Mates ex girlfriend

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:11

Halfmad said:
Remove picture - proves nothing other than how daft you are and I doubt she'd be pleased.

I'd bank on losing your mate but gaining a girlfriend for however long, but if either of you are over 30 the chances are it won't be long. Maturity tells guys that it really doesn't matter, exs are EX for a reason and if any of my mates wanted to date one of mine, I'd tell him to go for it, but make sure he supplied the condoms.

I'm not daft in the slightest thanks, grateful for your opinion though.

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:13

UncleRuckus said:
It has nothing to do with ownership. It's about loyalty and being faithful as a friend.

I understand what your saying, but the same mate cheated on her countless times, If he'd hadn't done, and i could see that he wasn't moving on/still in love with her, i wouldn't have done a thing, but he has moved on and is currently dating some girl.

Locky · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:15

uksoldierboy said:
I understand what your saying, but the same mate cheated on her countless times, If he'd hadn't done, and i could see that he wasn't moving on/still in love with her, i wouldn't have done a thing, but he has moved on and is currently dating some girl.

On that point, tell you mate to keep his nose out and MTFU.

Ripper · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:16

I think if you'd been in a 6 years relationship yourself you'd know where a lot of people are coming from in this thread. Regardless of the current situation between them both it's really not on. Just the fact that your considering it is bad enough.

Stop trying to make yourself feel better about it by going on about him cheating on her as well.

UncleRuckus · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:17

Ripper said:
I think if you'd been in a 6 years relationship yourself you'd know where a lot of people are coming from in this thread. Regardless of the current situation between them both it's really not on. Just the fact that your considering it is bad enough.

The thought makes me sick to my stomach.

twist3d0n3 · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:17

bro's before ho's, yo

JohnnyG · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:19

uksoldierboy said:
said girl, regards of what people think, she's utterly beautiful to me.

She looks worth losing a lesser mate over to be fair unless you're punching above your weight, got any pics of yourself?

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:23

Ripper said:
I think if you'd been in a 6 years relationship yourself you'd know where a lot of people are coming from in this thread. Regardless of the current situation between them both it's really not on. Just the fact that your considering it is bad enough.

Stop trying to make yourself feel better about it by going on about him cheating on her as well.

I have been in a long term relationship, it ended last year after 4 years, i understand where people are coming from i really do and i'm not using the fact that he's cheated on her to lessen any guilt i have, i have none, like i said my minds made up, your entitled to your opinion of course.

UncleRuckus · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:24

uksoldierboy said:
I understand what your saying, but the same mate cheated on her countless times, If he'd hadn't done, and i could see that he wasn't moving on/still in love with her, i wouldn't have done a thing, but he has moved on and is currently dating some girl.

He really sounds like he's moved on as he is so happy about the situation.

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:24

JohnnyG said:
She looks worth losing a lesser mate over to be fair unless you're punching above your weight, got any pics of yourself?

He's by no means a best mate, but still a friend.
No pics of me sorry, i'll be removing the pic also.

wizzard · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:26

what a load of tripe these threads turn up. i once gave my best mate my blessing to see one of my ex's i figured better he was looking after someone i once cared about than some stranger that could possibly not look after her right. didnt bother me in the slightest and why would it?

the fact he couldnt handle that i had been there before him was what broke up our friendship lol. they have since split up after many years and kids together and i got on with my life.

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:32

wizzard said:
what a load of tripe these threads turn up. i once gave my best mate my blessing to see one of my ex's i figured better he was looking after someone i once cared about than some stranger that could possibly not look after her right. didnt bother me in the slightest and why would it?

the fact he couldnt handle that i had been there before him was what broke up our friendship lol. they have since split up after many years and kids together and i got on with my life.

I've always thought this, i'm not a bad bloke at all and never once cheated on anyone i've ever been with, always treat women with highest respect etc. if it was me, i'd be happy if one of my friends was seeing a person i cared for the same reason as you.

UncleRuckus · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:35

uksoldierboy said:
if it was me, i'd be happy if one of my friends was seeing a person i cared for the same reason as you.

Your problem is you have no empathy for your friend, he clearly does not feel this way.

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:37

UncleRuckus said:
Your problem is you have no empathy for your friend, he clearly does not feel this way.

But i do, i'm just not going let that stop me being with what i think is an amazing woman.

Soundood · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:38

smash her pastie, send him phone pics of said pastie

job done, like a boss

twist3d0n3 · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:39

so you'd be well happy for another of your mates to knob her after you split, right?

robgmun · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:39

arknor said:
go for it! he lost her! tell him to deal with it.

unless she has kids by him then maybe i would stay out of it

This +1

uksoldierboy · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:40

No, i'm not saying i'd be happy about it, but i won't give up a friend over it at all.

theleg · 26 Oct 2012 at 22:46

wizzard said:
what a load of tripe these threads turn up. i once gave my best mate my blessing to see one of my ex's

i wonder if you'd have felt the same if he had just gone ahead and started dating her and it got the point of kissing...

i dunno...if the guy had asked in advance then it might be different....but letting it get so far before telling the friend? hmm..

and for me, its the 6 year thing...after 6 years, she knows every last thing about him..every personal thought or moment, every embarrassing secret...having her telling my mate about all our personal stuff, that is more dodgy that the actual relationship to me

and it will be talked about.....as will his performance and membership size.

Ripper · 26 Oct 2012 at 23:00

soundood said:
smash her pastie, send him phone pics of said pastie

Probably already has his own collection.