Gettin closer to 30. Aging sucks
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Love is the part that always confuses me. I've been hurt and done the hurting with relationships. I've only had 4 real relationships. One long term a few shorter. Definitely loved em, cared a great deal about each one, yet never really had the mindset I see in other people.
The real desire to settle, grow old together etc. The thought of all that is great to me, yet I never put any of it into action. I could talk it, but never follow up.
Quite deep thinking for me right now lol.
Life is good right now to be honest. I date a nice girl who fancies the pants off my sexy ass. I chose to not label it a relationship or anything just now cos I'm still just cruising through my life.
Then maybe you've just not met the person for you. There are loads of people out there but not many (or just one) that would be it for you. You would have learnt from the people that it didn't work with and know what you want/didn't want hopefully!
Isn't dating just going out with?
I think life's too short and to just go for it x
Why go down the same mundane route as everyone else? Career, Wife, Kids it's like this is what is supposed to happen nowadays. I could live a perfectly happy life being single on £1k a month.
Don't look at others to make decisions on what you want to do.
Don't look at others to make decisions on what you want to do.
Some good points there.
I guess this is just how I am. I'm different to the norm.
It's weird that most of my married friends, are married to their first or second real girlfriends. It's either they are lucky to find exactly all they want in life, or they settle for what's easiest.
Think I'm just too fussy and think I qualify for a stunning girl when maybe I don't lol.
I guess this is just how I am. I'm different to the norm.
It's weird that most of my married friends, are married to their first or second real girlfriends. It's either they are lucky to find exactly all they want in life, or they settle for what's easiest.
Think I'm just too fussy and think I qualify for a stunning girl when maybe I don't lol.
Many couples just put up with each other that's why as they'd rather be in a relationship than be single, especially if one of them is financially stable. There's nothing wrong with having high standards and not just being with someone for the sake of it.
Aye I think there is truth in that spenty.
Some of my current situation as far as women goes probably comes down to my being in the RAF. I'm in the Midlands til March then ill no doubt move back to Scotland again, or where ever they send me. I think that next post will be a long term one.
It's quite an enlightening experience openly discussing my little old life right now. Things aren't bad at all. Just different to the lives of many people around me.
Think it just takes a little more for me to settle and get my ass in gear.
Some of my current situation as far as women goes probably comes down to my being in the RAF. I'm in the Midlands til March then ill no doubt move back to Scotland again, or where ever they send me. I think that next post will be a long term one.
It's quite an enlightening experience openly discussing my little old life right now. Things aren't bad at all. Just different to the lives of many people around me.
Think it just takes a little more for me to settle and get my ass in gear.
My best mate is in Afghan at the moment and he's in a relationship. When I've spoke to him he said it was incredibly difficult having a serious relationship when he's away for months at a time and even when he's home he's only back on the weekends and a couple of weeks off a year. As you said it's a tough situation as you're going to be moving about which makes finding someone who's okay with that more difficult.
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Well im 40 in years but never aged in the mind after 25 so im still 25 and 30 is so far away, also read that as a 12 year-old living in the mind of this 25 year-old because who the hell wanted to grow-up anyway.
I think another thing that bears thinking about is how actually society keeps you quite infantilised or held-out of 'adult' life for longer and longer now. My grandparents were involved in their careers and married by age 21-22. Nowadays most people are still in full-time education or off on gap-yahs travelling the world until 25, before they even hold down a serious entry-level job. Add that to how difficult it is to get on the property ladder and career ladder nowadays, for various social- and structural- reasons... and I imagine it's easy to find yourself hitting 30 whilst still nostalgically wondering about your childhood. It probably really doesn't seem all that far away, to be honest. My life doesn't have a great deal more responsibilities now, at 22, than it did when I was 18. For people a generation or two before me, those 4 years would have been one of total maturation.
Regarding relationships when only free on weekends. The biggest issue is if you argue one weekend you end up stewing over it through the week, and then when you return the following weekend you still have it over you.
Normally people are with each other constantly after an argument and get over it right away.
That's my experience of it. Can be a right pain in the ass
Normally people are with each other constantly after an argument and get over it right away.
That's my experience of it. Can be a right pain in the ass
Having a family isn't my idea of a fulfilling life.
Having a wife and 2.4 kids may not be everyone's idea of fulfillment... but you can probably agree, by and large, that it's a great deal more fulfilling than playing computer games all day 
I grew out of games (and I was into them in a BIG way) about 3 years ago. Just went cold-turkey. It is true that as you mature you need something a bit more... substantial... to take up your time.
I grew out of games (and I was into them in a BIG way) about 3 years ago. Just went cold-turkey. It is true that as you mature you need something a bit more... substantial... to take up your time.You could argue that its the only real point of life....
I wouldn't argue that but I've seen the baby bomb hit a few people and after that its all they live for.
I know the feeling OP although I'm still a few years behind you. Like a previous poster said, I think this generation finds it hard to know where we should be at by our mid 20's / 30's.
I mean I'm 25 and when I look at what I've actually achieved, I have to wonder what on earth have I been doing?
I'm a student with no money, no gf and still no damn idea of where I'm headed. When I look at where my parents were at my age, they already had a house and a second kid on the way!
Still late night dwelling never turns out well, so I'm off to bed.
Everything is so epic when you're a kid. I would spend a saturday riding bikes and playing football when i was 10 and it would be the most amazing day ever. It would be the equivalent of a 7 day holiday in the carribean at age 30.
I hate to think what the equivalent will be at age 60.
I hate to think what the equivalent will be at age 60.