Facebook etiquette after breaking up with ex-gf?

MisChief said:
Do nothing.
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i'd be inclined to go with this option unless its really really bothers you.
if and when you add another missus to facebook, just hope she is grown up enough to accept that those photos were just part of your life, your past, if not then as someone has already said "dodged a bullet"
 
St0rmer66 said:
The issue: I obviously plan to move on at some point, hopefully sooner rather than later. Half of my facebook photos have both me and said ex-girlfriend in them. If I meet someone, at some point; probably early on; she will be added on Facebook (unless she is one of the few who don't have it these days) and will see ALL these photos of me with her. I fear this may not go down well even if she doesn't admit it.
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Get over it. That's what you should tell future GF, as well. your not a teenager.
 
If you're this worried over some photos I'm really glad you didn't have a kid!

Everyone has a history, you are the person you are today because of the people you have or had in your life. I've been with my wife since we were 15, we're now 31. If we split up I don't think I would consider deleting 15 years of my life for someone :)
 
Why keep the past public. Move the photos to a place where you can see them yourself, i.e. your hard drive, but dont make them public. They are your past not anyone elses. I have photos of the past with other partners, but the last thing I want to do is share them with the world.
 
delete all photos of you two, untag etc, hide all traces.

although "facebook isn't life", it's no different then photos in your house. the only reason to think about it is what others will think as it could be obvious what you've done as facebook is very open to stalkers.

i'm sure you'll remove any pictures around your house for your next gf so do the same on facebook.
 
I would untag or delete any where it was specifically the 2 of you as a couple but leave any general ones - its just a lot less awkward for everyone involved now and at a later date.

That said I notice a lot of people I know in facebook where they've split up just leave the old photos up or go nuts and delete every last trace.
 
I deleted her, untagged myself and deleted the photos of us together. Makes it much easier. Its not ignoring that part of my life, but I didnt want to associate myself with her in any way.
 
Having split up with my ex recently I completely deleted then blocked her. Seeing her updates, pictures, how she was moving on etc was too heart breaking to see on a daily basis. She wanted to stay in contact though, even wrote me a letter saying she needed me to be a part of her life...lol, NO!
 
Just asked the wife (she's always on facebook) and she says that the best thing would be to delete and de-tag any pictures that show you were more than friends with your ex, possibly all photos with her to be extra safe.

Also change your status to single lol

There you go, take it or leave it. Good luck finding a new one in this economy - oh wait, that's jobs :D
 
[FnG]magnolia;22705147 said:
I'd suggest that if your new GF (who doesn't exist yet btw, let's not forget about that) is getting bent out of shape by the fact that you had a life prior to meeting her then you should probably raise your sights slightly higher than the clingy, needy, paranoid type of girl she most clearly is.

People break up all the time. Everyone has a history. Find a woman who understands both of these points.
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People do have a history, but it's not that hard to put the photos offline.

You don't leave pictures of you & the ex up around the house when you get a new girlfriend, why should facebook be any different?.

I'd take them down for the same reason I'd take down photo's of an ex around the house, they are no longer needed/wanted.
 
I've only read through the first ~15 replies and lat couple, so apologies to those guys lost in the middle who may have contributed something worth while, but......

I'm genuinely surprised at the amount of people saying "just leave it" or "just hope you meet a girlfriend that isn't clingy/needy etc". I'm not the jealous type at all, and my last girlfriend who massively so. To the point where she wanted any photo with me half naked (or fully naked as some were :p) or that had anything to do with an ex removed from FaceBook.

Now I think a balance should be maintained. Everyone has a history and it's nice to see pictures of travels, there's no deal here. But why would you keep pictures of you and your ex being a couple on there? That is the most massively socially awkward penguin thing I can ever imagine. "Yeah, here's a picture of me and my ex, hope you don't mind 'cause otherwise that would be really clingy and protective of you". Uh really?

I know my girlfriend has had sex before and it doesn't bother me - doesn't mean I want her to tell me about the last time she was viciously ploughed! Same goes with exs; I know she's had them, but I don't want 500 of her 1200 FaceBook photos to be of their memories for me to see.

MisChief said:
Exactly my thoughts.

If I was the ex, seeing ALL pics being deleted/untagged or even get unfriended will just be upsetting.

If I was the new woman, I'd be suspicious if I didn't see a pic or two or a hundred of the guy with his ex. I'd be more worried the fact that things are hidden from me. How would I know if things are hidden or quite simply just doesn't exist? Well... Women just know.

Either do nothing, or just remove a few hugging/kissing pics but not all.
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That just tops it off as the most bat **** crazy post here in my opinion! What is this? Treat them mean to keep them keen?!

[FnG]magnolia;22705147 said:
I'd suggest that if your new GF (who doesn't exist yet btw, let's not forget about that) is getting bent out of shape by the fact that you had a life prior to meeting her then you should probably raise your sights slightly higher than the clingy, needy, paranoid type of girl she most clearly is.

People break up all the time. Everyone has a history. Find a woman who understands both of these points.
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And again. I've got a photo album at home of my travels in Hong Kong and Thailand with an ex. I would never throw it away. But how socially inept would it be to have it on display around my house?

I'm wondering how many people giving this ilk of advice actually casually have pictures of exs laid around for their partner to see, or have been in the position of having to see it themselves :confused:
 
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