How long did it take to plan your wedding?

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I proposed to my girlfriend on Friday night, and she said yes :)

Now as well as being excited about the day, there's a shedload of stuff that needs to be planned, organised and saved for.

Budget's going to be the biggest sticking point I reckon, so we're going to try and keep costs to a minimum.

What were your experiences? How did you go about organising the big day? Did you use a planner? Plan yourself? How long did it take and how much did it cost?

Argh so much to think about! :confused::eek:

P.S.

She's also on the ocuk forums, so you could say this is an ocuk wedding :p
 
From date of proposing to day of wedding was 15 months & including honeymoon it cost around £9000.
We planned and arranged it all ourselves, & I wouldn't change anything we did.

For reference, a friend of mine is getting married next June & his budget is £30000
 
Congratulations.

Took about six or seven months. No idea what it cost as both parents stumped up most of the money. Didn't use a wedding planner but was helped along by the woman who sorted out the weddings at the railway centre.

In my defence it was a decade ago so I don't remember much about the planning stage.
 
hahahahahaha, you think you'll be planning a wedding!!!!

All you need to learn is "yes dear, whatever you want dear!"

a £20k wedding and I had the choice on 1 song on the day, and a selection from an already shortened down suit list, that turned out to be wrong and then corrected. And my wife isn't a bridezilla type!

The honeymoon we chose together though.

EDIT: remember, photos/video are forever, flowers die, food gets eat and dresses put away ;)

Also, get wedding insurance, depending on how much you are spending.
 
LordSplodge said:
Perhaps if you're cuckold. :D However a marriage is a partnership and the wedding day should reflect this. :)
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I'm a wedding photographer matey, it's always what the bride wants.

Out of 100 weddings i'd say ALL of them were mainly planned by the women with the odd thing requested by the groom being allowed ;)
 
Decided to plan a wedding in Sept, got married in Feb the following year. Cost about a grand. No regrets :) we didn't see the need for a big event, we wanted to be married rather than have a wedding.
 
Vix said:
Decided to plan a wedding in Sept, got married in Feb the following year. Cost about a grand. No regrets :) we didn't see the need for a big event, we wanted to be married rather than have a wedding.
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Fair play to you :D

The main issue with ocuk is you get the small minded people that come in to these threads and just insult people who spend a lot on the day etc :rolleyes:

My best friends wedding was around £2k, lovely day but they got a grands worth of photos for free as well which helps :D
 
You're not planning. She is.

You might get to plan the honeymoon if you're lucky.

Best one I heard the other day was that the husband got power of veto on proper things if he could give good reasons.

kd
 
Congratulations.

We are getting married next July so far the cost is about £5-6k still need to get other bits done so the price will go up yet again :(
 
AHarvey said:
EDIT: remember, photos/video are forever, flowers die, food gets eat and dresses put away ;)
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I see your point, but then again she'll be looking at her in a horrible dress in the pictures for the rest of her life. At least, that's what the mad bridezillas will say!
 
I proposed in May 2011 and we married two months ago.

We were working to a budget and weren't that precious about the venue, but if you are, some popular venues can get booked up years in advance.

In the end, we chose a hotel where we could have the ceremony and reception, cutting out the need for transport. A lot of hotels do wedding packages. Ours included a free bedroom and other bits and pieces as well as someone from the hotel to make arrangements.

We created a spreadsheet at the start and adjusted the items to suit our budget.
 
Fair points, and yeah I get the whole woman taking the upperhand/giving backhands in the organisation of the day, but I am hoping to have SOME input :p

We are lucky that in our families and friends, we have an event organiser, a dress seamstress, we're both chefs, have photographer and DJ mates, so it's looking good on the money saving front :)

Yeah I've read about these wedding packages that certain hotels do and they seem tempting, will definitely look into them.

We don't want it to be all grand and bling-y, as that's definitely not our style. Simple, cool and nice will do.

Whatever stresses, expenses and sleepless nights this causes, I'm really, really excited :D
 
AHarvey said:
I'm a wedding photographer matey, it's always what the bride wants.

Out of 100 weddings i'd say ALL of them were mainly planned by the women with the odd thing requested by the groom being allowed ;)
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Shows what weddings have become really. Whilst often it is a more important day for the bride (Why when you're both getting married?) it seems to have become a kind of oneupmanship over other women's weddings.

Our wedding was arranged by both of us. There was some disagreements but it wasn't all what the bride wanted.

mollymoo said:
You're screwed already :)
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I've been married a decade. So yeah I am already screwed. :D
 
Probably less then an hour. Seriously. The whole thing was staggeringly efficient. We had a small service with close friends and family, all of which took minutes to organize. For rings we just walked into the nearest jewelry store and agonized for many seconds before choosing :p It turned out to be a perfect day and I wouldn't change a thing about it. It will be 10 years in March :)
 
That's really cool, Curio :)

Tegan is not your typical girly, dramaqueen, materialistic woman, by far, so the whole oneupmanship thing is a non-issue.

It's all about us, what we want, and we won't be putting up with any crap :p
 
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