House husband

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Anyone who frequents these boards a house husband?

I may be forced into being one (at least for a few month) not by design but because the job market is dead. She starts back at work next Tuesday after the birth of our son and I will end up left at home holding the baby!

Anyone else in this situation? If so why and do you enjoy it?
 
I've always wondered about this, it feels wrong but if the situation was right it seems like...why not?

You just gotta break down the sterotypes
 
I'm just dreading having my son all day. He's still young and at the stage where he doesn't interact to a level where I can get involved (not walking or anything) so I'm at a loss what to do a lot of the time :p

It's not ideal and I need to be in work for me and the family to be able to enjoy life (I.e. have money to spend on activities rather than just paying the bills) but I will just have to get on with it.

Just imagining the weird looks I will probably get at a toddlers group full of mothers :p
 
My Wife and I just had our first kid. She left work and is a full time Mum now - I do not envy her either.

My comfy office job (though I complain about it regularly) is far more preferable than a screaming baby to me.

If I was in your situation I would be very careful to make sure you have enough time to chase jobs still. A baby will eat so much of your time (as I guess you already know).
 
You will need to develop a bit of a thick skin against the sexism, but you should try to enjoy the experience. Not many people will get the opportunity, and I'm sure you'll find lots to do with your son, loads of house wives manage it. Just don't feel you have to justify being a house husband to people, because you don't.
 
I think a big problem with our society was the move from one family member working to two - it can't be good for the developmental of a child to have both parents absent most of the time.

Take the opportunity that few will get to really help in your child's development.
 
Personally, I wouldn't have an issue with being one myself. If my wife wanted to be the breadwinner and if we were going to be alright financially then it would give me the perfect excuse to spend a lot of time with my child. Just because you wouldn't be contributing financially to the household doesn't mean you aren't contributing at all.
 
my partner will soon be earning, as a starting salary, close to my earnings. If we didn't want to move, or start a family, then I would happily let her take the brunt for a few years :D

However, out of pride, I like to work. If I wasn't able to, then yes, I would happily adopt the role of HH.

Given my partner is 9 years younger than me, retirement for me will be great as she'll still be out working whilst I play Sudoku
 
Yeah I have loved the time with him, seeing him develop from a tiny little thing into a 9 month old ball of energy who is starting to talk and walk has been a fantastic privilege I am glad to have been able to see.

As someone said i am still setting aside time on an evening for some job hunting and I'm studying for a qualification on Fridays which might help me get back in work.

It's strange because I was far and away the most highly paid of my social group and always pushing people to go and do things and financially supporting mates to be able to do this. Luckily my mates have been marvellous and have returned a lot of favours which I never wanted or expected and they are giving me no grief apart from calling me a layabout scumbag and man of leisure :p
 
Honestly it's not something that ever bothers me.

I'm a part-time house husband and I love the fact that I get 2 days a week at home alone with my daughter, it's time I will miss when I'll work 5 days a week again.

I'm a contract worker and make sure I have at least one full day at home per week and it's the best thing in the world to know that you have one day to do whatever you want.

If anything a lot of the people I know are jealous of me :D
 
I did it for about 3 years with my two terrors, and yes you do get funny looks from the mums at toddler groups, till they realise you're a stay at home dad, then they are OK.

I freelanced evenings and weekends while the missus worked during the day, so we kept both incomes, I'm lucky my work is flexible.

It's mostly hard work, and pretty boring the rest of the time, makes you appreciate a full time job.

Of course as soon as the children went to school the missus took redundancy! Now she stays home, mind you so do I, but I'm working, she's watching 'Homes under the hammer'.
 
flippant said:
I did it for about 3 years with my two terrors, and yes you do get funny looks from the mums at toddler groups, till they realise you're a stay at home dad, then they are OK.

I freelanced evenings and weekends while the missus worked during the day, so we kept both incomes, I'm lucky my work is flexible.

It's mostly hard work, and pretty boring the rest of the time, makes you appreciate a full time job.

Of course as soon as the children went to school the missus took redundancy! Now she stays home, mind you so do I, but I'm working, she's watching 'Homes under the hammertoe,'.
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I always get funny looks when I pick my girl up from school, or take her for a walk or to the doctors... But yeah when people know a little more about you they relax a little...
 
Whilst I can see that it's hard work for my wife (we have a 3-month old) I do envy the bonding experience that they get from the baby classes, coffee groups and the like. As an example this week my wife is out of the house *every* day at either a social meeting or an interactive class for our son.

On the flip side, I have no problem with her dealing with the night feeds and such like during the work week :p I gotta go to work the next day, she doesn't :D
 
K1LLSW1TCH said:
Personally, I wouldn't have an issue with being one myself. If my wife wanted to be the breadwinner and if we were going to be alright financially then it would give me the perfect excuse to spend a lot of time with my child. Just because you wouldn't be contributing financially to the household doesn't mean you aren't contributing at all.
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Kind of agree with this.

Ignore the stereotypes its rubbish.

The only problem I'd have is that I want to be successful, not for anyone else, but for me.

kd
 
I'd love to be a house husband. I think women fighting for women's rights really screwed themselves over. Who wouldn't want to stay at home and not work??! Now because of their feminist meddling I don't get paid as much!

;)
 
I've been a house husband/stay at home dad for two years now with our little girl. It's brilliant. The missus was off work for the first twelve months, so we had a lot of time together. Now the good lady is back full time and I'm running the house.

It's certainly more interesting as they get older and are able to interact more, but you'll find plenty of things to occupy your time (start making bread - it's great fun!). When they get older, then the fun can really begin!

Best decision we ever made.
 
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