Abusive Kids In The Park Today ....

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Today i took my 2 little daughters, 7 & 8, down to my local park. The little ones jumped straight onto the swings and all was good. A few minutes later two 'bigger' girls (aged 12ish) appeared and started playing on another piece of playground equipment just behind us. Their language however was something else. It was 'f' this and 'f' that. I shouted over for them to stop swearing and all i got back from them was that 'i'm not their dad and they do anything they want'. The swearing got louder and the language got worse so in my wisdom i told them if they didn't stop they'd get a 'slap'. Yes i know it was the wrong thing to say! I then told them i knew which school they went to (i don't!) and i'd tell their teachers tomorrow. Again they shouted back obscenities so i got my One X out and took a photo of them and said i'd show this photo to their teacher. They ran away.

All i was trying to do was try and protect my little one's ears from all the swearing. I'm thinking of putting the photo of the abusive girls up on twitter , linking it to the Sunderland page, just to try and name and shame them.

Would anyone else have said anything if they were in my shoes?
 
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Paedo.













/jks

This is what some kids are like nowadays, can't teach them right from wrong because they don't want to and they know they can get away with anything.
 
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Yes, putting a picture of 12 year old girls online is a great idea. :rolleyes:

Though, teaching your children that abusive people should be beaten isn't very good parenting. You did the right thing in asking them to be quiet, but beyond that you didn't perform very well.

Just forget it, and move on.
 
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I'd personally be very careful about publicising that, in the very worse case scenario you have the grounds for an allegation of assault against you.

Just move on and be in knowledge that you're a better dad.
 
I think you should have avoided the whole 'slap' thing, as the kids aren't 3 or 4 years old, they're 12 and will probably tell their parents who I'm assuming will be just as bad (if not worst) than the kids.

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Did you not try the, "I'll ring the police" line on them? If you did and they didn't stop, then why not actually call them? It may not be the best reason to call them, but swearing in public can you get in 'trouble' under the Public Order Act can it not? So it wouldn't be a complete waste of the police's time.
 
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You took a picture? Sorry, what?

If you were that annoyed, you should have just left. I understand that they were shouting obscenities and you had your kids with you. But to say you will give them a slap and then take a picture. Just wrong.
 
If they go home and say to their parents that a man threatened to slap them and took pictures of them you could be in a lot of bother. Definitely don't put the photo on twitter.
 
Fubsy said:
This is what some kids are like nowadays, can't teach them right from wrong because their "parents" don't give them the correct discipline, expecting the state to do everything for them
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Edited the above quote for accuracy. Hell I'll even suggest that a lot of kids today were born because their whore of a mother wanted a council house & other financial benefits.
 
Vita said:
You took a picture? Sorry, what?

If you were that annoyed, you should have just left. I understand that they were shouting obscenities and you had your kids with you. But to say you will give them a slap and then take a picture. Just wrong.
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Oh come on....he's not the bad guy here.

OP, i wouldn't have shouted at them to be honest, i would gone over and tried to talk to them like adults. Try and influence them rather than belittle them..
 
Although what you did wasn't technically "wrong", did you not realise what the potential outcome could be.

Firstly - they did nothing wrong in the eyes of the law. You did ! You threatened them - and most kids of that age will be smart enough to know they have you by the short and curlies once you say something like that.

Most importantly - you photographed underage kids without their parents permission in a park - and they could twist that any which way they like. I know because I have a teacher friend who basically nearly lost his job for a similar reason :rolleyes: If you publish that picture you may as well sign your own death warrant - no matter what the reason. I know if it was my daughter and someone had been taking pictures to post online (even if she was spouting every other word as an F-Word) - I would want to know who the hell thought it was right to take & publish their pictures without my consent.

You should have dealt with the situation differently... as in - just removing your kids from the situation ,explaining your reasons to the other kids - and being done with it.
 
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I think you were extremely foolhardy in the current climate we live in. Threatening violence to youngsters, no matter how potty mouthed they may be, demonstrates nothing more than your loss of self-control and serves to leave you open to ridicule.

You should have gathered your children and left. Not at all ideal but getting drawn into a tête à tête with children was certainly the worse of the two options you had.
 
Would've told them to curb their language with younger kids in the area nicely and if they didn't I would've left with my kids if I thought the atmosphere was upsetting my girls. I certainly wouldn't of said I'd physically slap the kids or taken a photo of them... What if their yobbo dads/older brothers were nearby and all came along with those girls saying how you said you'd beat them and then started taking snidey photos of them on your camera?
 
Heliospherez said:
Although what you did wasn't technically "wrong", did you not realise what the potential outcome could be.

Firstly - they did nothing wrong in the eyes of the law. You did !
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Well that's not true. You're not allowed to use threatening or offensive language in public.
 
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I think you were extremely foolhardy in the current climate we live in. Threatening violence to youngsters, no matter how potty mouthed they may be, demonstrates nothing more than your loss of self-control and serves to leave you open to ridicule.

You should have gathered your children and left. Not at all ideal but getting drawn into a tête à tête with children was certainly the worse of the two options you had.
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Totally agree! You're almost as bad as them by threatening violence
 
What an awkward situation, OP i'm not sure what i'd do in that scenario. You're confronted with little S**** who need a slap and putting in their place, but your hands are tied with what you can do.

We've created a society where scum like that can abuse adults without fear of repercussion.
 
Resident said:
Edited the above quote for accuracy. Hell I'll even suggest that a lot of kids today were born because their whore of a mother wanted a council house & other financial benefits.
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I don't think that's entirely fair. Some children in these awful circumstances of having a parent (or set of parents if their lucky) that doesn't give a crap how their children behave, sometimes they sort themselves out and learn how to be decent human beings.
 
Well reading the comments so far i kinda wish i'd dealt with it differently. I said and did what i did when i was put on the spot.Hindsight is a wonderful thing.
 
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