Best way to deal with this break up?

Marmot · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:07

So I've been single for about 6 hours now, after being in a relationship for the past 18 months. Break up was civil, even had a laugh and a joke about the way things turned out. Basically the sexual attraction has gone down the pan and we've become more like best mates than romantic partners, I was pretty much fine with having a best mate I could have sex with, but she wasn't.

Problem is that we live together, and will be living together until this time next year. We're both at Uni and in rented accommodation for which we've signed a contract for. So we have a 2 bedroom place which is all on one floor and very intimate, and I foresee the situation becoming awkward as hell.

What the hell do I do guys?

KaHn · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:08

Get the hell out. Somehow, anyhow.

KaHn

AshD93 · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:09

Grow a pair and live with it. It's only a year.

Edit: and by that, I mean confront the issue if one ever arises and just sort it out with her face to face, like a man.

[FnG]magnolia · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:09

Give notice and move out. I'm assuming there are reasons why you can't do this though or you wouldn't be asking.

PureAppleJuice · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:09

Get out if possible. I had to share a house with my ex-girlfriend for a year, ended up becoming two years actually, total pain in the arse if I'm honest.

Marmot · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:12

We're both tied into the contract unfortunately so there is no way that either of us can move elsewhere or swap with friends.

platinum87 · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:13

Which one of you got fat?

Marmot · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:14

Actually she went from a size 10 to a size 8 and I put on some much needed muscle, so neither.

Moses said:
Really? It often happens that people drop out of uni, then end up getting replaced by another student, in my experience (because people tend to have to sign before they've got their results for a given year, more than anything). Talk to your landlord, they'll be fine with it.

Dropping out of University is the only way I can get out of living there, or failing my end of year exams - neither of which will happen. I've made absolutely sure of this.

PardonTheWait · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:15

Osprey said:
We're both tied into the contract unfortunately so there is no way that either of us can move elsewhere or swap with friends.

I'm positive that if you found someone to swap with one of you and said to your landlord 'We've split up, X is moving out and here's a new tenant who fits all your criteria and wants to move in' they'd have no problem with it.

If it won't inconvenience them they shouldn't care as long as the new person suits them. Ask 'em.

Cleeecooo · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:16

If she's a best mate, then surely you should be able to live with her?!

Spenty · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:17

There's plenty of talent in Durham so go find a worldie and bring her back to the flat and smash the granny out of her in front of your ex. That should put things straight.

Marmot · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:18

PardonTheWait said:
I'm positive that if you found someone to swap with one of you and said to your landlord 'We've split up, X is moving out and here's a new tenant who fits all your criteria and wants to move in' they'd have any problem with it.

It seems logical I agree, maybe if it's as smooth as that.

Fillado · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:19

Cleeecooo said:
If she's a best mate, then surely you should be able to live with her?!

The situation can work. But then inevitably one of them will bring home a guy/girl and things will get awful for the other person.

Unless you are okay giving a guy sneaking out of her bedroom a high five on the way out the flat?

Kamwah · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:20

Use Neural Parasite and bend her to your will.

If all else fails, Baneling all-in her.

Zefan · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:21

If this was me it would be obvious what's going to happen - you'll be "split up" but you'll still be ****ing. She might not feel like it now but she probably will. Unless that bothers you then I wouldn't be in a hurry to move out

Cleeecooo · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:22

Fillado said:
The situation can work. But then inevitably one of them will bring home a guy/girl and things will get awful for the other person.

Unless you are okay giving a guy sneaking out of her bedroom a high five on the way out the flat?

What I'm saying is that if she was your best friend, then there shoul be no reason to be jealous, only happy for her! If there are still romantic feelings, then yes, get out, but if there is no romance left, why not stay? It's easier, and living with a best friend, or atleast someone you get on with very well is a great thing! What would happen if one of you moved out and then found yourself living with a nob?

L0rdMike · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:22

Kamwah said:
Use Neural Parasite and bend her to your will.

If all else fails, Baneling all-in her.

She might have a fungal growth. :eek:

Antar Bolaeisk · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:23

Cleeecooo said:
If she's a best mate, then surely you should be able to live with her?!

Easy to say, not so easy to do when she finds someone new to bring back to the bedroom. If it's as 'intimate' as Osprey says I doubt he'll want to be listening to the sounds.

As mentioned, try and swap if at all possible.

OpenToSuggestions · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:25

I would give her some space.

I had a recent relationship go down the pan and 'will remain close friends' and she has pretty much not contacted me since. Women need time and space.

Marmot · 17 Jun 2012 at 23:25

Cleeecooo said:
What I'm saying is that if she was your best friend, then there shoul be no reason to be jealous, only happy for her! If there are still romantic feelings, then yes, get out, but if there is no romance left, why not stay? It's easier, and living with a best friend, or atleast someone you get on with very well is a great thing! What would happen if one of you moved out and then found yourself living with a nob?

Maybe I'm mean, but I don't think I could help being jealous if I she brought home another guy, even if I'd had five girls back that week. Romantic feelings are minuscule, but I would still feel :confused:

I think.