Loyalty

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How loyal are you and how much does it mean to you that other people show loyalty? I would regard myself as an innately loyal person, it needs to be earned but once it's there it's difficult to budge.

However, I'm realising that more often than not, this loyalty is not rewarded, indeed it can be to my detriment. That said, I don't think I can change that part of my personality and sometimes, people do show that loyalty means something.

So, what does loyalty mean to you?
 
My team are utter poo this season, but I am staying loyal, is that what you mean? :)
 
I'm loyal to my friends, it doesn't necessarily mean ill defend them whatever happens, I just won't ever turn against them.
 
Burnsy2023 said:
How loyal are you and how much does it mean to you that other people show loyalty? I would regard myself as an innately loyal person, it needs to be earned but once it's there it's difficult to budge.

However, I'm realising that more often than not, this loyalty is not rewarded, indeed it can be to my detriment. That said, I don't think I can change that part of my personality and sometimes, people do show that loyalty means something.

So, what does loyalty mean to you?
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Rewarded? In what way do you expect a reward?

I am loyal, because that's the way I am. I won't let that be taken for granted though.
 
Loyal to friends and family. Though families these days don't seem to be loyal?
 
I am loyal to my profession, my family and my friends, where deserved.
I do notice from interactions with the public, that those who seem all sweet and nice will often attempt to ^&*( you over if they don't perceive you as jumping through their hoops.
 
I reciprocate how people treat me in all aspects with a default position of acceptance. If from there you are loyal to me then I will give my all to you. If from that position you betray my trust well you can expect the same from me.
 
To me loyalty needs to be earned similar to respect.

The best word to sum up loyalty is being 'True' - Someone who doesn't bull****, talk behind your back and is there for you when needed. Someone who you can tell a secret and trust them not to blabber to anyone.

Family should always be loyal, however are sometimes not

I would say I am a very loyal person, it takes quite a lot to earn my respect but when it has been then its a pretty solid friendship
 
I don't really value loyalty as a trait.

People should simply do well to others & treat everyone fairly based on how they act.

I will stand up for friends/family if they are in the right, but I won't let that bias me to the point I'm defending somebody who is in the wrong.

Just to clarify, having no regard for loyalty as a concept doesn't mean I endorse back-stabbing or being cruel - just that I firmly believe that people should be judged on what they do & not who they are.

I feel more is lost through loyalty than is gained (blindness to the failings of those close to us) & what is gained could be obtained through simply being a decent human being to all.
 
Burnsy2023 said:
How loyal are you and how much does it mean to you that other people show loyalty? I would regard myself as an innately loyal person, it needs to be earned but once it's there it's difficult to budge.

However, I'm realising that more often than not, this loyalty is not rewarded, indeed it can be to my detriment. That said, I don't think I can change that part of my personality and sometimes, people do show that loyalty means something.

So, what does loyalty mean to you?
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This is too broad a topic in my opinion as 'loyalty' and 'honesty' mean different things to different people and to have a 'true' either of these things the other person must share the same/your understanding of the word and behaviour attributed with it.

I've known people who I regarded as honest and loyal only to find out they'll happily screw over a third party to suit their needs at the time. While they haven't ever behaved like that directly with me.

So does that still make them an honest and loyal person? Not in my opinion :mad:

I think the general decline of common curteousy and good manners in society makes it difficult to expect much more from people these days.
 
Loyal?

I don't know why I've kept watching Sheffield Wednesday over the years. Is that blind loyalty? Probably just stupidity.
 
Loyalty, trust, reliability and respect are all essential traits for me. I am not religious but I do take that "treat others as you would like them to treat you" seriously when interacting with people face to face. Wish I could adopt this approach more on the internet but it's too hard to.

I never quite got why I would ever mention those during an interview as they are common basic skills, but over the past few years I have realised they're skills a shocking about of people lack. A lot of people put more effort into "pretending" to have said traits and manipulation when at the end of the day, it takes a lot less effort to just be plain nice and truthful if you mean it or not bother if you don't.

I am not going to pretend the sun shines out of my arse as mistakes do happen, but I usually apologise quite promptly when I feel I have let someone down as I feel like I've let myself down in the process.

People without those four key skills don't respect themselves as well as others IMO.
 
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