House husband

Ya interesting about all the sexism - I find it interesting to watch all the women pushing the strollers and not seeing many dudes ...

anyways my friend back in the states is a house husband and is working on bringing up his 2nd kid now; he says its a piece of cake and all those peeps whom say its so tough...bleh work sucks staying at home with the kid is cool he says.
 
It's a blessing, enjoy the time. From 9 months on you will probably be seeing a few firsts that your misses will miss too.

Just make sure you get out of the house into the fresh air and dont be afraid to use the car if you want her to nod off, you'll learn, again: Enjoy the blessing mate.
 
Wouldn't bother me, and would happily do it should the need arise and it's just a different way of contributing to the household. I do most of the cooking and cleaning anyway, so it'd be nothing new :p
 
My girlfriend is likely to earn far more money than me with her being an accountant, so should we settle down etc I sense it will be me looking after kids all day after the initial maternity period, given she can't cook to save her life either. Can't say I will mind that much. Long way before that though so might never come to that! As a child though I went to a childminder and loved it.
 
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jeff6475 said:
stay at home husband sounds like heaven
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Clearly you've never done it!!

I had the misfortune of being one for 9 months and it was hell on earth, never again would I do this. Its non stop hell. Give me 12 hour days, 7 days a week any day of the week!!!!
 
LOL groan, quality.

On a serious note, I'm all for this. Now pay gaps are decreasing (mine certainly is with my Mrs, she frequently brings home more than me these days) there's less reason for Dad to go to work and Mum to stay at home. Where it makes financial sense to do so, there's a just reason. You need sufficent financial backing to give your child a good start in life, however you achieve that is irrelevant.
 
I was talking at work about it, and a couple of the women seemed offended that men could get paternity leave instead of a woman getting maternity... as if maternity leave was earned by going through pregnancy.
 
I turned down a 6 month extension to my then contracting role to look after our little one.

One of the better decisions I've ever made. We bonded, argued, made up and watched TV then played in the garden. We then had lunch, a nap (her not me), tidied up the place (me, not her) and got dinner sorted out for mum to come home.

Did I tell anyone I was a 'house husband'? I did but I felt a little ashamed, not of what I was doing but of the title. It doesn't even come close to explaining what the stay-at-home person does.
 
I was a house husband for 2 years, looking after my daughter from the age of 2 to 4.
I have to say ..... I bloody enjoyed it !!
Taking her to nursery picking her up, going to the park, shopping, doing everything together, it really bought a closer together and we had lots of fun too.
I'm not saying it was easy, it wasn't, but i'm really glad i did it, great experience.

Would i do it again now ?
Not sure, it's something i'd have think reallly hard about.
 
I would love to do this. My daughter is two now and goes to nursery 3 days a week. Nursery at such an early age has never sat well with me; it is longer than some working days! She is there from around 8am until 17:15/17:30! My wife has gone part time for a while to keep it down to 3 days a week, but soon she will be there 5 days a week; so a longer amount of time than she spends with her parents. Feels just wrong imo.

If my wife earned the same as I do I would happily jack in my job for a few years to look after her. My wife wants to work, which I find weird; talk about role reversal! Who would not want to spend such quality time with their children?!?!? This has been a point of tension between us I must admit, as we could survive on my wage alone so I do not know why she wont jack hers in.

Anyway; it would be hard work, but I would have loads of fun with my daughter. I envy you; I really do. Just make sure you get out everyday, rain or shine. There are plenty of places to take your little one, where you might not have thought to go. Other thing I would say is sky+; when they are asleep you can get some quality viewing in. Or a game you can pause and just play that. If you are expected to make the family dinner, then get a slow cooker - great meals with hardly any prep time.

It will be hard, but enjoy it. It will provide loads of happy memories for you.
 
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I loved the interaction with her as a young one but really missed the adult interaction that a job gives you.

I agree - I'd have to consider whether I'd do it again, even though it was amazing the first time around.

e : I was talking to pmbuzz for clarity.
 
No because I've too much pride in that I want to be the bread-winner of a household. Could never do it.

I'm living in the medieval times.
 
TRNC said:
Clearly you've never done it!!
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Man has a point.

I would certainly advise thinking very very carefully before deciding to become a house husband or stay at home dad or whatever you want to call it.

Whilst it had it's moments, I wouldn't say it did my relationship with my son many favors, I get on much better with my children now I'm not the main carer.

Also because I kept my professional relationships going I maintained a level of sanity, I found and still find many of the 'professional' mums incredibly vacuous and irritating. Without some form of work to escape to, I think I would have really lost it.

Having had the experience, I would say it is not for all men, maybe a patience or nurturing thing?

Definitely not something to be ashamed of doing though, I still think it's tougher than going to work, and I would choose it again over putting my children in child care outside of the family ( I know that there isn't a lot of choice for many, and I'm not criticising those who do, simply saying how glad I am I had the choice not to)

It's getting like mum's net in here, quick talk about computers!
 
I would certainly advise thinking very very carefully before deciding to become a house husband or stay at home dad or whatever you want to call it.

Whilst it had it's moments, I wouldn't say it did my relationship with my son many favors, I get on much better with my children now I'm not the main carer.
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Last comment from me and I know it's different strokes for different folks but I really bonded with my daughter, far more than if I'd not been at home with her for those 6 months.

OP, do what you think is best. Whatever you choose to do will be the right thing to do :)


e : flippant, just read your reply more thoroughly. Welp.
 
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