there's a man or woman who hasn't ever thought about it at some stage.. whether just in fantasy or because they have met someone. Our lives are never linear to think nothing or something would never happen. It's how we deal with them at the time that counts which is where my above comment comes in.
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Is he cheating, or just playing the field? They are totally different. Though, as I said earlier if you think you are going to cheat on a partner then it will often be better to just do it, and see if that relieves the urge. You can then concentrate 100% on your relationship. There is no point throwing away a relationship because you fancy putting your end in someone else one time.

As for the argument, "if you're relationship is good/worthwhile, then you wouldn't feel the urge". I disagree with this fundamentally.
 
Lol at the replies to magnolia.

Op, my gf agrees that you did the right thing, so at least one girl is not crazy.
 
Moses said:
Is he getting it out of his system, or is he just getting into a dysfunctional habit?
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I would hope the former.. but as I said, there is a line between what is growing up and it becoming a dysfunctional habit like you correctly state. I wouldn't and don't encourage what he does. I would prefer him learn the hard way now, while he's young if it makes him a more sensible and mature adult.
 
You always want what you cant have, but when you loose what you've got, you'll probably regret it

Maybe

I dont think you cheated tho, well not really
 
@Huddy
The town he lives is pretty mega for Doris though mate, Chelmsford is big enough to spend a few decades just going round all the estates & outer towns. :p County town of Essex just remove the Es.
 
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