Do you need to experience love to live a proper life

Threepwood · 11 Apr 2012 at 22:54

Spenty said:
Of course but even then people fall out with both parents and still live happy and successful lives...

Yes, ofc, but if you were not loved by your parents then how will you know how to love when you are older? Possible ofc, but, important nether the less. Esp when it comes to self love I guess.

steve-h · 11 Apr 2012 at 22:55

Spenty said:
There will come a time in your life where dying will be a lot more enjoyable than being stuck in a chair all day, soiling yourself, watching Jeremy Kyle's grandson give people life lessons.

I wont hesitate to end it all. To get into a relationship just so there's someone just as miserable as you slowly dying with you seems a massive waste of time to me. Even this beats it:

Castiel · 11 Apr 2012 at 22:55

shadesofgrey said:
Would say romantic love is of the least importance.

To be loved by our parents is the most important thing.

I would say the opposite, although my experience would be different from yours and my parents are not what could be considered typical......

shadesofgrey said:
Yes, ofc, but if you were not loved by your parents then how will you know how to love when you are older? Possible ofc, but, important nether the less. Esp when it comes to self love I guess.

I know how to love because my parents taught me one thing, how not to.......I understand the importance of family (as in my wife and son) because I know what it means to have none.

mattyprice4004 · 11 Apr 2012 at 22:57

Self love?

Castiel · 11 Apr 2012 at 22:58

That is self-gratification...

Rachmaninov · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:03

Some people say there's someone out there for everyone. There isn't. Not if you have some sort of respectable standard; you may simply never meet the right person. Therefore romantic love is an optional part of life. I don't believe in "falling in love" without knowing the person; it's just delusion based on physical attraction.

RoboCod · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:05

Spenty said:
Was in a relationship for 3 years. I have experienced love but like others have said I don't believe it's a necessity to have a fully functional life.

What, is 3 years a lot and does it mean you have learnt all you need to know? Everyone needs love in their life to function properly, whether it be love from friends, family or partner. I've seen people who have lived in solitude and they are very different people.

Pixel said:
I want to live life for myself, so I guess I'll never know 'love' because every woman that finds out I don't want kids or marriage quickly disappears from my sight.

The dream of every British woman is to have a baby then sit at home watching TV, stuffing her face with chocolate while the man goes out to work. Sorry, but something is seriously wrong with that, especially today with all our 'equality' and 'positive discrimination' and I'm not the only one who thinks so.

Well you've been looking in the wrong places then. I think you need to broaden your search parameters.

Threepwood · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:08

Castiel said:
I would say the opposite, although my experience would be different from yours and my parents are not what could be considered typical......

I know how to love because my parents taught me one thing, how not to.......I understand the importance of family (as in my wife and son) because I know what it means to have none.

My dad is a right ****. Just so you know

Maybe it would be eaiser if my mum was too?

Maybe it is more a case of getting one thing or the other and not mixed then?

It is a hard one with no hard and fast rules I guess.

Edit: Do you have any self love issues then?

Fuzz · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:14

What is this love you speak of? :confused:

I've grown up where I feel no one has given a toss about me (or the toss that they do give is not the unconditional one it should be), so that kinda reflects on my own outlook in life.
I just get on with it. I'm not close to family and haven't been close or "in love" with any girlfriend for years.
Lust, yes, love no. The Women I've met lately just aren't wired up right, are down right illogical and I don't want to be with them.

I have loved..... but that's another story..

Castiel · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:14

shadesofgrey said:
My dad is a right ****. Just so you know Maybe it would be eaiser if my mum was too?

Maybe it is more a case of getting one thing or the other and not mixed then?

It is a hard one with no hard and fast rules I guess.

Edit: Do you have any self love issues then?

I don't have any self-love issues or any psychological issues relating to my childhood....I dealt with it, both at the time and when I was eventually given a chance......I spent a much of my childhood split between two countries and in childrens homes in both.....I also spent time in a Gang rehabilitation centre, all before I was 15.

Neither of my parents were worthy of the title and that simply made me more determined to not be like them.

Threepwood · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:18

That's sad

, but a great outcome, well done

PGdude · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:20

steve-h said:
Death is a tiny part of your life though.

I thought death was eternal

Begbie · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:26

Fuzz said:
What is this love you speak of?

I just get on with it. I'm not close to family and haven't been close or "in love" with any girlfriend for years.
Lust, yes, love no. The Women I've met lately just aren't wired up right, are down right illogical and I don't want to be with them.

I have loved..... but that's another story..

I pretty much feel the same way, but it really doesn't seem to concern me. I don't care much for finding a women and falling in love, I just don't see much of a point in it really.

Maybe when I get a bit older I shall change my mind.

Castiel · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:29

shadesofgrey said:
That's sad , but a great outcome, well done

It is what it is, life is sometimes hard, as long as you learn from it (in time in my case) then it can be turned into a good thing. I was lucky insofar that someone recognised my potential and took the time to first put me on a more straight, less destructive path, and secondly take the time to trace my Grandmother in England so that I could have a safer, more stable environment.

He basically saved my life.

Threepwood · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:49

I see. So it was an act of kindness/love for another human being that set you on the right path in the end of the old you, and the beginning of the new.

Nitefly · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:53

Love is all you need

Castiel · 11 Apr 2012 at 23:58

shadesofgrey said:
I see. So it was an act of kindness/love for another human being that set you on the right path in the end of the old you.

The man did it out of what he considered an obligation to me rather than altruism. I have great respect and gratitude to him nonetheless and we did form a deep friendship over the years.

manoz · 12 Apr 2012 at 01:10

I was at my happiest when I was in love. I think love and faith/belief is the most important part of being human and is what makes us human. No longer in love though, got dumped with a text message after a year and wish the bitch didn't exist, ok that's a bit OT lol

Begbie · 12 Apr 2012 at 01:57

manoz said:
I was at my happiest when I was in love. I think love and faith/belief is the most important part of being human and is what makes us human. No longer in love though, got dumped with a text message after a year and wish the bitch didn't exist, ok that's a bit OT lol

Think thats mostly called lust.

I personally think love has to be mutal.

manoz · 12 Apr 2012 at 02:55

Begbie said:
Think thats mostly called lust.

I personally think love has to be mutal.

Id like to believe it was mutual but since my brother died last month I've not been the same, hadn't talked to her much and picked on the littlest things she did wrong :[