Do you believe in "the one"?

There will always be one person with whom you get on with better or feel more "at one" with. However, when you meet said person, you stop looking, ergo, there will not be any other "ones" out there for you - so effectively by meeting the love of your love you've effectively met "the one". :)
 
No, I don't believe in "the one" and find the idea of it pretty silly!

You can probably guess I'm not much of a romantic. :p
 
If you meet someone so close to you that it negates the need for anybody else, I would call that the One, wouldn't you?
 
ethan said:
If you meet someone so close to you that it negates the need for anybody else, I would call that the One, wouldn't you?
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No... Maybe "one of the Ones", as it's statistically likely there's loads of them, unless you're a bit of a ****. :p
 
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ethan said:
If you meet someone so close to you that it negates the need for anybody else, I would call that the One, wouldn't you?
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Not really as that implies that during most of your relationships you are perfectly open to other offers and would happily cheat on your partner.

I'd say I 'stopped looking' during every relationship I've had, I hate people who cheat or go out with people knowing full well they're just filling time until something better comes along.

Furthermore, there are plenty of people that will tell you they met 'the one', stopped looking but then fell in love with someone else later down the line.
 
TommyV said:
I believe in love at first sight, but not necessarily 'the one', I say that because women are fantastic, limiting yourself to monogamy and just one for your entire life sucks, but unfortunately that's what we adhere to :-(
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A lot of people think this, but at the same time, the chemical that make you fall in love do obviously wear off, but if we weren't meant to stay together forever or a long time, why does your body release some real gut wrenching chemicals when you split up.
There is no feeling on earth like heart ache. The two things for me conflict. Can have the argument that we shouldn't be with one woman if it hurts equally as much to leave as it does feel good to stay.
 
There are a handful of people you're likely to meet in your life who would classify as a great match, and who you are likely to be able to spend the rest of your life with...with some effort. There is no ultimate "The One" though, obviously. What does that even mean? Somebody you would never argue with, have constant and exclusive lust for, never get on each others nerves from time to time? Never. Going. To. Happen. Ever. :)

Some people are lucky and find an almost perfect match. I've been married for nearly 10 years and I'd say I was lucky enough to find somebody who could put up with me for a long time. We make a good team, we're good parents, and we clicked because we just seemed to understand each other the second we met. We've had some torrid times as well and almost split up about 3 years ago. But you work at it, accept that nobody is perfect (despite what you think when you first meet somebody...) and get on with life.
 
Is Mrs Dimple the one? Probably not.
Is she perfect for me? Definitely.
Am I perfect for her? No but she's been willing to put up with me for 38 years.
 
Where does "The One" end and obsession / fixation begin ?

I believe I have "the one" met a long time ago, we're not together, we have been a few times under different circumstances. I could go into full detail but most wouldn't read it and would simply pass judgement.

We've both had significant other relationships, yes you can be with any number of people in your lifetime and be close, truly connect and bond but it doesn't negate having one person you hold above all others.
 
'The One' phenomenon does exist. I know this because I married mine. We are, in most ways, the opposite of each other yet we work together so well. We share our money, our hopes, our fears, our love. We trust each other utterly. Infidelity or falling out of love is genuinely unthinkable. We support one another entirely. I could go on.

This sounds like something from a rom com, but we are pretty much the same person, yet not. Does that make sense?

We've been together for over a third of my entire life now and I love her more each day. Having said all that, I still cannot be arsed to plan ahead for Christmas presents. And she needs to tidy up her shoes.
 
I do, I married her.

You always know when she is the one when she can read your mind like a book and makes allowances for it.

I get 3 strikes, Look, glance, stare.. #whack!!!!!#


All the best

NEO
 
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