What would you do? (job related)

that is what i hate about managers and bureaucracy. You can spend hours talking about what you intend to do, prioritising but that time could be better spend on actually DOING the work.

I understand planning is important but if he is calling you all hours/shouting etc, then that time could be well spent actually doing some work.

what is it that you do? doesnt he have a boss? dont you have an HR person?
 
Well, I took my time off and switched my phone off.

Cue this morning and what should have been my first day back. Got a long text from him last night saying that he ordered me to come in during my holidays, not just asked and that I had ignored him, everybody else was in working hard, etc and if that's how I wanted to play it then no more Mr Nice guy and he will do everything by the book. Oh I was to ring him urgently with no excuses even though it was New Year's Day.

Woke up and 3am and couldn;t get back to sleep, tossing and turning and stressing about my first day back and knowing it would just end up in an argument etc. Got up with the intent of going into to work and was physically sick. Decided enough is enough and if work is making this ill, time to do something about it rather than try and stick it out until another job comes up as I am verging on a complete breakdown.

So I have been to the doctor's this morning, now currently signed off from work for "work related stress" and currently on medication plus referred to a therapist.

Time to concentrate on me and get myself back to normal
 
The guy sounds like a ****** of the highest order.

Try not to think about work during this break, take the medication (even if it makes you feel funky at first), and if that tosspot rings you make sure you do not answer.
 
New Year and new beginning and all of that :)

Start to look after yourself a little more, in relation to your job - it is a fine line between being cooperative and accessible etc and then being abused. From what you describe you have been well and truly abused and thus very little or no respect between you and your boss.

Learn how to define boundaries etc - once you start to have a feeling of control you will feel better in yourself.

The best of luck :)
 
Greebo said:
Well, I took my time off and switched my phone off.

Cue this morning and what should have been my first day back. Got a long text from him last night saying that he ordered me to come in during my holidays, not just asked and that I had ignored him, everybody else was in working hard, etc and if that's how I wanted to play it then no more Mr Nice guy and he will do everything by the book. Oh I was to ring him urgently with no excuses even though it was New Year's Day.

Woke up and 3am and couldn;t get back to sleep, tossing and turning and stressing about my first day back and knowing it would just end up in an argument etc. Got up with the intent of going into to work and was physically sick. Decided enough is enough and if work is making this ill, time to do something about it rather than try and stick it out until another job comes up as I am verging on a complete breakdown.

So I have been to the doctor's this morning, now currently signed off from work for "work related stress" and currently on medication plus referred to a therapist.

Time to concentrate on me and get myself back to normal
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Well done, as much as its horrible for you its had to get this bad I am sure just the relief of taking some action has improved your wellbeing.

Try to avoid just sitting around though, go for some walks, speak to some friends etc. Also your off with a non-physical ailment so you can do some physical activities which will help keep your mind off just thinking it over and over so maybe perfect time to do some DIY or something.

Good time to fix the CV and possibly speak to a few agencies. They normally want to see a CV then sit down with you, so its quite a time consuming process.

If your not AAT qualified and think its an option for you, suggest a trip to Waterstones and buy the textbooks, go and have a look at them and see what you think. (They are only about £30 each). This will help keep your mind active.
 
take care of yourself matey, this will all seem much easier after some sleep and rest, and knowing you are actively doing something about this,

his tune will change now, he is a bully, and one thing bully's are not is stupid, they know when the game is up, and they change tact, that is what makes them good at it.

when he does, dont be fooled, take advise now, and fight back against this

good luck and keep us posted matey
 
In my last role it was horrible environment too (nothing approaching what you had OP, but bad enough) and whilst I managed to leave on good terms I did just resign in the end.

Family life and my own life are much more important. I used to have sleepless nights and the ret stressing over my las job, really not worth it!

Good luck OP and all the best!
 
Shouldn't let anybody effect you this badly pal.
This guy sounds an idiot, treat him like one. Follow your contract to the letter and whatever he wants to try and do, let him. Can't sack you for being 100% in line with your contract.

Maybe write a letter/email to him explaining how you are now in the situation you are in. As that way it can be read on his own time and he can see you have put some time into explaining how you are feeling.
 
Pestilence said:
Take a massive crap on his desk. Make sure you're in well early, though, so he doesn't see.
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disagree

Take a massive crap on his desk while he is sat there. Then point at your freshly laid curler and say 'smell that and know what you are' before calmly walking back and sitting down behind your own desk.
 
Just read through this thread, dont think i should have that made my a bit angry for you. I would have snapped and shouted at him maybe even doing something stupid.
Im glad you are doing the right thing and getting out of there:)
 
Well done on being proactive.
Now, take the opportunity with the time that you have to finally rid yourself of this bloodsucker. Get legal advice, get your CV up to date, get your house in order, get some sleep (don't you dare answer the phone to him - in fact, email him saying all contact between you must be in writing!) get some quality time with the Mrs and most of all, get some sleep!

Treat this as the first day of the rest of your new, freer life!

Good luck and keep us posted...
 
why oh Why did you turn your phone back on new years day?!

You should have come back into work as planned and at 9am then switched your phone on.

I can't help but think hiding from the issue isn't going to help, you'll just sit at home worrying about eventually going back.
 
Teknobry said:
why oh Why did you turn your phone back on new years day?!

You should have come back into work as planned and at 9am then switched your phone on.

I can't help but think hiding from the issue isn't going to help, you'll just sit at home worrying about eventually going back.
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Cause it was my private phone and wanted to check happy new messages from friends?

Not hiding, trying to get myself straight.
 
Good luck to you Greebo, I think you've done the right thing. Hope you start to feel better with some time off and support from your Doctor, and I'm sure you've made the right decision for your long-term wellbeing.
 
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