Do you believe in "the one"?

Diagro said:
I have no doubt. She is the one
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Amazing. So out of all the people in the world, you believe that you have been lucky enough to find her? The odds are insane. If you're that lucky or you believe that you can "cheat the odds" so to speak then are you also a gambler?

cHk4 said:
I always thought I was like Neo... Wait wrong type of "The One."

Yea I think there is "the one." Thing is most people settle as they are scared of being alone.
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Typical "singleton trying to convince themselves that they're single for the right reasons" post.
 
Possible. Though, I don't think the 'rule' applies to everyone. We are here to learn different things, not have a uniform, carbon copy existence.
 
No, i think its a daft idea. Ive been in 3 serious relationships, and each one has been "the one".
 
Well, theoretically there should be one person which is best suited for you in the world.

As common language may indeed be part of the suitability they will most likely be from the same country or one which shares a common language.

As we are mostly from the UK on this forum our "one" could be one of literally billions (due to the amount of people who can speak English) - so in all likeliness you will die never meeting the one person who would be optimal for you.
 
Theophany said:
Sure's there's ones.

There's this one, that one, the next one, the last one, the one that got away and the one buried under my patio.
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Actual lol to this....

But as already stated that no there isn't just "one"

I thought my last girlfriend was the one as I had been with her for 5 years, alas no she wasn't, I'm not Naive enough to think my current girlfriend is the "one" either.... yeah she is the girl I'm buying a house with and am planning marriage and kids with but that doesn't mean she is statistically the only one for me. As much as I dislike the guy, that youtube link by Tim Minchin is pretty accurate.
 
Well, Kelly Brook is The One for me but unfortunately she doesn't think i am The One for her. I wonder if a bit of chloroform will change her mind?
 
robgmun said:
Well, Kelly Brook is The One for me but unfortunately she doesn't think i am The One for her.
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Which is a good point, if "the one" really existed why is it celebrities almost always tend to marry other celebrities (or another rich person from business). Seldom does your Kelly Brook type end up with some plumber from Bristol.
 
Yes I am marrying her next year, however that is not to say if we had never met I wouldn't have met another "The One"

It is pointless to really think about else you would never commit, and with commitment comes the real rewards.
 
You only think you're with the one while you're with "the one", and for lots, thats during the initial stages.

Think how you feel with the girlfriend vs your exs. Very similar.

You only look for the one, while single. But in reality any one will do, aslong as you're attracted to her.
 
wannabedamned said:
You only think you're with the one while you're with "the one", and for lots, thats during the initial stages.

Think how you feel with the girlfriend vs your exs. Very similar.

You only look for the one, while single. But in reality any one will do, aslong as you're attracted to her.
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Very true.

I remember for years I thought one of my ex-girlfriends was 'the one' and that I'd lost it all. I got back with her for a month or so this year and very quickly realised what a bloody prat I'd been and how godawful she was at anything that didn't involve grunting. Needless to say, that was kicked to the kerb and a valuable lesson was learned.
 
I believe in love at first sight, but not necessarily 'the one', I say that because women are fantastic, limiting yourself to monogamy and just one for your entire life sucks, but unfortunately that's what we adhere to :-(
 
Humans are very good at administering placebos to themselves. Convincing yourself the person you happen to be sleeping with is "the one" is just an example.

It's the same as people who do boring jobs yet tell they "enjoy what they do". Fair enough if you're a professional sportsman or porn star but I don't believe that deep down an account (for example) actually 'enjoys' what they do (they wouldn't care about holiday entitlement or their pay if they really did).

In the same way people will subconsciously say to themselves "Well I'm going to working for 40+ years so rather than be miserable I might as well convince myself I enjoy it", it's more romantic to think that the partner you love is "the one" rather than the truth which is that you are experiencing a natural emotion designed to sustain the human race. It's a coping mechanism.
 
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