Weird to spend Christmas Eve (and most of Christmas day) apart from girlfriend?

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Hi,

I’ve been with my gf for over five years now and we’ve normally handled Christmas pretty well. Usually we a have a meal at one family’s place on Christmas eve, then travel to the other family’s on Christmas day or boxing day.

This year I asked her if she wanted to stay at my mum’s place on Christmas eve and have my family’s meal, then travel back to her family’s possibly later on Christmas day. The main reason for this is because Christmas eve in my village is really good, it’s the only time of year when all my friends from school/college are back home and basically it’s awesome every year.

My gf doesn’t get anything like this because all of her friends from school have left, and basically she’s only bothered about seeing her mum and brothers whom she is very close to. So, she has said she wants to go home, and I can stay in my village and maybe have a Christmas day meal with my family.

Is this a trap? Is it weird to want to see all my mates on Chistmas Eve and not see her? Normally she’d come out with me but she’s not really into it. It’s a situation where I know lots of people I’ve not seen for ages so she must feel a bit of a tag-along, which I don’t want of course.

In short, spending Christmas Eve and half of Christmas day apart would actually benefit us both quite well… She gets to see her family sooner, which is all she’s bothered about. I get to have more of a sesh with my mates. Still, part of me feels a bit wrong about it all even though I’d still be seeing her later on Christmas day.

Anyone had a similar problem before?
 
It's not that weird but we've only ever done it when she was working now that I think of it.
 
My GF is on the other side of the world seeing her family over Christmas. I wouldn't worry about it. I always tell her she should do what makes her happy and if that is different from what I want to do, but I can still do what I want then that is a win/win for both of us.
 
My girlfriend is very family-orientated, so I wouldn't dare take her away from them on Christmas day, I'll probably do what I did last year and we'll spend the day apart but I'll pop round her folks to see her in the evening. No plans for Christmas Eve whatsoever though haha :D
 
bJN said:
My girlfriend is very family-orientated, so I wouldn't dare take her away from them on Christmas day, I'll probably do what I did last year and we'll spend the day apart but I'll pop round her folks to see her in the evening. No plans for Christmas Eve whatsoever though haha :D
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That is probably your best bet dude, going from personal experience! :p
 
I don't think its weird, i saw my ex when it suited me over Christmas but the current one seems determined for us to see each other Christmas day and boxing day :/ i am happy just chilling out with my Dad and drinking a few beers but then i get on well with him and we have a business together.
 
Shayper said:
That is probably your best bet dude, going from personal experience! :p
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It's fine, but I've learnt my lesson from last year and won't bombard their lounge with two boxes the size of me filled with presents. She didn't appreciate all the effort I went to haha! :p
 
bJN said:
It's fine, but I've learnt my lesson from last year and won't bombard their lounge with two boxes the size of me filled with presents. She didn't appreciate all the effort I went to haha! :p
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Pahahaha sounds like her lol :D
 
Never see my GF on christmas (or new year this year, not making that mistake again).

Both live really far away from each other and my family is tiny so I couldn't ditch them at christmas (plus there's stuff planned with mates). Her family is massive and are all like "go one come see us" but its cold in NI and there are too many people.

It's only a trap is she uses likes "well fine do what you want" and so on :p

If she's actually doing something though then it's clearly not a big deal and enjoy real christmas instead of forced tagalong one.
 
Not weird at all me and my girlfriend shall be spending Christmas at our respective families and will both probably be working Christmas eve, boxing day will be our day. Along with new year.
 
Not weird at all, me and my GF always had christmas apart. For years she would go back to Leeds and I would stay in Newcastle.

Last year was the first year we had together as we hosted christmas in our new home.

Unless you are married / engaged or the relationship is one you know will definetly be perminent I don't see a problem.
 
Not really weird. It doesn't always work out where you can see both families, so just go round and see her later on. There's no reason why either of you should have to miss out on family-time because the other doesn't want to spend time with the other.
 
i see my missus on christmas eve then on christmas day she goes to her grans for dinner with her dad then goes to see her mum and stepdad then round to mine for tea and crashes for the night
 
I've always prioritised Christmas as such; Girlfriend > Family > Friends

It comes down to your personal preferences of course. It also depends on how much time over the Christmas period you're spending together. If Christmas Eve & Day were your only two days off together then I'd suggest half of the big day spent together wasn't sufficient. However if you've got a few more days together afterwards then I'd be more inclined to see my friends, spend the day with my family and the evening with the missus.
 
My girlfriend and I used to do it the first couple of years we were going out (we started seeing each other in November one year) but now we just alternate whose family we see on Christmas day.
 
My gf has always gone home for Xmas but I have always worked so never spent it together, probably annoys her but I don't really like it that much (the day) but I do like the extra pay
 
Before I bought a house I always saw my mated on Xmas eve and went for a beer, Then on Xmas day I went over to hers in the afternoon for dinner. My parents have dinner at 1, hers at 6. So 2 Dinners was always a bonus :-)
 
Not weird.

Before my little one was born we would have Christmas dinner at each others parents houses then see each other in evening.

Now we alternate every year. This year her parents Xmas lunch then mine on evening. Boxing day other way round, it (tends) to work well as we are Borg very family orientated.
 
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