domestic argument

Modular said:
hey thanks
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I've been there twice.

Women (understandably) are irritable at this time.

Listen to what others are saying here though, it's not just about you now, you have your girlfriend and the baby to look after.

You have to think how your actions will come across to a hormonal/tired woman, I can see where she might be coming from if you are still thinking about 'me' all the time and how tired 'you' are all the time, your negative actions are going to be amplified in situations like this.

Just phone her when you can, talk rationally, apologise if needed. Be a man and don't go down the route of you this, you that. It's give and take now there is a baby involved.
 
you've got a 10week old baby, i'm guessing this is your first child. You have a lot to learn, padowan. Start by not drinking on your day off.. Also lesson number 2 : with a 10wk old baby there is no such thing as a 'day off' lol.
 
Mr^B said:
There's no background story, we don't know the history. Plus, if YOU don't know what your long-term partner is thinking how the hell are WE supposed to know?

If you're in a lot of debt and have to compromise on things, come back late every day and when you are around you're drunk.

Oh and why can't you sleep at night? Does your partner not sleep either?
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lol
 
Looking back on when my son was born and how tiring it all was etc, and as a father, I can honestly say I fully understand her reaction.
 
a1ex2001 said:
Your wife is tired bringing up a new born baby and still recovering from the birth, she has no escape from this.

You are tired from working and decide to spend your day off drinking beer as an escape.

If you cannot see why she is hacked off she is probably better of at her mums.
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^^ this^^
 
Using the far-from-sufficient context you have provided:

You think you have a day off

She thinks she has a day with you helping look after your child

Cue misunderstandingRAGE.
 
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anticonscience said:
I've been there twice.

Women (understandably) are irritable at this time.

Listen to what others are saying here though, it's not just about you now, you have your girlfriend and the baby to look after.

You have to think how your actions will come across to a hormonal/tired woman, I can see where she might be coming from if you are still thinking about 'me' all the time and how tired 'you' are all the time, your negative actions are going to be amplified in situations like this.

Just phone her when you can, talk rationally, apologise if needed. Be a man and don't go down the route of you this, you that. It's give and take now there is a baby involved.
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this is soo true. just accept that she is in a fragile state, and what you used to get away with you wont so much. no one knows how much time you put into looking after the baby, but you can sure as hell bet its not enough in her mind. so just appologise (even if your not sure you are in the wrong) and tell her you will put in the hours. maybe suggest that on your days off you will have the baby for a few hours so she can grab a bath, or go see her friends, or just catch up on some sleep. i know its hard, but once the all night feeds and crying stops, its worth it :)
 
Maybe you should give her a call and offer her a couple of your cans so that she can put her feet up while you look after baby.
 
Mr^B said:
There's no background story, we don't know the history. Plus, if YOU don't know what your long-term partner is thinking how the hell are WE supposed to know?

If you're in a lot of debt and have to compromise on things, come back late every day and when you are around you're drunk.

Oh and why can't you sleep at night? Does your partner not sleep either?
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you want a back ground story?

we met in 2006 in a shared house with no money, we were "friends with benefits" the land lord decided to sell and give us (all six of us) notice to bugger off, in the midst of confusion Sharron asked me if I wanted to find another pad with her! although unexpected I quickly realised what was on offer and set about planning the res of my life! we have since moved 4 times and finally settled in a nice house after she fell pregnant, its a true love story, and sice you ask, no I cant sleep at night with babt crying, I am paying the rent council tax and fuel bills, the little money i have left i spend on nappies and beer is that ok?
 
Sorry but you OP sound like a right ****. You should help your other half I dunno say look after the baby together. When the baby is sleeping have a cup of tea and watch some tv together man up and look after your family you obviously drink to much.
 
I just had my first child. It hits the women folk harder than us. Man up for a a few months then re-evaluate.

On the lighter side - get some good sleep tonight!
 
Modular said:
, no I cant sleep at night with babt crying,
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You and every other father. Get out of bed and help? Parenting is a partnership and the baby is your responsibility. Getting no sleep and then doing a full day's grind sucks but that's life. Getting no sleep and then looking after a baby all day sucks too.
I am paying the rent council tax and fuel bills
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Man puts roof over family's head - shocker

the little money i have left i spend on nappies and beer is that ok?
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That depends on how much beer you drink and when. You posting history suggests it is not OK (as does the fact your missus has ran off to her mums).
 
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