Didn't think I'd be a Dad until was really settled into a job and a house etc. Then BOOM "I'm pregnant". Now a Dad of a 9 week old and he's the best thing ever, my only wish is that we'd had him sooner.
How old are you?
What are your thoughts on being a father one day?
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How old are you?
This.
I also don't really like kids. Some of my friends with young nephews/niece's like children and although they don't want kids now, they will definitely in the future.
For me, I have no intention of doing it now, I still feel too young and am trying to get my life on track. Even then, I have no desire to have children in the future - although my opinions are very subject to change - and i worry that even if i did, i would feel nothing!
Kids just really don't interest me in the slightest!
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Because there are no girls on OCUK? 
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24! (Been with the Mrs for 8 years)
Having him sooner than that is well pushing it
Like you though, I've been with my Mrs since I was 16, although only married 5 years of those.
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You haven't seen my son then
Was about to post the same thing.
There are 3 pics of him on the forum somewhere. 
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I can't wait. However, I will wait until a) I'm married, b) we are in a financial position to support a kid c) when we're ready.
Hopefully before I'm 35 though.
Hopefully before I'm 35 though.
It's the main reason why I hate being in relationships, I hate the idea that one day it'll happen to me as I am quite irresponsible and have far too many things I want to do without having to provide for someone for 20 years.
who knows, my opinion may change, but I'm loving the single life. Had one relationship, ended pretty badly so I don't plan on seeing anyone really for quite a while or even "messing around", having a kid would really terrify me at this point in my life.
who knows, my opinion may change, but I'm loving the single life. Had one relationship, ended pretty badly so I don't plan on seeing anyone really for quite a while or even "messing around", having a kid would really terrify me at this point in my life.
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The thing is though, if you do find yourself in that situation (and the I found myself in), you can just make it work. Or at least I was lucky enough to be able to make it work. There's no time like the present and no such thing as 'the right time'. Who knows, you could get to what you think is the 'right time' and find you can't have kids...
Btw, I'm not married, work freelance, and wasn't strictly trying to have a child.
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Yeah I didn't like I wanted to have a family until |I got to my 30s and into a proper relationship with the person with whom I see myself settling down with for the rest of my life.
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The thing is though, if you do find yourself in that situation (and the I found myself in), you can just make it work. Or at least I was lucky enough to be able to make it work. There's no time like the present and no such thing as 'the right time'. Who knows, you could get to what you think is the 'right time' and find you can't have kids...
Btw, I'm not married, work freelance, and wasn't strictly trying to have a child.
Yeah, but for me marriage is important and setting up a family "base" so to speak. And whilst I do want kids, I just don't feel ready just yet.
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Totally fair enough, it's good to stick to what is important to you.
I'd hate to go back to my life before kids.
It would seem very boring and empty. Spending so much time and energy on things I now realise do not matter.
Raising kids is certainly the most constant hardest thing I've ever done by a mile, but is the most rewarding in return. Nothing comes within a million miles of it.
Coming home at night to your little one's greeting is worth it alone.
...and cheers James!
It would seem very boring and empty. Spending so much time and energy on things I now realise do not matter.
Raising kids is certainly the most constant hardest thing I've ever done by a mile, but is the most rewarding in return. Nothing comes within a million miles of it.
Coming home at night to your little one's greeting is worth it alone.
...and cheers James!
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+1
I feel the same way and I decided a long time ago I never want offspring.
When the time comes internet dating will be the way to go as I can search for gals who dont want any sprogs either
Well I'm now early 40's
Didnt want them when I was younger, certainly dont want them now.
If I ever get tired of disposable income, quality free time & peace & quite then I will consider becoming a parent!
Why the sad face dude you are in your 40s not your 90s! Live it up and ignore this UK-wide perception of 30yrs and above being "old". Yawn.
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I'm 28 and I don't want kids. Think I'm too young anyway and still have a life to live.
I don't want to be another guy who ended up having a unplanned kid. Most of the time that can lead onto becoming a single parent or a parent who has multiple kids by different women. That I would want to avoid.
I don't want to be another guy who ended up having a unplanned kid. Most of the time that can lead onto becoming a single parent or a parent who has multiple kids by different women. That I would want to avoid.
No, never for me. Doesn't appeal at all.
Interesting point in OP, most people growing up in the Western world nowadays will probably have numerous photos and videos of them taken, compared to extremely few say 100 years ago. More people to photo/video too compared to then!
Interesting point in OP, most people growing up in the Western world nowadays will probably have numerous photos and videos of them taken, compared to extremely few say 100 years ago. More people to photo/video too compared to then!