Am i right to be a little troubled? 29yr old dude 18yr old girl

Nitefly said:
I was part of the mod team yes, but I resigned as I wasn't really sure that it was for me and I have lots of commitments coming up anyway.

Also 'where' refers to a place, I think you are meaning to type 'were' :p
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Stop quoting me then! Dingbat. :p I changed the spelling so please do so in your quotes :D

Naff8000 said:
18? shes been ready for 2 whole years.
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Maybe by law. Stop with the sick posts.
 
at 30 you wouldn't be too old really.

Least I doubt it would have bothered me.

However if I worked at a school I'm sure it would be frowned apon to be dating students?

My wife is older than me and still great looking to me :D
 
As she's a leaver then tell him to carry on and enjoy. If she was still at the school then it could raise a few eyebrows among the management and could result in a slapped wrist and question asked.

As to the morality of it, if they're happy then let them be.
 
although age is not an issue here, there is an issue with the girl going to the same school as he works, even if she is a leaver.

most teacher/tech/support contracts will have some kind of clause concerning this now. if he doesnt have this clause,

then smash it hard
 
Assuming she's no longer a student there and all the issues that might bring up, then good luck to the guy.

Some may have some 'moral issue' with it all, but both are consenting adults. Sure she'll probably be a shallow as hell at that age, but come on... :D
 
If the guy is a teacher then he needs to think seriously about damage to reputation.
Parents will definitely see it as morally reprehensible I would have thought.
I personally would not feel comfortable at all with that situation - I mean, he has probably taught her whilst she was younger, right?
There's also the possibility that if it all turns sour there will be accusations thrown around.
I personally wouldn't bother, I'm 29 and I could envisage an 18 year old girl being far too immature for my tastes and she would quickly loose interest. She would be seen as a victim and your mate is setting himself up for a fall. I might be wrong but that's my tuppence.
 
Robosapien said:
If the guy is a teacher then he needs to think seriously about damage to reputation.
Parents will definitely see it as morally reprehensible I would have thought.
I personally would not feel comfortable at all with that situation - I mean, he has probably taught her whilst she was younger, right?
There's also the possibility that if it all turns sour there will be accusations thrown around.
I personally wouldn't bother, I'm 29 and I could envisage an 18 year old girl being far too immature for my tastes and she would quickly loose interest. She would be seen as a victim and your mate is setting himself up for a fall. I might be wrong but that's my tuppence.
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OP said they both work in IT, so I'm assuming they are both ICT technicians or the like. Not teachers. I may be wrong but that's how I read the OP. :)
 
I'm 31, my last relationship was with a 21 year old... I met her when she was 19... I don't see a massive issue here - age gaps can be fine, I've got no plans to settle down in the immediate future and am currently much more interested in dating girls who are a few years younger than me as lots of girls my age will want a serious relationship (possibly marriage/kids) in the very near future.

As it appears that the former student has approached the colleague and this has happened once she had left the school then I don't see any ethical issue. The only issue is one of perception if the OP or others starts talking about it... the school might well become suspicious (and its their job to be) as people will wonder if anything was going on while this girl was a pupil. Best thing the OP can do, given that he knows that nothing inappropriate has gone on, is to keep the info about a possible relationship to himself as gossip etc.. of this nature could have a very unfair and negative impact on his colleagues career.
 
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Pate said:
I'd find it weird, but I would find it weird now, and I'm 22.


Each to their own though I'd guess.
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Seriously? You're 22 and think 18 is too young? I'm not much older than you but I'm more than happy to try a 17/18 year old on for size. They aren't girlfriend material but they're great for a bit of fun.
 
I work in It at a school/sixth form and have some ex sixth formers on facebook etc(had them on there when they were still there). I often see them on nights out while very drunk and get them jumping all over me! I am only 22 though. Would stay clear of any relationship or anything until they leave imo
 
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