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hargi

hargi

hargi

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Just looking for some advice from parents. We are expecting our first child very soon. Now I have an idea what to expect but don't know for sure.

What I want to know is how much free time do you get when you have new borns? Reason I'm asking is my wife says its ok for me to keep playing golf but I'm aware that this takes around 5 hours up when I play ( traveling etc) my club membership is due on the 1st what I don't want to do is renew it if I'm not going to have time to play.or even will I want to go and play.

Really looking forward to it :-)
 
generally for the first few months they sleep a lot, when they are not sleeping they are feeding so first few months should be fine think i seen quoted around 18 hours a day etc and say its about right, i think from 4-6 months do they really kick in and start taking it all in, unless they have colic or similar.

How to work it is have another soon after, after the first few years they keep each other occupied and like the same toys etc so you save all around....i did not follow that and have a 6 year old and a 2 year old and they can fight like cat and dog sometimes (both girls) and the youngest is actually tougher due to having to fight for what she wants...

good times....enjoy...

edit: i think the biggest change is to what you do and when etc...no more just nipping out etc...its a pain to go anywhere without planning and panic if you forgot the nappies..
 
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When our son was born free time went out the window ( no more airsoft gameing paintball ect ) the time when baby is asleep ect was spent catching up on stuff like eating cleaning washing ect
 
Depends, some can take up all your resources and stretch you mentally, others are a walk in the park.
Wouldn't spend to much on the golf if I was you.
 
From a few weeks old train it to sleep through most of the night, at least 6 hours it will make your job so much easier.

Ask the midwifes for their advise.
 
Get a routine going straight away and sleep may be ok.

Free time? It depends on your Mrs, things to bear in mind:

It's very easy for her to say its fine now, but when you arrange a round of golf with your mates for Saturday and on friday night little one decides that their awake time is all through the night and your missus has been up all night do you think she will smile and say have a good time in the morning? You cannot predict how tired your going to be until its happening.

Also bear in mind any complications (sorry to put a downer on this exciting time), the bonding of the baby, baby's health, unforeseen complications etc...

You may not even feel like playing golf so much...

My advice is wait until baby is here and then decide.
 
You will have no free time and you will have to spend most of it placating your soon to be totally paranoid wife that the baby is ok if it so much as sneezes.

Kiss golf goodbye.
 
As mentioned your wife may think it will be ok for you to go golfing, the reality will most likely be different. I would hold off on the golf for a few years.
 
Personally I think you should give up any hope of a life or free time, then anything you may get will seem like a bonus. So get those clubs stashed in the loft/shed for the time being.
 
dottty27 said:
When our son was born free time went out the window ( no more airsoft gameing paintball ect ) the time when baby is asleep ect was spent catching up on stuff like eating cleaning washing ect
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Ours is two, we mostly still plan things around her and with her in mind.
In the beginning you will have as much free time as you want, assuming you couldn't be bothered to help your wife who will be shattered and won't be sleeping.
Honestly, even yet when the child sleeps we get things done, else one or other of us is with the child full time.

I wouldn't waste money on membership.
 
Cheers guys that was my feeling, go down the pay and play route if I get a pass out or a quick 9 before work. But was guessing a membership would not be worth it.
To be honest I'd rather spend money on kid then me.

Just need a hobby that doesn't take up much time.
 
I say give up the Golf,Your wife and child are more important...better time spent imo,On the plus side you will have more money as your not paying for the Golf.
 
get house membership of your current club so you don't have to pay a joining fee if you decide to rejoin - try this for a year or 2 and see how it goes

you can play golf again once the baby 18-21 or so....
 
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