Is it normal for a three year old to cry / tantrum every day?

Jimbo Mahoney

Jimbo Mahoney

Jimbo Mahoney

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I have very thin walls separating my house from my neighbours'. They are a young couple and have a 1 year old and a 3 year old.

At least once a day (I'm only home in the evenings after work), the 3 year old cries for a long time and the parents seem to leave her (which I can understand to some extent because you can't give in to every tantrum).

Now, not having children of my own, is it normal for a three year old to cry / tantrum this much?

(Thank goodness I'm moving at the end of the month!) :D
 
Some, yes. My 3-year-old is actually very good and generally when we've said "No" to her she understands that that's the end of the matter (I think because we've been consistent). Having said that I can imagine other toddlers throwing a strop whenever they're told they can't have something (which could occur often during a day). All kids are different. Some are well brought up by thoughtful parents and are still ****s. :D
 
Ask them if they Smack there kids, When they say No ask them if they mind if You do.
 
My baby cousin is addicted to electronics more than me...

Whenever my Uncle takes her iPad away (they bought a iPad for a 3 year old!) she cries so badly and doesn't go to sleep till 11pm.

Whenever someone laughs she says 'THATS NOT FUNNY!' and starts crying.
 
ohhh yes, my first two were angels (girls) then my son came along, a ****ing nightmare from age 18 through to 4 (going to school).

had to smack him a couple of times during this, not something i agree with really, but found myself with no other options.

i used to be really judgemental about parents with 'bad' kids, i am now much more sympathetic towards them with a 'testing' child
 
evenings you say? maybe the child is beeing put to bed but will cry because its been left alone ?

maybe they are training the child to sleep alone?
 
soundood said:
i used to be really judgemental about parents with 'bad' kids, i am now much more sympathetic towards them with a 'testing' child
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I find that the only people who are judgemental are those without children and those parents who are unhealthily blinkered to their child's negative aspects.
 
soundood said:
ohhh yes, my first two were angels (girls) then my son came along, a ****ing nightmare from age 18 through to 4 (going to school).

had to smack him a couple of times during this, not something i agree with really, but found myself with no other options.

i used to be really judgemental about parents with 'bad' kids, i am now much more sympathetic towards them with a 'testing' child
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Same here, son came first though, blimey that was a shock.
 
soundood said:
ohhh yes, my first two were angels (girls) then my son came along, a ****ing nightmare from age 18 through to 4 (going to school).

had to smack him a couple of times during this, not something i agree with really, but found myself with no other options.

i used to be really judgemental about parents with 'bad' kids, i am now much more sympathetic towards them with a 'testing' child
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It's not testing, you are dealing with it.

Smacking how ever much you don't like doing it does the child no harm at all, you just can't use it as the default solution to all bad behaviour.
Because eventually what happens is the threat of a couple of seconds of a sore arse is no bothe to them.
My old man was for thrashing me, locking me in my bedroom, terrorising me if I miss behaved, but it was the default action for every thing I did, lip my mother- wallop, not do my home work- wallop.

In the end it stopped bothering me.

The threat of a walloping is worth a thousand slaps I found with my boys.
 
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mines a nightmare sometimes when she throws a tantrum. but other than buying a sound proof box to stuff her in, theres nothing for it than to just let her to it.
 
I've noticed that parents who have children who have tantrums, who won't go to bed, who act up etc etc... are people who I would expect to have children that way, and along side that parents who I would expect to have well behaved children... have well behaved children.

So in my opinion (and I'm aware it's a sweeping generalisation) if your children have regular tantrums it's because you're a bad parent.
 
They could be in the middle of crate training

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Heard it's difficult, but worth it in the long run.
 
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