Costly mistake, how would you deal with it?

Justintime

Justintime

Justintime

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So basically i 'had' a PC with a Core i7 920, 6gb DDR3 Asus P6T SE, 60gb Agility 3, low end radeon 6 series, forgot what and 2TB WD black that i did up for a mate (he bought the parts and had it for a while, then wanted Win 7 instead of Vista). I've been after the bloke for 2 months to collect it and hes made excuses every weekend.
Problem happened today : My girl was cleaning out some old pcs for me and somehow mistook it for one of them and its in the skip and apparently the skips been emptied :o Plausible as it was in an older case he had for years, but it was on the other side of the room and i told her not to touch those ones (its her idea, i'm not forcing her lol, i was at work).

The said mate is putting all of the blame on me, and i have no qualms about replacing the kit, its the fact hes shouting at me that its my fault and is taking no responsibilty for not collecting it. Am i totally wrong here? (my favour meter has taken a nose dive since i tell ya).
 
Personally, if it was me I'd take full responsibility. Well tbh I'd hope that my gf would pay half with me as it was her that skipped it.
 
It is both your fault and your girlfriends fault that his property was put in a skip. You should have made clear which computers were scrap to your girlfriend. If you did then she owes at least a go in the poo.

I would expect a lot of people to shout in his circumstance tbh.
 
Sorry but I would put this one on you. While it is in your possession it was your responsibility to look after it. Him not collecting is a seperate matter. The fact he's a mate makes me think that you should replace it rather than lose a friend.
 
All your girlfriends fault. Since I'm quite cynical I suspect she may have thrown it out on purpose, thinking if the case looks a bit shabby and he's not collected it then it's not worth much and that'll teach you for leaving it lying around.

In any case, you're responsible to your mate to replace it - but just give him the money and tell him to shove it up his ****, your girlfriend is responsible for giving you the money.

If she says something like "I didn't know it was worth that much" then that's pretty much a sign she did throw it out on purpose.
 
I'd not be impressed with my mate for not collecting it in all that time but then again couldn't you have just taken it round to him at some point over the period you must have had it for?

That he should have picked it up does seem like a separate issue from the fact that you are responsible for it while it is in your care - with that said if he's shouting at you then it sounds like he doesn't think you'll replace it or maybe it's partially misplaced annoyance at himself for not picking it up when he should have done. Whatever it is I think I'd be handing the money back and telling him to fix it himself, you were doing him a favour and he didn't show enough courtesy to pick it up when you asked him.

I'm not sure about the girlfriend situation there - technically she's probably due to pay you/him the money but then again it's a bit daft to let her throw things out when there's such potential for it to go wrong.
 
semi-pro waster said:
I'm not sure about the girlfriend situation there - technically she's probably due to pay you/him the money but then again it's a bit daft to let her throw things out when there's such potential for it to go wrong.
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Reading between the lines in the OP... she wanted to throw the stuff out. He said it was ok since the skip was there. He said not that one, on the other side of the room. She threw it out anyway. My guess is she did it on purpose. In any case it's clearly her fault it was thrown out, but the OP has the duty of care to the mate who didn't pick it up... If it was an accident then it's down to her not showing any real care...
 
The Halk said:
Reading between the lines in the OP... she wanted to throw the stuff out. He said it was ok since the skip was there. He said not that one, on the other side of the room. She threw it out anyway. My guess is she did it on purpose. In any case it's clearly her fault it was thrown out, but the OP has the duty of care to the mate who didn't pick it up... If it was an accident then it's down to her not showing any real care...
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Your theory is based on massive assumptions and yet whose fault it was is still clear to you? Ok.
 
Dump the GF and bum the mate... Only sensible option. Id be Livid if i was you or the mate. Both of you.:P
 
Just tell your mate **** happens and find another mate who doesn't leave PC's at your house for this to happen.
 
The Halk said:
My theory based on assumptions is regarding if she chucked it out on purpose. Regardless if she did it on purpose or not, it is her fault.
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I don't know why you're so adamant that she may have done it knowingly when all you know about her is that she was clearing out some old computers for OP. That is literally all you know about her part to play.

OP may have neglected to inform her that this PC in particular was not to be scrapped. In fact, he admitted that she may have been confused because it was in an aged case.

In any case, yes it may have been her fault but she may also not be the only person to blame here.
 
Just to clear a few things up, i have no problem paying for it and that was my intention, its just his total disregard of the fact that hes not bothered to pick it up and maybe this would not have happened, and him shouting at me about it.

The case was on the other side of the room and i told her not to touch anything on that side. She claims she thought i maybe forgot to put that one.. annoying but i'm not going to blow a fuse over it..
 
? She threw a PC away cleaning up, she didn't even wait till you were home to ask about it.

You should man up and get rid, at least for a bit
 
Jesus I'd definitely dump a girl if she did that.

But then again, I don't think I'd date a girl who'd be that stupid.


Justintime said:
The case was on the other side of the room and i told her not to touch anything on that side. She claims she thought i maybe forgot to put that one.. annoying but i'm not going to blow a fuse over it..
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How could you not blow a fuse? This is absolutely the most justifiable reason to do just THAT.
 
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