Do you go to church if you dont believe in God?

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Ok your girlfriend wants you to go to church with her on a weekly basis (sundays possibly more)

Your argument is you dont believe in God so why go to church?

Her argument is that i should go to support her and its a family event (her family all go to church and most of her friends from church)- you dont have to believe in God. Its something she loves and is a big part of her life which she wants to share with you.


Do you go and tolerate it? Or not?

It kinda feels that she would want a boyfriend who believes in God but if he doesnt then she would try to convince him (constantly!) to go to church and then he would believe in God etc
 
Nope, I would not.

I will go to church and pay my respects in the event of loss of life. I will go to church and give my blessing through my presence in the event of a Christening or Wedding.

I certainly wouldn't go on a consistent basis.
 
It does sound like she doesn't want her family/relatives to know/think that she is with someone who is not a Christian - therefore she tries to get you to play pretend. That will have to be resolved eventually so better sooner than later. Why would anyone push someone on issues of religion(?)
 
Is she good in bed? Is church/faith getting in the way of this? Does she stay in the kitchen as her role??

If there are any mix of no's probably best to not bother with religion in a serious way.
 
No I wouldn't, its not part of anything I believe and i would argue if its something that her and her family believe in that much I would not feel comfortable sitting there and pretending.

Unless of course she is happy for me to sit through it and then explain (if asked) that I don't believe in any of it. That would probaly cause more embarrasment for her than me not attending.

If she was still adamant that she would like me to attend I would probaly compromise and attend every now and then. However it certainly would not be reguarly and I would still stipulate that i would not lie to her family and friends if asked about my own beliefs.
 
It's a tricky one, and I guess it all comes down to would you be happy living with that lie? Or is it a compromise too far?

I was asked to read a passage from the bible during my sisters wedding, but after a lot of thought I told her I'd feel like a fraud reading something like that in a church when I wasn't religous, but I'd be happy to read something else (as I did at my Grandfathers funeral).
 
The irony, a church thread, and a scientist in your sig who beleived in god.

As already said, for the sake of interaction between your fair maidens lips and your *******, get your arse down church.
 
I went to church a few times after being invited by some females, and then I vowed never again.

If its a theist then I'll never wanna be with it. its religious then I'll never put my thing in it, oh oh oh, oh oh oh oh oh oh ......
 
My brother-in-law does something similar, his wife wants to go to church and helps out there so he does too, despite really being agnostic.

Personally I wouldn't go, but then again I highly doubt I would be in a relationship with somebody who went to church regularly.
 
Agnostic here, but..

I would tolerate a monthly visit, and endure it for her sake (if I really loved her). But weekly? Forget it. If she expects you to visit that frequently then it shows how much she respects your own beliefs...
 
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bhavv said:
I went to church a few times after being invited by some females, and then I vowed never again.

If its a theist then I'll never wanna be with it. its religious then I'll never put my thing in it, oh oh oh, oh oh oh oh oh oh ......
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Catchy! :p
 
Surfer said:
Ok your girlfriend wants you to go to church with her on a weekly basis (sundays possibly more)

Your argument is you dont believe in God so why go to church?

Her argument is that i should go to support her and its a family event (her family all go to church and most of her friends from church)- you dont have to believe in God. Its something she loves and is a big part of her life which she wants to share with you.


Do you go and tolerate it? Or not?

It kinda feels that she would want a boyfriend who believes in God but if he doesnt then she would try to convince him (constantly!) to go to church and then he would believe in God etc
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It depends on just how opposed to the specific religion you are....which would also impact on your relationship in the medium to long term anyway as it would be difficult to maintain a relationship with someone who a large and important part of their life you are opposed to.

I think many people are confused about what a Church Service really entails....most of the time it is simply a sermon based on relevant topics of the day, moral conundrums and ethical questions....it is not really that different from listening to anyone discuss such things, only a Vicar or Priest will refer to lessons or examples in the Biblical Scripture that may relate to those issues....you do not have to accept them.

Obviously there is a certain amount of religous hoohaa, such a singing a hymn or saying a prayer....simply do what I do and use the time to think of how you are going to solve that Skyrim puzzle or something....

My wife is Catholic and I am not...it has never been an issue....I go along to church with her sometimes, sometimes I don't.
 
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