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Actually no. Thats probably where the friction is. You say on the one hand money is tight, then you go out and buy yourself a 4 pack of beer. Possibly you should re-evaluate your priorities and spend that beer money on something that you and your partner can do together, rather than you simply slugging 4 cans on your day of ?
From one of you historical posts in these forums you pretty much already admit you have a drinking problem:
http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showpost.php?p=19939421&postcount=1
to quote your own words
Maybe you'd be better off saving your 4 can beer money up over a few weeks and then actually treating your partner to a nice dinner out somewhere, or even better still buying some nice ingredients and a nice bottle of wine and treating her to a nice dinner that you prepare, rather than necking 4 cans 'because its my day off' ???
If you really can;t see why she might be annoyed then I fear you have got a few issues coming your way in regards to the long term health of your relationship
This. Stop being wound up by everyone giving the 2 cents you asked for. Leave the thread be and chill out a little bit (no more beer to keep composed) and go sort it out. Don't wait for her to have to come back, be pro-active about it. You know you'll likely do it anyway. Your kid is more important than anything, and you don't need a bunch of us to tell you that.
I don't think it necessarily has to stop IMO, but there most certainly has to be a compromise.
A guy in my Clan has just had a baby with his misses and still games, however he will drop whatever game he is playing if she needs help or he waits until the baby is asleep for a bit of downtime.
[Damien];21803301 said:
have you got a partner and a kid?
whats a troll? shrek?
My partner and i was so frustrated by our slow compuer that we saved and saved and saved, we bought a specified PC from a specialist with good spec so i could continue my flight sim hobby and she can use FB with speed and efficiancy
does that clear things up?
book? cover? judge?
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+1 too.
No, I think it's a post by someone in denial, and I don;t mean the longest river in africa
Not the biological father then?
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Umm, you should be the one doing the texting?
The self pity is almost palpable.
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OP. no sympathy here from me. ours in 9months old. i havent played a single PC game in that time and my days off are doing DIY or helping look after my son.
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Also for op to call it feminists opinions is funny due to the fact bar 3 posters all are male opinions in this thread!
Hi Modular, I am the one that said man up. I put it into context. Here is my original post:
Ill elaborate a bit. My suggestion is that you tough it out and give up whatever you need to for the for first months of your child's life. Then come back to yourself and re-evaluate your relationship and then start the process of getting back the things you want.
I am surprised nobody told you this over the past 9 months - your Wife is in no position to give you any slack for the first months. Some women cope wonderfully, others crumble into pits of despair and need their mothers 24/7.
So yeah. Man up.
What about the rest of their lives? Just like dogs children are not just for Christmas.
I'm not saying after that the child doesn't matter any more, but the older it gets, the less micro-managing it will need, you just have to suck it up until then. It won't be long until the kid is locking itself in the bedroom drinking hidden booze and playing video games.
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you are probably aware that life gets complicated
so go easy ok
its only as complicated as you make it. basic common sense. you now both have fulltime jobs (if she didnt before the baby) so you both need a day off. admittidly that is not always possible to be a weekly event, which is why i suggested you tried alternating mondays with the baby letting the other one have a bit of a break.
its hard, and we all go through those moments where we just want to stop and do our thing, but the mums feel the same too.
Yes, and yes.
Actually I take the troll comment back. There's too much backstory for it to be a troll.
Facebook with speed and efficiency? Who are you trying to kid? At least have the balls to say that your fancy PC is primarily for you playing games. Mine is but then again I don't have to justify to anyone else what I spend my money on, so long as I provide for my family first.
Clear as mud.
It is if you have got a knackered partner who has been looking after your child all week and then hopes that she will get some respite when you have a day off. Yes I know that the OP has been at work all week, but seriously if he is saying he wants his day off and it means he is too tired from work to at least help and look after his own child then he needs to re-evaluate what being a parent means. Because it certainly doesn't mean chowing down on a 4 pack when you partner is literally falling apart at the seams while trying to do what's best for your family / child.
OP needs to take a serious selfishness check and remember he has responsibilities as a parent that go further than simply 'bringing the bacon home'. Parenting isn't just about providing fiscally but emotionally also. So if your need for 4 cans of beer is greater than emotionally supporting your partner I truly feel sorry for her.......
Unless his partner was expecting a nice family day off together ...