Has your life panned out as expected?

Big no, i know they say life is how you make it but it seems a lot of things are out of my control and sometimes a break just can't be caught. I've contemplated at least weekly about shoving a pistol down my throat and pulling the trigger.
 
No plan to begin with, really. Have no clue how I've managed to get to where I am. (Married, House with only a small mortgage and being comfortable money wise). Thankfully I'm now getting around to actually obtaining a degree and moving on career wise. Once I don't dread waking up on a Monday, all will be complete.
 
krooton said:
I never had any specific expectations or goals, so I've not able to be disappointed. I've generally gone with the flow and am very happy with how things have turned out.
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I was going to type pretty much this. It's nice to have a feeling of contentment.
 
So far so good, but it's early days. I've got a rough plan but I don't like to have things too set in stone as it usually just leads to disappointment.
 
My life isnt remotely how I wanted it to be. I've managed to get premoted in a sector I wasnt wanting to work in. And no matter how high i climb the ladder, I don't want to be there!

I'm single, which was fine at first. But now I think I may be broken, as any girl i end up seeing, As soon as they want commitment I stop seeing them... I'm 29!! I should not be doing that at my age. :\

So yeah... So far. The best thing I have going for me is the fact I'm atleast making some cash, and I'm looking to get a mortgage soon. So yay
 
I don't think I ever had a plan from the start! After finishing uni I would have liked to have gotten an A/V Co-Ordinator job though at a decent venue (nearly did, but was beaten to it!).

Instead I'm in IT and looking to move out with the gf so meh, can't complain (too much) I guess.
 
I don't think I've really had a lot of expectations about life so far... I remember at primary school thinking that GCSE's seemed an impossibly long time away, and I thought the same thing about A levels and leaving school when I got to GCSE's...

Stuff like marriage, kids, my own house etc has never really seemed like a real possibility until I thought about it recently, when I realised how fast life is going. I'm still not really sure what I expect though. I think I had some vague notions of being an architect and designing really awesome buildings when I was younger, but that hasn't worked out either - I'm coming to the end of my first year in a (hopefully) 4 year Engineering degree, although my sister is looking to do architecture at university.

I expected I'd get a girlfriend at some point ("Oh, everyone has girlfriends now, I'm sure to have got the balls to go and ask someone out by the end of next year"), which never happened, and I expected that I'd morph into a 'lad' when I got to uni, which also hasn't happened. I expected that the second term of uni would be just like the fist one, and it wasn't, probably mainly because someone in my social group dropped out. I liked it better when he was here. I didn't expect to get along with any English students, which again, went against expectations... I'm not sure there are many things that turned out as I expected! I've met lots of interesting people who are very different to anyone I ever knew at school - I didn't realise how limited my sample of humans was until I came to uni!

I suppose if I try and delve deep enough there are bound to be thousands of little things that aren't as I expected, but in broad terms, I suppose I had some vague notion of doing well at school, and going to uni, which I have done, and I had vague notions of getting a girlfriend, which I haven't done.

I don't really have many expectations for the future either to be honest - I imagine just sort of coasting through the rest of uni, graduating, going into some kind of average engineering job, getting old, paying taxes, and dying.
 
I'm not a rockstar so no.

I had a really miserable moment last year. I was busting out some rage against the machine on my speakers and then turned up my guitar loud for a jam. After a ferocious (and very moshy) duet of killing in the name of, I looked at my desk to see a whopping 1000 page book of company law legislation and pages of notes on how to comply with the Companies Act 2006.

That's when I realised it.

"I am the machine"

*sob*
 
Not at all.

I expected to be a single solicitor on good money having travelled the world and seen it all and living the good life.

Now?

I'm married with a kid and currently unemployed having hated Law when I studied it at uni :p lifes a funny old thing :D
 
Nitefly said:
What are you doing work wise these days?
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Nothing at the moment unfortunately :(

Thinking the navy as I considered that when I was younger but that could be up to a two year wait so still looking for unemployment in my previous field which is operations/field service management/project management roles. It's a funny old sector though especially in the North East.
 
No1newts said:
Nothing at the moment unfortunately :(

Thinking the navy as I considered that when I was younger but that could be up to a two year wait so still looking for unemployment in my previous field which is operations/field service management/project management roles. It's a funny old sector though especially in the North East.
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Oh sorry, I ready employed instead of unemployed for some reason, apologies! :o

Hopefully something will come along soon, hang in there!
 
Justintime said:
Big no, i know they say life is how you make it but it seems a lot of things are out of my control and sometimes a break just can't be caught. I've contemplated at least weekly about shoving a pistol down my throat and pulling the trigger.
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Not sure if you're messing about or not but you should maybe have a chat with someone, dude.

Here's a thing I found : http://www.depressionalliance.org/

If you were messing about then I have nothing further to add.
 
Nitefly said:
Oh sorry, I ready employed instead of unemployed for some reason, apologies! :o

Hopefully something will come along soon, hang in there!
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hehe no worries :)

Hopefully, we are getting by but it's a wee bit tedious although my OcUK post count has gone up in response of my unemployment :p
 
Not far from it. Career has slowed down a wee bit but I'm hoping it'll be back on track over the next two years or so.

Getting married later this year...a year before I was planning on but hey and we'll be getting our second house together in the next 6 months.
 
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