Would you let your wife work in a prison?

233 · 3 Nov 2012 at 19:58

if I told my wife not to do something she would probably stab me

bitslice · 3 Nov 2012 at 19:59

She may not like the idea of being 'locked in' in the same prison block as the rest, although she's not going to get the same grief as the normal prison staff.

Natwee · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:02

BDEE said:
"Let your wife"....... What is this, the middle ages?

this, LOL if someone dared tell me what I could and couldnt do!

Monkey00 · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:09

All the people saying that he shouldn't be allowed to have an opinion on his wife's job choices. Have any of you been inside a prison? Beyond that point, why shouldn't a husband be allowed to have a say in his wife's life?

ethan · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:10

I think the OP is more likely to advise of the pitfalls not demand given by his comments.

Scrap that, he hasn't responded yet.

Your not workin' in that bloody Boom and Mizzen. Be told Gooseberry Puddin'

Natwee · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:19

Monkey00 said:
All the people saying that he shouldn't be allowed to have an opinion on his wife's job choices. Have any of you been inside a prison? Beyond that point, why shouldn't a husband be allowed to have a say in his wife's life?

an opinion is "i would/wouldnt like you working there" and leaving her to make the decision.

saying would you "let" them work there is like saying that they would need your permission to do so.

Monkey00 · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:21

Natwee said:
an opinion is "i would/wouldnt like you working there" and leaving her to make the decision.

saying would you "let" them work there is like saying that they would need your permission to do so.

Of course saying let seems that way, but I can't imagine the sort of guy who "let's" his wife do things, coming on here and asking for our opinion on whether or not he should let his wife move into a job that is possibly one of the most hostile and uncomfortable working environments for a female.

Castiel · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:21

If my wife wanted to work in a Prison that would be fine, I'd prefer she remained in her current profession however as I don't think the Prison Service pay that well and I don't want to have to actually work for living thanks......

MrMoonX · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:30

its pretty sad you think that you even have a say in this, the term "let your wife" is a pretty despicable attitude to have.

its up to your wife not you! your wife isnt your property

I worked 10 years as a prison officer, its boring as sin, but its pretty safe.

dexter27 · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:33

Is the salary good? I don't think i would be comfortable with it.

Monkey00 · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:33

Watch out, team forensic linguistics are here! Are we all that sad that we can't see the OP is possibly just worried about his wife's safety and that's why he's claiming ownership, as to be protective? Oh ****.

Castiel · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:34

MrMoonX said:
its pretty sad you think that you even have a say in this, the term "let your wife" is a pretty despicable attitude to have.

its up to your wife not you! your wife isnt your property

I worked 10 years as a prison officer, its boring as sin, but its pretty safe.

I don't know about you, but I discuss all decisions that affect our family and our lives with her, that includes changes in employment or job decisions.....she has a say in my decisions as I have a say in hers...that is what being a family is actually about.

G-MAN2004 · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:35

MrMoonX said:
its pretty sad you think that you even have a say in this, the term "let your wife" is a pretty despicable attitude to have.

its up to your wife not you! your wife isnt your property

I worked 10 years as a prison officer, its boring as sin, but its pretty safe.

He's obviously just being caring towards her.

Castiel said:
I don't know about you, but I discuss all decisions that affect our family and our lives with her, that includes changes in employment or job decisions.....she has a say in my decisions as I have a say in hers...that is what being a family is actually about.

Exactly.

ethan · 3 Nov 2012 at 20:43

Watch out, team forensic linguistics are here!

Lol.

I'd be worried and it's about £17.50 an hour for as long as it/she lasts.

Zero Pope · 3 Nov 2012 at 21:05

King Damager said:
Hehe, not helping, even if not true

kd

Sadly it is, it was my partners mother and it ended her marriage.

wozzizname · 3 Nov 2012 at 21:07

If its an adult prison she should be fine - if its a young offenders institution I'd say no.

WingZero30 · 3 Nov 2012 at 21:08

I wouldn't. She would be too precious to me.

big_white_dog84 · 4 Nov 2012 at 10:16

Thanks for the replies of various quality.

Of course 'let' refers to whether I will encourage or discourage her, not to whether I will sell her car and chain her feet to stop her going.

I think I will wait and see what happens at the interview, and hopefully the issue takes care of itself.

dowie · 4 Nov 2012 at 10:23

Would have thought the risk would be fairly minimal if she's not going to be left with them alone etc... plus she's not one of the 'screws' per say.

Perhaps someone who works in prisons can clarify but I'm presuming the ones who are allowed to attend educational classes etc.. are the ones who haven't been kicking off inside/causing trouble etc.. but rather want to do something positive for themselves.

Randomface74 · 4 Nov 2012 at 10:32

dowie said:
Would have thought the risk would be fairly minimal if she's not going to be left with them alone etc... plus she's not one of the 'screws' per say.

Perhaps someone who works in prisons can clarify but I'm presuming the ones who are allowed to attend educational classes etc.. are the ones who haven't been kicking off inside/causing trouble etc.. but rather want to do something positive for themselves.

They're the ones who want to see a woman.

Tell her you're not happy about it, if she ignores you that's up to her.