Do you believe in "the one"?

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I had a interesting discussion with a friend of mine the other day..

I am, and always have been a head-in-the-clouds romantic, and have always believed in meeting "the one".

However, events over the last few years have made me quite cynical.. To the extent where I've thought "the one" is just a unattainable fantasy, and the reality probably is people get together and settle down when they have an appropriate level of attractiveness for each other and emotional compatibility.

Thoughts?
 
I didn't really believe in it until I met the husband to be. I used to believe that there were lots of people suited to you and that was it. I still believe that there are lots of people suited but Mr Minxy and I are just too well suited to not be together.

They say you know when you've met the one and its true, we both knew right from the word go.
 
I reckon you meet a handful of people that you'd work really well with. At least in my experience
 
'The One' surely implies there is only one person in the world who would be perfect for you, and strangely enough out of billions of people a lot of them manage to find their 'One'.

This doesn't sound really realistic.

Lust - Shared Interests - Commitment - Love. If you can manage that with anyone then I'm sure they'd seem like 'The One' but I'm sure there are literally millions you could have the same feeling for, if not stronger.
 
I always thought I was like Neo... Wait wrong type of "The One."

Yea I think there is "the one." Thing is most people settle as they are scared of being alone.
 
Clearly from a statistical point of the 'the one' doesn't exist because out of a population of 7 billion the chances the "the one" lives in your country (let alone your city or town) is would be pretty low.
 
DiscoDave said:
I had a interesting discussion with a friend of mine the other day..

I am, and always have been a head-in-the-clouds romantic, and have always believed in meeting "the one".

However, events over the last few years have made me quite cynical.. To the extent where I've thought "the one" is just a unattainable fantasy, and the reality probably is people get together and settle down when they have an appropriate level of attractiveness for each other and emotional compatibility.

Thoughts?
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There's no such thing as "the one", it's virtually a statistical impossibility. However there will be a number of people on the planet that could make you happy when you're with them in the form of a long term relationship. The number one factor determining the forming of a relationship between two people is proximity, i.e. time spent together, and that can happen for reasons other than just liking someone (work, social circles, etc).

The other thing you describe is "making do" and it happens too often. People get lonely, desperate, or just impatient so they go for the first option that they feel is appropriate for a whole host of silly reasons. Seen it happen a lot over the years.
 
Holliday said:
Lust - Shared Interests - Commitment - Love. If you can manage that with anyone then I'm sure they'd seem like 'The One' but I'm sure there are literally millions you could have the same feeling for, if not stronger.
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I was thinking this last night. Its lovely to think so, obviously there are certain people that you'll have strong feelings for more than others but i'm sure thats something which could be attained with many other people given the right circumstances.
 
Diagro said:
yes... Hence why i have been with her for 8 years and will be married soon.
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It is highly improbable that she is actually "the one"... The number of people who believe they have met "the one" is much higher than the actual probability.

And here is the thing, you cannot prove that she is "the one" either, you may now live in doubt, you're welcome.
 
We are programmed to get "OMG you are THE ONE" feelings.

We are also programmed to go off them after a while.

We're just animals. That feeling you get for someone else is nothing more than your body's way of making sure you reproduce. Same way the spark almost always dies out after 12/24 months unless you are an adult about things and work at it.

Skyfall said:
It is highly improbable that she is actually "the one"... The number of people who believe they have met "the one" is much higher than the actual probability.
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Much higher in probability because there is no such thing as the one and therefore it is impossible to find.

Marvt74 said:
Its lovely to think so
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It isn't really that lovely, it's kind of stupid :p
 
Skyfall said:
It is highly improbable that she is actually "the one"... The number of people who believe they have met "the one" is much higher than the actual probability.

And here is the thing, you cannot prove that she is "the one" either, you may now live in doubt, you're welcome.
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I have no doubt. She is the one
 
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