New parents time planning

first 8 weeks not to bad, then injections....no sleep
2nd set of injections no sleep
3rd set of injectioons no sleep
teething no sleep

top tip, dont give up on your hobbies, thats both of you, just do it less
 
Sounds like either I'm very lucky, have a reasonably understanding wife or easy going kids...but I started jui jitsu in my second week of my paternity leave of my first born and haven't looked back since. Train twice a week and goto national competitions. Nothing has to stop, but you have to be very flexible.


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You need your "time out" - just like your wife will need time out.

Agree with poster a few above - keep your hobbies, you will need down time but you might also be limited to a one game of golf ever week or two. Enjoy it!

I've got 2 kids, 5 and 18 months, wife never asked me to stop playing golf and I'm lucky with work and kids if I get to play twice a month. HOWEVER - i've relaxed a lot more, knowing that i don't have the same amount of practise time at the golf and as such my handicapp has reduced from 12 to 8 whilst having 2 kids!!

Enjoy the baby, get a routine from day 1, and enjoy the golf when you get a chance and make sure your wife gets her "time out" with whatever she wants to do.
 
I stopped playing golf when my son was born, never regretted it at all. I still find time to game just not as often, time with family is the best and golf will be there when my kids don't think time with the old fart is much cop anymore :)
 
Good responses here. Like some said, I would stick with the golf, just less of it.

Hargi, the main thing is that you're not that other guy from OcUK (can't remember his name) who wanted to go out drinking all the time, while having a new-born.
 
I agree with the above, you need to keep your hobbies HOWEVER a 5-hour trip to go golfing is too long to be gone. Your hobbies need to be much smaller in time than that, 5 hours is a long time to be away at the weekends when your wife will need you to look after little one and give her a break.

Top tip - look for some nearby Daddy clubs to visit at the weekends once or twice a month :) Your wife will love the alone time, you will love the bonding time.
 
Lol no I have a pint every other week at pub quiz. That's the extent of my drinking.
Just had a look its 600 for the year or £15 for a round means I need 40 rounds to break even can't see it been worth it.

Really excited but don't know what to expect
 
You might as well sign your life away now m8!.

I've got 2kids! My girl is 6 and my boy is 3!. The only time I get to myself is when I'm working or traveling back an for from work!.

I know your wife said its fine but what she don't realise is that she is going to be so tired and want you to take over from so she can rest!.

It's hard m8 no time to yourself or with your wife or mates, it will get easy when they get old but the first 3years it's going to be hard!.
 
All the people that are saying you will have no free time and give up everything probably don't have kids.

You just have to have a balance, as said the newborn to 6 months or so is mainly feeding and sleeping a lot, once they start moving around and don't need naps you need eyes in the back of your head.

Pay as you play is definitely the way forward, compromise with the wife,i'm sure there is something she likes to do as a hobby.

Ps it's the best feeling in the world, you'll love it.
 
when my first girl was born, i was still touring, i made the birth, got the missus home and was off that same day.

was touring kids shows at that point, doing 4 days away, 3 at home,

no worries matey, im sure you will get the golf in. :cool:
 
hargi said:
What I want to know is how much free time do you get when you have new borns? Reason I'm asking is my wife says its ok for me to keep playing golf but I'm aware that this takes around 5 hours

Really looking forward to it :-)
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You won't get five minutes with a newborn. Go play golf, leave the wife at home with a demanding, crying baby. That may end in divorce.

Don't worry though, after the first 16 years or so you should be able to get the odd game of golf in.

This is your first child so I'll forgive the naïvety. :D. However, as has been said, don't give up on hobbies as you'll still need "down time" but that isn't going to be a five hour round of golf.
 
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Not sure how to respond to that, no local family, great friends network to visit, but not anything else asked of them, as for work I worked shifts, days, nights and weekends which probably meant I would spend more time at home during the day during the week than most but it was still full time. It just seemed to work, I didn't feel any extra pressure to stay home, we worked that we had equal amounts of time out of the house alone, but lots of time together with monty (our first born) then when prudence was born it was more of the same but ill admit to having slightly less alone time with the second. Now they are 5 and 7 and its easy, we all have clubs, its more difficult to sort out who is where and when.


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mollymoo said:
As mentioned your wife may think it will be ok for you to go golfing, the reality will most likely be different. I would hold off on the golf for a few years.
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hell we've got a 15 month old and free time is still hard to come by, even a couple of hours to ride the bike is hard to fit in.
 
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