Do too many people want children for the wrong reasons?

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Just thinking about it while I'm off work ill

For me I don't want children.. For more than one reason.

I'm not ready.. Doubt I ever will be.. Would probably make a bad parent
Fear of a disabled child.. I know I couldn't cope always impressed with people who do
I couldn't give them a decent life.. Life situation
I don't think it's that great a time to be a child.. Relates to the decent life comment a bit and the economy/world future in general

Personally I would only want a child if i could give it a decent shot at a decent life
I admit my last comment is completely subjective on unknown events

Do you guys think too many people want kids for them/because it's the done thing/instinct etc which (IMO) are the wrong reasons

Friends often say I will want them one day and I can see friends who previously say 'never' slowly caving saying one day. But I have zero desire atm. Indeed its hard finding a gf who agrees. I don't find kids cute at all, hate when people show me their babies, 'isn't he cute' its hard to lie as I'm not good at it lol

I'm 27
 
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I strongly do not want kids ever. This world is getting worse every day and I personally don't see it ever improving.
 
[FnG]magnolia;22882084 said:
What if your kids could improve it?
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I think it's incredibly optimistic to believe that one or two people could improve the world especially when it's becoming increasingly harder just to feed yourself and have a roof over your head.

Maybe there are things that a single or small group of people could do like discover a good renewable fuel source but even then I don't think anyone would ever be able to get rid of the main troublemakers like religion and corruption in basically everything.
 
I don't want kids, however if I was with a woman who did want them I might reconsider.

I also agree that some, in fact a lot, of people do not plan properly. Just look at how many teenage mums there are. If I had to pick a demographic that was least well equipped to be a parent, it would be teenagers. Teenagers can barely look after themselves, nevermind a child.
 
I'd love to have kids. The idea of being able to watch them grow and teach them everything I know seems an privileged, if daunting prospect. Having kids young (especially for the mother) decreases the changes of having a disabled kid dramatically. Before 30 is ideal. With a joint income, I think I would have the finances to support a kid, but ideally I'd like to wait a few more years yet.

Living a life without children does seem rather pointless and empty to me though.
 
[FnG]magnolia;22882148 said:
What if your kids grow up and meet their respective partners and their kids make a difference, make the world a better place?
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Too optimistic.

As I said, harder to afford to bring up kids and I'd rather not rely on the good ole government to pay for my kids.
 
LateX'Dog said:
Most people want kids for meal tickets, its sad really but you see them everywhere.
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I look at it from another angle, they know if they have kids, worst case the state will support them.

It is far to easy in this country to make bad decisions and have someone else take responsibility for those bad choices.
 
In my experience, it's the same with children and dogs; the majority of people who have 'em, do so for the wrong reasons.
 
I never saw myself and my wife with a kid. One day it just happened and 1 year on I can honestly say that it is our greatest achievement.

Quality of life isn't solely based on money. You just make do with what you have. A happy, loving home is more important then anything else.
 
I want to want children.

I think that the world is becoming a worse place.

The people who are having the most children are the ones who shouldn't. It really is going to have a negative effect on the gene pool if all the most intelligent and hard working people are having the fewest children, and all the laziest and least intelligent people are having the most.
 
grimm said:
I want to want children.

I think that the world is becoming a worse place.

The people who are having the most children are the ones who shouldn't. It really is going to have a negative effect on the gene pool if all the most intelligent and hard working people are having the fewest children, and all the laziest and least intelligent people are having the most.
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Concur with the last part completely its not a good thing to have the majority with that mindset!

The first sentence.. Depends how you read it! :-P
 
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