domestic argument

[FnG]magnolia;21809290 said:
As a man posting what he posted he would have been crucified :D
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He'd simply have been executed on mumsnet, here he gets every aspect of his personal life pulled apart - then executed.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21809240 said:
I reckon he's a K cider man. Those sulphites really make the difference.
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K is weak sauce, there are at least traces of apples in there, he must be a Diamond White drinker where no apples were used in its production :D
 
it's all about compromise tbh, and iv'e been there myself, i have a 14 month old daughter and understand that when you have a day off you want it to yourself.

Unfortunately you will not get off lightly. put yourself in her shoes

Your Day Off
you get up late around 11ish
Turn on ya pc and "Try" fly a plane and crash
Drink Beers and watch pornage.

Her Day
Gets up between 4 -5 am Feed Baby
Change Nappy
Looks after crying baby and watches jeremy kyle
tidys the house, whilst trying to look after little one ( "Whilst you're on the PC")
Baby gets up feeding time again
Does you dinner
Then looks after the baby again.

Dude you need to "HELP" out even on your Day off
Get up when the baby crys even if it's 4-5am, that gives you abit of quality time with the little one.

Do abit of house work, could be a quick wash up/ hovering.

Then and only then you can play on your second wife (the PC), rookie error, the beer isn't the issue it's the fact you didn't even offer to help out or spend some time with little one. You can even have a bevvie whilst cuddling the little one.
 
a1ex2001 said:
Your wife is tired bringing up a new born baby and still recovering from the birth, she has no escape from this.

You are tired from working and decide to spend your day off drinking beer as an escape.

If you cannot see why she is hacked off she is probably better of at her mums.
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This.

We all like a few beers on our day off but sometimes it's not always the best thing to do. Give it up for a while or only do it once every few weeks. Yes, it does suck and I know you are going to be knackered but you have a 10 week old baby and a very hormonal and tired wife to look after. Be a man and deal with your responsibilites. There will be plenty of time in the future for relaxing.

A good tip I heard for new parents is to plan a mini-break away 6 months after the baby is born. Arrange some childcare for a weekend, and get away for a few days. It doesn't have to be exotic, even just a B&B somewhere...anywhere. If you have this to look forward to, you'll be less inclined to grab those tins of beer every time you get a day off.
 
Simple compromise.

If you need a break on the weekend, take the baby for 6 hours (to give the Mrs a break) then you give it back for 6 hours (you get a break).

If she doesn't want to be away from the little one, or want a break at all then she should shut the hell up moaning.

As long as you offer her the same break back (by you looking after the kid) - it should be fine.
 
Scuzi said:
If you have this to look forward to, you'll be less inclined to grab those tins of beer every time you get a day off.
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I don't think this will work for the OP though as in previous posts he has pretty much openly admitted to having a drinking problem of sorts.
 
Stick the baby on eBay - no more sleepless nights and you can get a new rig that will run FSX with all those sweet mods and stuff, plus crates of beer! Great idea, no? :p
 
Example: Yesterday was a very busy day for us with the 2yr olds birthday.

She's shattered and so am I. This morning I can see she's a little frustrated with it all so I help out with the nipper whilst she gets some kip even though I'd got **** loads of important work to do. At least you've got the respite of working away from home - I don't have that luxury.

I could do with some sleep myself :( Can't because there's work to do and bills to pay. I could also play with the Ivy Bridge kit that has arrived in the post this morning.

Priorities first. I've put the nipper to sleep so have 2 hours to code. It's a tough life but your misses will appreciate it. This is the foundation of a good healthy family. Work now, play later build up the points and you'll find your misses supporting you through your play too
 
Diesel said:
You'd think feeding a baby every few hours was like working down a coal mine or something!
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and the washing of clothes, changing of nappies, always on edge for when it starts crying.........being a mum is bloody hard work, i dont envy the women at all. waking up in the night to do the feeds is one thing, but there is a lot more to it than that.
 
OP needs to get his act together. I have an 8 month old, I work, and I go to school in order to give myself some better prospects for the future. There are NO days off anymore. Did you not realize this before you had the baby?

My wife is stuck at home with the baby all day, so when I get home I immediately take him and then order her out of the house for some time to herself. If I'm lucky they both crash around 10pm and I get an hour (more if I don't have to be up early the next morning) to myself to relax or catch up on school work.

Get control of your drinking, put your wife and child before everything else, and grow up. You also better go grovelling to her with some flowers/chocolate and offer to take the baby on your day off so she can have a break.

Sheesh!
 
Curio said:
My wife is stuck at home with the baby all day, so when I get home I immediately take him and then order her out of the house for some time to herself. If I'm lucky they both crash around 10pm and I get an hour (more if I don't have to be up early the next morning) to myself to relax or catch up on school work.
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now now, all she does is feed it every couple of hours :rolleyes: babies dont need anything more than that apparently. being a mum apparently isnt a full time job, like coal mining. its a walk in the park. us men dont know how easy they have it :p
 
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