Mates ex girlfriend

Ahleckz · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:47

Kamwah said:
A man can somewhat be judged on who he chooses to keep in his company.

If you're choosing to hang around with guys who just **** around then shouldn't you be saying "I wouldn't want my mates to date my sister because they're all ********" instead of your "I wouldn't let my mates date my sister because I wouldn't want to have to sort them out"

TBH you just sound like a wimp who can't draw the line of whats their business and isn't.

[FnG]magnolia · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:47

sketchytom said:
i would mess your sister around

treat her like real dirt

and you would either accept it or loose a nose

then i would pound your mum

I want this put to music. Perhaps a Katy Perry song (can someone young tell me if she is still current and hip?)

Rybo89 · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:48

I really dont know with this one.

Me, i wouldn't touch a mates ex-girlfriend. I see it as disrespectful and crossing way over the line. Bro's before hoes and i don't fancy any sloppy seconds.

Though i also believe that you cannot help who you fall for. If it is really worth it and you really believe it will work and you feel more for the girl than your friendship with you friend.... Then **** it, go for it.

Omaeka · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:49

Kamwah said:
A man can somewhat be judged on who he chooses to keep in his company.

If you're choosing to hang around with guys who just **** around then shouldn't you be saying "I wouldn't let me mates date my sister because they're all ********" instead of your "I wouldn't let my mates date my sister because I wouldn't want to have to sort them out"

They aren't ********* for one, and I would have to sort them out, whether it be by falling out with them or yes, sorting them out. I'd rather me do that my dad for a start. Maybe it's different generations or different parts of the country, but it's clear we have greatly varying opinions on the matter.

Kamwah said:
TBH you just sound like a wimp who can't draw the line of whats your business and isn't.

Or somebody who knows what the people around him are like, and knows exactly what would happen.

Guest2 · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:51

Would you be angry if you went out with her for say 4 years, then broke up for a couple of years and one of your mates started going out with her?

I have seen this happen with a few of my friends and sometimes everything is fine. A few instances its got messy to say the least

I'm actually tempted by one of my mates ex's at them moment, however she is going out with someone at the moment anyway. I would think I would still have a pop but would say something to friend first

Ahleckz · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:51

Omaeka said:
They aren't ********* for one, and I would have to sort them out, whether it be by falling out with them or yes, sorting them out. I'd rather me do that my dad for a start. Maybe it's different generations or different parts of the country, but it's clear we have greatly varying opinions on the matter.

Or maybe it's because some of us are mature adults and realize that we shouldn't be beating people up. Let alone beating someone up for something that has nothing to do with us. Again, it's you being selfish and very immature. If your sister gets upset, and you go and beat up her boyfriend. How is that going to help? It might make you feel better, but it's not going to help her or the relationship.

Kamwah · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:53

Omaeka said:
They aren't ********* for one, and I would have to sort them out, whether it be by falling out with them or yes, sorting them out. I'd rather me do that my dad for a start. Maybe it's different generations or different parts of the country, but it's clear we have greatly varying opinions on the matter.

Or somebody who knows what the people around him are like, and knows exactly what would happen.

I refer back to my previous statement. A man can be judged by the company he keeps.

sketchytom · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:54

Omaeka said:
They aren't ********* for one, and I would have to sort them out, whether it be by falling out with them or yes, sorting them out. I'd rather me do that my dad for a start. Maybe it's different generations or different parts of the country, but it's clear we have greatly varying opinions on the matter.

Or somebody who knows what the people around him are like, and knows exactly what would happen.

do you draft men from other counties to bone your sister?

where is the application form?

i am sure you will find me acceptable and well matched to the job.

i even have a scooby doo costume i need to put to use and if your sister dresses up like daphnie it would really help

wingman · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:55

It's even worse when it's your brothers ex.

*leaves*

Omaeka · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:55

Ahleckz said:
Or maybe it's because some of us are mature adults and realize that we shouldn't be beating people up. Let alone beating someone up for something that has nothing to do with us. Again, it's you being selfish and very immature. If your sister gets upset, and you go and beat up her boyfriend. How is that going to help? It might make you feel better, but it's not going to help her or the relationship.

That is exactly the point, it would have something to do with me because everyone involved would drag me into it because the dude is my friend, which is exactly why it wouldn't happen in the first place.

How would you deal with a friend screwing your sister around and hurting her? :confused:

If it happened I'd 99% chance not have anything to do with them, and 1% chance do something else on the basis that it'd be a lot better than the alternatives, for them and my family.

needforspeed · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:57

Omaeka said:
I wouldn't trust my mates to not hurt my sister, because they would eventually because that's pretty much what they are like. I know relationships are fickle but I'd rather there not be any drama like a dead relationship in my life between a friend and a relative and getting me involved. I'd also feel to responsible that it would be the fact I know the guy if things went bad. I'll be your mate if you met me because you were dating my sister, but if you're dating my sister cause you met me then no thanks.

It's even worst when your sister and her boyfriend are having sex in a room above the room your doing work in. I find it disrespectful.

Ahleckz · 27 Oct 2012 at 12:58

Omaeka said:
That is exactly the point, it would have something to do with me because everyone involved would drag me into it because the dude is my friend, which is exactly why it wouldn't happen in the first place.

How would you deal with a friend screwing your sister around and hurting her?

If it happened I'd 99% chance not have anything to do with them, and 1% chance do something else on the basis that it'd be a lot better than the alternatives.

Or you know, can be mature and say that you don't want nor expect to be dragged in. By all means, support your sister (and/or friend, if she hurt him) emotionally. But how would beating anyone else up?

If my friend screwed my sister over, then I'd probably be nosey and find out what happened but realise that it isn't my relationship and it happened. Me beating up my friend isn't going to solve anything and isn't going to make her feel any better.

You come across as very immature, as more mature posters than I have also commented. One day I hope you will realise that violence needn't be the default recourse to any problems. One day, hopefully, you'll be able to remove yourself from situations that don't involve or concern you.

PS - I don't mean any of that to be insulting, I'm just trying to give you some advice and something to think about.

PPS - I didn't mean to add you to steam then, I was just clicking on your sig as the girl looked hot.

Wait, she isn't your sister is she?

Omaeka · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:05

Ahleckz said:
Or you know, can be mature and say that you don't want nor expect to be dragged in. By all means, support your sister (and/or friend, if she hurt him) emotionally. But how would beating anyone else up?

If my friend screwed my sister over, then I'd probably be nosey and find out what happened but realise that it isn't my relationship and it happened. Me beating up my friend isn't going to solve anything and isn't going to make her feel any better.

You come across as very immature, as more mature posters than I have also commented. One day I hope you will realise that violence needn't be the default recourse to any problems. One day, hopefully, you'll be able to remove yourself from situations that don't involve or concern you.

PS - I don't mean any of that to be insulting, I'm just trying to give you some advice and something to think about.

Doesn't matter what I'd want or say, it wouldn't be what'd happen. I'd definitely be dragged into it and looked upon by whichever circle the friend came from and/or my own family to take sides if it ended badly. I'd never walk away from a family member for a start regardless so that'd be the friend gone in either situation. Also, I don't solve any problems with violence, I've gotten myself out of situations like that more than once through actual words and calmed discussion.

Also exactly when did I say I involve myself in situations? I very rarely do, unless its serious and somebody needs or asks me to, and I find it hard to say no to family. Sad to say it but I know what's what and have a very good idea of what would happen based on what my mates and family are like, I don't like it but it is what it is.

I'm not insulted btw, but you have only the surface details to go upon, you certainly are one of the better people who have joined in on the subject.

Ahleckz said:
PPS - I didn't mean to add you to steam then, I was just clicking on your sig as the girl looked hot. Wait, she isn't your sister is she?

Obviously not.

Chelsea Vittorio/Radeo Suicide. Yum.

[FnG]magnolia · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:07

Hang on, is this a 'cultural' thing we're talking about here?

Omaeka · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:10

[FnG]magnolia;23044648 said:
Hang on, is this a 'cultural' thing we're talking about here?

Normally you crack me up, but it isn't nice being on the business end of a magtrollia.

Ahleckz · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:26

Omaeka said:
Doesn't matter what I'd want or say, it wouldn't be what'd happen. I'd definitely be dragged into it and looked upon by whichever circle the friend came from and/or my own family to take sides if it ended badly. I'd never walk away from a family member for a start regardless so that'd be the friend gone in either situation. Also, I don't solve any problems with violence, I've gotten myself out of situations like that more than once through actual words and calmed discussion.

Also exactly when did I say I involve myself in situations? I very rarely do, unless its serious and somebody needs or asks me to, and I find it hard to say no to family. Sad to say it but I know what's what and have a very good idea of what would happen based on what my mates and family are like, I don't like it but it is what it is.

I'm not insulted btw, but you have only the surface details to go upon, you certainly are one of the better people who have joined in on the subject.

Obviously not.

Chelsea Vittorio/Radeo Suicide. Yum.

There's a big difference between letting people make mistakes in their own lives and getting on with it and wading in and beating people up. That's all I'm saying. By not getting involved, physically, you aren't letting anyone down or not being a good brother/friend. You are just being mature.

What you wrote was very 'me', 'me', 'me', when it should have been all about your sister and her boyfriend. Tis all.

ANYWAY, it's clear that we both have different views on this. I have mine, which I think are mature and appropriate and you have yours which you think are appropriate. I think they are wrong, and immature, but I don't think I'm going to change your mind today. Perhaps your views will change, and hopefully you won't feel the need to beat someone up who hurts your sister.

Good conversation.

Have a nice day.

[FnG]magnolia · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:33

Omaeka said:
Normally you crack me up, but it isn't nice being on the business end of a magtrollia.

I don't have much more to add but I wasn't trolling you there. Those were genuine questions.

Omaeka · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:46

Ahleckz said:
There's a big difference between letting people make mistakes in their own lives and getting on with it and wading in and beating people up. That's all I'm saying. By not getting involved, physically, you aren't letting anyone down or not being a good brother/friend. You are just being mature.

What you wrote was very 'me', 'me', 'me', when it should have been all about your sister and her boyfriend. Tis all.

ANYWAY, it's clear that we both have different views on this. I have mine, which I think are mature and appropriate and you have yours which you think are appropriate. I think they are wrong, and immature, but I don't think I'm going to change your mind today. Perhaps your views will change, and hopefully you won't feel the need to beat someone up who hurts your sister.

Good conversation. Have a nice day.

I've never gotten involved with a sister and a boyfriend, I'm only supportive and non intrusive when it goes down the pan. Thing is, if it's a friend that hurt her then it's different, because they are supposed to be your mate and shouldn't do that to her. Maybe when I meet a friend who's incredibly respectful and mature when it comes to women my opinion may change, but for now if any of my mates try and make my sister their shagpiece (which they wouldn't anyway, because they ain't **** people) then I won't be best pleased, and neither should I be. I know of somebody who let his sister get passed around his group of friends like a piece of meat. Is he 'mature' for letting it happen?

The whole beating somebody up thing has been taken way out of proportion, I've never felt the actual need to beat anyone up, much more mature than most people around here my age tbh. Nobody has ever gotten a smack who didn't deserve it, and quite a few people who did deserve it, didn't either.

Violence is a level somebody falls to when they have nothing else to rely on.

Ahleckz said:
Good conversation. Have a nice day.

Quite so good sir, you too.

krooton · 27 Oct 2012 at 13:56

Rybo89 said:
Me, i wouldn't touch a mates ex-girlfriend. I see it as disrespectful and crossing way over the line. Bro's before hoes and i don't fancy any sloppy seconds.

Unless you are always popping cherries, you will forever have sloppy seconds/thirds/forths/tenths/etc.

Oh, and lolomaeka

Deleted member 77746 · 27 Oct 2012 at 14:00

OP at the end of the day do what you want face the consequences when / if they happen. You ever heard of the phrase, 'Don't play with fire, or you will get burnt?'...