Promiscuous girls/women

I now have "Mysterious Girl" by Peter Andre going around my damned head, except it's going "OooooooOOOOOh, promiscuous girl...."

Damn it.
 
I don't see what difference it makes. I've had a lot more sexual partners than my current girlfriend. its come up in conversation and it bothers neither of us one bit.

In fact she's thankful in a sense its means that little extra experience I have means she enjoys it more than she ever has done.
 
Spenty said:
Why not the Nelly Furtado song Promiscuous Girl that I posted earlier in the thread? :p
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Can't say that sticks in my head tbh!

I suppose I have the one I mentioned lodged in my brain because I had to put up with my sister playing that Peter Andre stuff as a teenager and it's haunted me since!
 
Saying "I don't care if my ex had slept with X amount of people because I'm a mature adult & don't have petty male jealousy/religious style attitudes towards female empowerment" isn't the same as "I don't care if my X used to beat up people".
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I've underlined the irrelevant remarks which just show your own prejudice. You have an opinion and people who disagree with you have an opinion. Are they all petty jealous man-boys? :p

Ok perhaps i need to be clearer. Say you find out your current gf was the proverbial bike in the town. Had a habit when going out of pulling whatever guy was there.

Also same situation but applies to males as well. i.e. he had been round many of the ladies of the town.

My question is - is your choosing to go out with each other a choice?
Or is it more to do with acting on impulse/instinct. If its a choice to be with someone then choosing requires discrimination. Which means not doing something, not choosing something. If someone has many many sexual encounters then are they choosing to have sex with that person or just to have sex because they like sex? Are they basically acting on the instinct of the moment? So the who matters not as long as its fun and both people are having fun.

So to tie this back to what i'm saying.... would it make a difference to go out with someone who had 50+ partners and someone with say 7 relationships. If its an impulse thing and not deliberate choice then how can that 50+ person NOW suddenly say "i am in a committed relationship now and wont act on impulse and have sex with other people"

The past behaviour seems to be the opposite of what they would be doing now (steady relationship) no? Is it a case of trying many until you find the right one then..someone they could be in a steady relationship with?

One objectively causes harm, hitting people is a harmful act on multiple levels.

Sleeping with X amount of people isn't objectively harmful at all, quite the opposite as it's a pleasurable act.
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Wasn't my approach at all you have misunderstood me. Nevermind tried another explanation to make myself clearer. (see above about choice)

If someone i was going out with had 50+ sexual encounters it wouldnt be a total deal breaker for me but i would want to understand why they did it.

You are free to think that, as long as you judge yourself & men by the same criteria & don't go pushing that view into anybody else's face (where it isn't welcome).
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Where did i give the impression otherwise? :confused: Though you seem to be quite free with your judgements of those who dont agree with your opinion. Pot and kettle?

elmarko1234 said:
Seems like we have many man-boys with petty childish hangups based on misogynistic archaic concepts of female purity
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Surfer said:
If someone i was going out with had 50+ sexual encounters it wouldnt be a total deal breaker for me but i would want to understand why they did it.
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For the same reason that most guys would do it if they could be as picky about who they did it with. As most guys are up for a shag, the woman can be more selective of who she chooses. There aren't as many girls up for it with randoms, so guys get slimmer and worse pickings.
 
Surfer said:
I've underlined the irrelevant remarks which just show your own prejudice. You have an opinion and people who disagree with you have an opinion. Are they all petty jealous man-boys? :p
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I never said all, just some of the attitudes in this thread & in society, I don't recall saying every single man - do you recall me saying that?.

Surfer said:
Ok perhaps i need to be clearer. Say you find out your current gf was the proverbial bike in the town. Had a habit when going out of pulling whatever guy was there.

Also same situation but applies to males as well. i.e. he had been round many of the ladies of the town.

My question is - is your choosing to go out with each other a choice?
Or is it more to do with acting on impulse/instinct. If its a choice to be with someone then choosing requires discrimination. Which means not doing something, not choosing something. If someone has many many sexual encounters then are they choosing to have sex with that person or just to have sex because they like sex? Are they basically acting on the instinct of the moment? So the who matters not as long as its fun and both people are having fun.
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Isn't that just having a preference for reserved people who share similar beliefs to you (which as I said, there is nothing wrong with that).

The man-child I'm referring too is the average joe public guy who think it's all good if he sleeps around while single, but it's dirty if a women does.

Surfer said:
So to tie this back to what i'm saying.... would it make a difference to go out with someone who had 50+ partners and someone with say 7 relationships. If its an impulse thing and not deliberate choice then how can that 50+ person NOW suddenly say "i am in a committed relationship now and wont act on impulse and have sex with other people"

The past behaviour seems to be the opposite of what they would be doing now (steady relationship) no? Is it a case of trying many until you find the right one then..someone they could be in a steady relationship with?
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Never everybody behaves the same in a relationship to outside of one, neither do they think the same as you - not a problem obviously.

Surfer said:
If someone i was going out with had 50+ sexual encounters it wouldnt be a total deal breaker for me but i would want to understand why they did it.
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Which is obviously a perfectly acceptable thing to ask, assuming you would have no problem being treated the same by your partner.

Surfer said:
Where did i give the impression otherwise? :confused: Though you seem to be quite free with your judgements of those who dont agree with your opinion. Pot and kettle?
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I never said it applied to you, I was referencing the hypocritical viewpoints in the thread (man sleeps around = cool, women sleeps around = bad).

If you are not a whiny jealous man-child (who is doing it out of petty male attitudes) why are you defending yourself?, the comment obviously didn't apply to you.

I said your views are fine, as it seems like you not only apply it to you (but also other men - which is fine).
 
When I was in the Navy we did a West Indies deployment and as part of that we spent 2weeks alongside in Roosevelt Roads naval base. While there I boned some US Coast Guard lass, who ended up doing 4 other of my mates(I was second I found later). While on a night out some of my mates were taking the **** out of her and asked her who was the best in the sack, she said I was.

My mum was so proud when I told her!
 
^ haha, lovely wordy. :D


I guess I'll sum myself up by saying for me it's just a question of compatibility and peace of mind. Not that I'm jealous of other people, there's only one of me, so hopefully they're with me for me, so other people don't factor in. The peace of mind is purely because I know that she doesn't have a predilection towards other types (it's like me trying a certain flavour drink. If I have it, it'll change the way I view other drinks, so even if I find a drink that I really like and want to stick with, I'll occasionally be reminded of the other drink. Also why I couldn't just drink lager or Guinness. :p :D).

Not explaining myself well, but meh.



Like I said before, I don't care what people do, I'm after merely one girl, the rest can do what they want, it's their lives. And the best thing? Hopefully that one girl will have the same viewpoint as me, so we won't be disturbing anyone at all. ^_^ :D
 
wordy said:
When I was in the Navy we did a West Indies deployment and as part of that we spent 2weeks alongside in Roosevelt Roads naval base. While there I boned some US Coast Guard lass, who ended up doing 4 other of my mates(I was second I found later). While on a night out some of my mates were taking the **** out of her and asked her who was the best in the sack, she said I was.

My mum was so proud when I told her!
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And we all think people in the Navy are all strict and stuff, and are risking their lives. Wtf :confused::D:p

I joke :P
 
Pate said:
^ haha, lovely wordy. :D


I guess I'll sum myself up by saying for me it's just a question of compatibility and peace of mind. Not that I'm jealous of other people, there's only one of me, so hopefully they're with me for me, so other people don't factor in. The peace of mind is purely because I know that she doesn't have a predilection towards other types (it's like me trying a certain flavour drink. If I have it, it'll change the way I view other drinks, so even if I find a drink that I really like and want to stick with, I'll occasionally be reminded of the other drink. Also why I couldn't just drink lager or Guinness. :p :D).

Not explaining myself well, but meh.



Like I said before, I don't care what people do, I'm after merely one girl, the rest can do what they want, it's their lives. And the best thing? Hopefully that one girl will have the same viewpoint as me, so we won't be disturbing anyone at all. ^_^ :D
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Are you trying to say that you are a virgin and only ever want to sleep with one woman who loses her virginity to you? And when you relationship fails, as the VAST majority do you'll just abstain from sex?
 
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