Wedding gift (cash)- How much to give?

Fusion · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:48

I'm going to a friend's wedding (which isn't until early Nov) and he has respectfully asked that any gifts be cash.

I realise this is rather like defining the general length of a string, but roughly what would you say is a reasonable, non-stingy (but not OTT) sum?

If any of you have given cash wedding gifts in the past, how much did you give?

Cheers!

Ironic Namesake · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:49

How much were you prepared to spend on a wedding gift? I guess around the equivalent of that

2bit · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:51

£20 to £50 depending on how much I like them and if they ask for cash directly.

A bit more if they specify something they really want or aren't unpleasant about it.

Dmack · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:51

Depends how close the friend is, best friend i'd be giving him loads. A friend who is just within a group of people i know i'd probably opt for £50-£70 with a small gift alongside.

The_Baron · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:54

The equivalent of what the meal would have cost - a bit more if it's a free bar!

Morgoth · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:56

Give him a 2 for 1 Little Chef voucher, that's as good as cash.

Buchanan0204 · 31 Aug 2012 at 19:57

Bit cheeky I think asking for money... Anyway, depending on how close friend is obviously. Best friend, £100-£200. Friend of a friend, £30.

pingwing · 31 Aug 2012 at 20:06

Money is a very sensible thing these days, a lot of couples have plenty of usual wedding gifts prior to getting married so it makes sense to pool a lot of cash together.

£100 is the bench mark (if you can afford it) 30-50 is the older friend scale, less than 30 is a little tight (unless you really cant afford it).

If its a very close friend maybe cash and something small and silly if you have any good ideas.

the shadow · 31 Aug 2012 at 20:07

100 quid if it lasts.If it fails ask for it back

Fusion · 31 Aug 2012 at 20:09

£100 is more than I was expecting, £50 sounds better. It's a pretty close friend but I wouldn't say the closest.

Buchanan0204 · 31 Aug 2012 at 20:14

If you have £200 per week pocket money to blow on anything you like and debt free etc. £50 is a bit cheeky.

On the other hand, if you don't have lots of disposable cash. £50 is more than generous. Base it on what you can afford. No one is going to think worse of you if you don't give a massive amount when you can't afford to.

mattx2 · 31 Aug 2012 at 21:22

As someone that just had a wedding most guests gave around £50 good friends and close relatives gave £100-200

estebanrey · 31 Aug 2012 at 21:27

£2.53

Energize · 1 Sep 2012 at 00:35

Cheeky to ask for cash gifts tbh. They are supposed to be paying for their wedding, not the guests!

arknor · 1 Sep 2012 at 01:05

Energize said:
Cheeky to ask for cash gifts tbh. They are supposed to be paying for their wedding, not the guests!

indeed... i would stick a £20 ocuk voucher in for the lulz

Lighters · 1 Sep 2012 at 03:00

glad you brought this up, likely to give me friend around £100 for his wedding then

Skidder · 1 Sep 2012 at 08:06

Strange asking for cash. Are they very common?

Destination · 1 Sep 2012 at 08:08

Fusion said:
£100 is more than I was expecting, £50 sounds better. It's a pretty close friend but I wouldn't say the closest.

Fifty

leoncao · 1 Sep 2012 at 08:38

Not more than £50 sounds about right for general friends. For best friends cannot make a measure easily, will depend on how much u got?

Fusion · 1 Sep 2012 at 08:53

I should add that me and some other mates are going on his stag do later this month, and we've jointly paid for him on that (which includes gorge walking, whisky tasting as well as the usual inevitable debauchery) so he's not getting a bad deal