Partner relocating, should I tell my boss?

gobbo

gobbo

gobbo

Soldato
Joined
25 Dec 2002
Posts
2,862
My girlfriend and I have been living together for 3 years, she's recently been headhunted for her dream job. Problem is, this will involve her moving as it's ~130 miles from where we live and my current job is. The relationship side of this isn't a problem as we're happy living apart for a length of time till I can move down with her.

The problem I have is with my job. Obviously, I want to move down with her, but I don't want to leave my current job without a new job lined up.

So, do I keep quiet about all this, find a job and hand my notice in, or do I tell my boss that my partner has been headhunted/relocated and is there anything that can be done to enable me to work from home etc on a permanent basis? The company have been very good to me (training courses, accommodating personal issues, salary etc) so I'd feel slightly uneasy about just leaving.

As a background, my boss has always been very accommodating and likes to run a very informal office, always said I can talk to them about anything etc and I really enjoy working there.
 
Tough one, guess it depends how likely it is that you could work from home. Loyalty is admirable no doubt, but sometimes you do also have to look out for yourself.
 
Talk to him. He can't fire you because you 'might' leave. You never know, you might be able to work something out.
 
It's a tough one, I agree with wedgie to a point in that you have to look out for yourself but in these times it is difficult to get a job, least of all a job you enjoy.

I would speak to them and be honest about the situation, basically repeat what you just posted, if anything they will appreciate your honesty and that may well go a long way to them excepting the permanent work from home option.

Ask them if they would be willing for you to work from home and that you are prepared to come into the office when necessary 3-4 time s a month maybe.
 
G|mp said:
Ask them if they would be willing for you to work from home and that you are prepared to come into the office when necessary 3-4 time s a month maybe.
Click to expand...
I think that's a bit unrealistic. Surely if he's never worked from home on a regular basis before, his boss is unlikely to say 'ok just come in once a week'? Surely it'd be a case of working Mondays and Fridays at home or something?
 
Talk, If you take a day off for an interview and hand your notice in it will only annoy people you have a decent relationship with. Don't burn bridges that you might later need and all that.
 
Scam said:
I think that's a bit unrealistic. Surely if he's never worked from home on a regular basis before, his boss is unlikely to say 'ok just come in once a week'? Surely it'd be a case of working Mondays and Fridays at home or something?
Click to expand...

It depends on what job he does obviously but it's an option else he wouldn't be considering asking.

It's also not unrealistic at all, I've worked with several people who work from home but have to come into the office 3-4 times a month. Again, depends what job he does though.
 
I would tell them.

I know my staff have to move on from time to time thats part of doing business but I treat them all really well and I would be very unhappy if they did not let me know they are looking for a new job.
 
Stretch said:
I wouldn't say anything yet. Find a job, then talk to him.
Click to expand...

This. However, not being funny, I'd give your g/f time to settle into her new job first. Stranger things have happened than partners deciding their new job isn't up to what they thought it would be.

Let her settle in, form good working relations with colleagues, then start looking for a job down there. Once you get a lay of the land with potential opportunities, then talk to your boss. No harm, no foul.
 
I don't want to give my job away as you never know who reads what web forums(!), but I work in IT a a general sys admin and I spend 99% of my time at my desk...from my perspective it doesn't matter where my desk is!

I think the big thing for me with this is that I do feel a lot of loyalty to the company, and I know from my review that I am highly regarded by colleagues and management which I why I think I owe it to them to be open and honest about everything.

Thanks for the advice so far, to be honest it's mainly what I've been thinking myself, but it's good to hear other people agree!
 
you seem to have a good working relationship with the boss so do the decent thing and tell him the truth, i feel you will get much more respect telling the truth than being sneakey
 
Tell your manager. My guess is they will appreciate the honesty. You may even get lucky in that they let you work from home a lot! (keep job + move with gf, win win)

The worst that can happen is they say it wont work, and you will need to look for a new job.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom