Why people always say stop looking for love and let it find you?
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OP: Because like me they've had enough embarressment and rejection to last a lifetime or two and as such can't be ****ed putting the effort in looking any more.
The way i see it is if I do eventually meet someone nice who shows interest I'll step up to the mark and put the effort in.
The way i see it is if I do eventually meet someone nice who shows interest I'll step up to the mark and put the effort in.
Unfortunately OP that is just life - get used to it.
I agree people always say "ohh you will meet someone" just be positive and happy blah blah blah its a meaningless empty lot of ****.
Its bs.... people say a lot of things 99% of it is just them waffling a lot of **** so you shut up. But hey youve only been single for 3 years....chickenfeed....come back and complain if youve been single for 20 yo....
But hey youve only been single for 3 years....chickenfeed....come back and complain if youve been single for 20 yo....
He's never had a girlfriend, his opening line tells you that
Now, whether he's ever had a girl at all, that's the more telling question. OP just needs to get out there and meet people in some scenario, voluntary work, clubs, gym, whatever - anything where other people are involved. And not dribble, that would be bad.
He's never had a girlfriend, his opening line tells you that
Now, whether he's ever had a girl at all, that's the more telling question. OP just needs to get out there and meet people in some scenario, voluntary work, clubs, gym, whatever - anything where other people are involved. And not dribble, that would be bad.
I bet ya hes been doing what you say
I find people are very shallow with their advice. Its just empty platitudes. Theres always some people who just arent lucky....you might think if you do all the things you have mentioned then 100% they WILL meet someone sorry thats a lie that you tell people to keep them going in life....
I actually agree with the principle of 'the game' - going along with it helps you get over the fear of rejection. Sometimes I do fear getting rejected in a nightclub and people can smell a lack of confidence before they even see you. In reality, if you get rejected, so what. Easier said than done though!
By constantly putting yourself in a horrendously awkward scenario, you are ONLY improving your chances and soon you will start getting pretty good at it - I know this from observing my friends.
I remember one of my friends bouncing around the club like a pinball of rejection. He must have got rejected 30-40 times, it was painful to watch and I couldn't help but scoff. In the end though, he hooked up with someone who was pretty hot and went home with them whilst I went home with nobody. Now who's the chump, hmm?
By constantly putting yourself in a horrendously awkward scenario, you are ONLY improving your chances and soon you will start getting pretty good at it - I know this from observing my friends.
I remember one of my friends bouncing around the club like a pinball of rejection. He must have got rejected 30-40 times, it was painful to watch and I couldn't help but scoff. In the end though, he hooked up with someone who was pretty hot and went home with them whilst I went home with nobody. Now who's the chump, hmm?
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Well, he gets an STD from the village bicycle while you get to play xbox and watch pr0n.
Meh if you think that anyone who goes home with anyone is diseased then you are never going to get anywhere in that situation
you're showing your age kid!
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OP is still on one post - wonderful.